my mother is replacing me!!!!

yeah, that's right, it's frightening nowadays to leave ur kids to strangers... u'll never know what they'll gonna do with ur kids... i really dont trust that much... so i am into ur decision of letting ur mom look after ur child when ur working... but u have to live with her sermons and lectures... :)... well i think that are moms really are like.... but the most difficult thing that might happen is that ur kids may become spoiled brats.... i hope not.... u should be the one who will discipline ur kids...

Can I sugguest FLEXIBILITY - Both you and your Mum have something really in common now, your daughter. She CARES...give her credit, she raised you did nt she? Some would kill to have a mothers help and security and peace of mind. But I am in your Mums situation, and you have made me reflect on the boundaries that we all need to set up. And I find my relationships have altered, perhaps she needs to think about this. You aint her LITTLE GIRL any more, she needs to offer ADVICE not dictate it. I know, cos I do it!!! mmmmm.....

ohh yesss!! i will tell you what..my mom is doing that to my sister!! They live right beside each other..and they are very close to begin with..well my sister has a girl..and my mom has taken over as the mother ..and whats sad is that my sister is 31, and she still listen to whatever my mom says and everything..if She says no..and gramma says yes..and thats how its gona be all the time!! Wendy isnt the mom.gramma is!! It rediculous..i would never ever allow my mom to take over my child..and wose../forget i existed! she zones Wendy all the time..But i guess wendy is to blame because shes letting it happen and not standing up for her self and telling her that mom isnt the mother and what she says goes!!..soo i guess she is just getting what shes letting happen ya know?

This happens even if your mom isn't living with you. I am 44 have daughters 22, 14 and 12 and I still hear from their grandmother how I should be raising them. I suppose it is their right of passage since they are old and feel they are wiser. When my mom was alive she too did that to me. Not to worry it is just a mom thing. You can talk to her and it will probably stop for a while but remember she is your mom she is used to telling you what to do*L* Remind her that you do not like lecturing but will take advice. Just take the good advise and let the other advise slide. I know it is hard to ignore it but if you don't you will only drive yourself nuts. Good luck and welcome to motherhood!

Try to have a heart to heart with her. Let her know that you appreciate everything that she has done to help, but you feel like you are not able to be involved as a parent. Tell her you love her, and you want to work together. Best wishes.

I think that it is great that you have help from your mom to take care of your daughter. i don't blame you, I don't like strangers to watch my daughters either. I guess it's because I'm over protective and I want to make sure that nothing that isn't suppose happen doesn't happen. However I know the feeling of being irrated when Mom trys to tell me what to do for my daughter. Hey, Now adays I just let her say what shewants. that way she express her self and do what i know is best for my daughters. Well i wish you louck. just have patience everything is going to be alright.