are you a good wife?

This has to be some old advice. None of these things are the makings of a good wife in my book. Here's my top ten list: 1. BE YOURSELF. Your husband doesn't want to be with some robot woman, he wants you to be real. Don't always give in to whatever he wants... if you have an opinion, speak up! 2. COMMUNICATE. Husbands are not mind-readers. If you hate getting chocolates on Valentine's Day, tell him what you would prefer. If you do'nt like the restaurant that he's chosen for your anniversary dinner, say so. But be nice about it... part of communication is respect for the other person's feelings. 3. BE HAPPY TO SEE HIM. This is the only one from the previous list that I agree with. 4. BE OPEN TO NEW THINGS. Share in his interests if you can. Maybe you do'nt enjoy football, but he really does. Try to watch a game with him sometimes. It will help you understand him better, and he'll appreciate the gesture. 5. MAKE TIME FOR HIM. Things can get busy with the kids and the errands and the housework, but you have to spend time together as a couple if you want to have a successful marriage. It can be a little time each day, or a weekly date night. 6. ACCEPT HIS FLAWS -- AND YOUR OWN. Nobody's perfect. His nasty habit of hanging his dirty underwear on the doorknob is not a cause for divorce. You probably do some pretty gross things too. 7. TRY TO GET ALONG WITH HIS FAMILY. You may not like them, and they may not like you. But at least try to be civil. And don't complain about his family to him, unless he starts the conversation, and even then, tread lightly. If it's a major problem, such as his mother spanking your kids when you're a non-spanking household, that's one thing, but if it's not a huge deal, let it go. You do'nt want to burden him or cause a rift between him and his family. 8. TRY TO GET ALONG WITH HIS FRIENDS. Same rules as number 7. 9. SUPPORT HIM IN HIS ENDEAVORS. If he's nervous about going for that promotion at work, help him find the confidence he needs. If he has always dreamed of writing a novel, encourage him. In the same token, he should encourage you to follow your dreams. Marriage is about helping one another grow, not holding each other back. 10. TELL HIM THAT YOU LOVE HIM. Every day.

I think those steps were made for how to please a king. Don't forget to please yourself! I think that textbook was writen by a male chauvinist. If you can accomplish two or three of these things your husband should be pleased1 Take care Freeshia.

I think the most important thing which needs to be kept in mind is that he is loved deep from the heart and i am there with him during thick and thin. This would be just enough to be a good wife. My husband thinks i am and has much more reason to feel so the way i managed the situation when he met with an accident 4 years ago. He was in bed with a brain clot, broken shoulder bones, hip bone and finger bone but i was always there by him never caring about myself day and night taking care of him. Those days and till date he still remembers those days and says he could not have asked for more. I think these are the times when you can show you are for him and how much you care. These acts are much more important in making a strong relationship than just being a good wife.

LOL I love stuff like this cause its just SO OUT THERE! I AM a great wife and my husband agrees so what some suggestion list says isnt important to me....but here's my personal thoughts on whats on this list ;-) 1. HAVE DINNER READY. This is a way of letting men know that you have been thingking about him. - If I'm not in the damn mood to have "dinner ready" he can SUCK IT UP BUTTERCUP..just because i dont go to work anymore doesnt mean I dont ahve good days and bad days... 2. PREPARE YOURSELF. Be a little gay and a little more interesting, his boring day may need a lift. - If I were any more interesting that man would have a heart-attack LOL I'm fine just the way I am and I WAS NOT put on this earth to be anyones entertainment..I'm NOT a cartoon! 3. CLEAR AWAY THE CLUTTER. Your husband will feel he has reached a haven of rest and order, and it will give you a lift, too. - meh....I have 2 kids, 2 dogs and 4 cats...there is NO SUCH THING as order in my house, this is a house thats "lived in"...if he wants order that flippin bad he can either go to his room or move back in with his mother! 4.BE HAPPY TO SEE HIM. - sometimesm I am....sometimes I'm not..and if for whatever reason I'm not there is no way in hell I'm fakin it for him LOL 5. GREAT HIM WITH WARM SMILE AND SHOW SINCERITY IN YOUR DESIRE TO PLEASE HIM. - LOL I don't "desire" to "please" anyone...I dont give a crap who it is... 6.MINIMIZE THE NOISE. Try yo encourage the children to be quite. - OH HELL NO! My children are encouraged to live and laugh...this is a home not a hospital or library..I love hearing my kids enjoying life...the ONLY time I have them hush up is when my husband isnt feelign well or is in bed sleeping 7.MAKE HIM COMFORTABLE. Have him lean back in a comfortable chair or suggest he lie down in the bedroom. - Pfft....jeez the guy is in his 40s for cryign out loud, if he hasnt figured out how to make HIMSELF comfortable at this point then he's pretty much screwed as far as I'm concerned LOL 8. LISTEN TO HIM. You may have a dozen things to tell him, but the moment of his arrival is not the time. Let him talk first. - BAH! if I have something to rant about the minute he walks in the door I'M RANTING...and he'd much prefer it anyway since i'm the type that if I DONT let things out I become very difficult to be around..and NOBODY in this house wants me like that 9. MAKE THE EVENING HIS. Never complain if he does not take you out to dinner or to other places of entertainment; instead, try to understand his world of strain and pressure, his need to bt home and relax. - if he wants me to understand his pressures etc he'd best bloody well understand mine as well... 10.THE GOAL: Try to make your home a place of peace and order where your husband can relax. - my home is just that..a Home...its a home where love flows freely, a home where children live, love and laugh, a home of comfort and cheer..."order" in this house would NOT make it a place to relax, it would make it a tense environment and that is unacceptable ;-)

I just hope I am :)

My reality is as a wife and a mom - I will not do these things just because it's "suggested". My husband comes home to a home (not just a house) that is clean (if not neat) and dinner is ready to be eaten once he's ready to eat. Our children are always happy to see him and love to hug him once he's in the house and our dogs have to give him their welcome home as well. My husband loves his greetings, and that brightens his day. Once he's in and has put his things down, he likes to unwind at the computer for a few minutes and then have a shower and then we all sit down for dinner. If my husband feels I am a good wife, this "quiz" isn't going to tell me any different - and I don't think any woman should be made to feel she's not good enough just because some book says so. Go with what you know. Just my opinion.