Who Do You Need To Forgive?

That's cool. I can definitely understand that. I can be pretty hard on myself sometime. I think I am a bit of a perfectionist, but believe me it is no day in the park when that kicks up.

Yah, i guess so too.. Sometimes u noe u made mistake and trys too hard in certain things... But i guess life gets on no matter how... So just stay cool...

I know that this is very painful. I was molested as a child and it leaves your not only angry, but scarred. But there is no reason for you to feel dirty, because you did nothing wrong. But you know what I am thinking, how screwed up in the mind do you have to be to sleep with, not only a child, but your own niece. When my first niece was born, I was only eighteen years old, but it completely blew me away. There was no way in the world I would do anything to hurt her. These are the people in our lives that we put above all else. So if he himself hurt you, then he had to be pretty sick. There is no excuse for that. There is nothing that you ever did to cause him to do that to you. He needed help. Not only do you need to forgive him for being sick, you need to forgive yourself for blaming yourself for so long. I know that it is hard to think of this as a sickness, because it is inflicted on another and it does terrible harm, but this is not the way an uncle should ever behave, so he was sick.

For me, it is hard for me to hate someone like this. The reason is, I can't help but feel sorry for them. If you know that you are not doing anything to cause her to act that way toward you, then apparently SHE has a problem. If you learn to look at her with compassion, you wont hate her so much. Especially, since you say she is like that toward everyone. I can tell you for certain, no man in his right mind likes a mean woman and that I will swear by.