Women: Will you take your husband's last name?

My fiance's sister in law as the same middle name as me and I absolutely despise her. So becuase of this, I'm going to keep my name, but put his name at the end. Not hyphenate, but have four different names. If I remember correctly, my mother did that as well. Her maiden name sort of morphed into a middle name.

I did and I agree with you. I don't get why people don't. It's not about "losing yourself", its about showing that you are together. That is all! It makes it easier for everyone if you share the same last name, otherwise you have ppl asking all the time b/c they are confused. Plus then your kids come and you either have to give them one name, or a dash name, or whatever. The weirdest thing for me in school was having friends with a different last name then their mom (and it wasn't b/c of divorce, it was b/c the mother didn't take the name!) So... just take the dang last name, it's easier. Nothing shows you are attached more than "Mr. and Mrs. xxx".

When I married, long long ago I did take my husband's name. However, I found something uncomfortable about it. My first and new surname sounded okay, nothing too unbalanced. But it never looked right when I wrote it. And it stayed in my consciousness that everytime I had to sign my new name it was uncomfortable. As time went on in my marriage I felt I had lost my identity. (But interestingly I also discovered that I never really knew myself anyway). This changing of names can be simple, effortless, or uncomfortable. Depends on how easily you can slip into your 'new' role. It does create a shift in your identity, well it did for me. I personally had trouble being identified as someone's wife, I was losing me in the package. As it turned out not too many years later I divorced and I took my family name back. As it happens you are always known by your family name or it is legal to use it. So now I am comfortable with my original family name but it doesn't mean I will not take a new name in future. But I would definitely think about whether it's necessary to change my name. The only reason it gets messy not to change is if there are children and their mum and dad have a different surname.

In my case it is my tradition to do so, I don't think I can go against that and no reason why I wouldn't take my husband's last name for me. I know some people still keep their marriage name after divorce.

I think so, and he is thinking and take my name too, but the name is going to be big _

well, it is to you woman to choose and it depends on your husband sha, for me my wife will bear my surname I dont know the sha.

i would love to take my partner name on when i marry him, i believe when your marrying them thats whole part of it as well your becoming him(well if you know what i mean)

I am not yet married yet but if ever i have a relationship with a guy then i love him very much and we got married then i will accept or take my husband's last name because if you marry a person its a package all negative and positive side of your husband of in getting married.

I took my husbands last name when we got married last year but I still use my maiden name for some things. After all, I was a Delor for 37 years...its kinda hard not to use it lol. LIVE IN PEACE

I wouldn't because I like my name better than his, simple as that. mine's more unusual. I've told him that I would be willing to double barrel it (his is just one syllable) but only if he did the same. fairs fair. I grew up, like most people with my dads surname, and changed it to my mums surname as soon as I could, seeing as she raised me. because I chose to use it, I suppose I'm a bit more protective of it.

yes i thinks it will be right for a woman to have is husband name cos has long he has marry the man she is now a member of the family and

It depends on what family name my husband has.If it's a nice one i definately will take his name if not than i'd rather keep my own.

Hi breepeace! I got married in the year 1982. I had told my husband that i will keep my fathers name and won't take his name. He had no issues to that. He respects my individuality and i also did not think that i need to sacrifice it.

I took my late husband's last name but I switched back to my maiden name. If ever I marry again, I'll keep my maiden name or hyphenate it. I see no reason why I should have to go through the legalities of changing my name. If he wants us to have the same last name, he can change his. The main reason is because my son has my last name, and I'd like to have the same as his.

I am thinking of my last name with his last name. Hyphen it.

There is no way in h3ll I'll ever take my husband's last name. I am who I am, and he is who he is, and neither one of us should have to change. Marital name change is an ancient and archaic tradition stemming from the days when a woman was a man's property, being handed from her father (his last name) to her husband (his last name) and that's what that tradition represents. I ended up taking a name from my mother's family because I wanted a Danish last name, since I was already a citizen of the country of my father's birth. I go by "Ms." and the name I chose, and legally took. My boyfriend loves my decision and PREFERS that I NOT change my name to his, upon our marriage. Why should I do i, when men rarely do? Why should either one of us have to change our names? No way, not in a million years, and not for a million dolars!!!!

well in my country, woman doesn't take her husband's family name. she just remains her own family name. in fact,in my country, family name is the first name.

Hi,breepeace! In China,now women needn't take their husband's last name after they get married.But if a Chinese woman want to marry a foreign man,your discussion is worth to talking. I'm not married yet and if I will marry a foreign man,I don't want to take his last name.I think keeping my name means that I'm not only your wife but also an independent woman.

it is the law to take the man's last name, right, because i think all the countries do it that way