Getting to the root of Unhappiness

I think my oldest is like this. She causes her own misery and depression. IF she would just change her attitude and TRY to make her life better, she wouldn't be so depressed. I foretold this, when she was young. That she would be dissatisfied with life, unhappy, and depressed, because she expected everyone to always do everything for her. I'll tell you how I knew this would happen and what caused it........... I was a single parent, and her father took her for visits every other weekend, to his parent's house, where he lived. So, they spoiled her rotten, gave her everything her heart desired, new fancy clothes, expensive dolls and toys....all of which she was not allowed to bring home with her. It was only for her when she was with them. So, when she left on a Friday, they had to pry her out of my arms, crying, as a baby. Then, when she came back on Sunday evening, same thing, only reversed, she would cry and I would have to pry her out of their arms.....because they had 'bought her love' with THINGS. She became very material, as a result. She became very demanding, expecting to get HER way all the time. She would have temper tantrums when she didn't get her way....throwing herself on the ground, kicking and screaming at the top of her lungs. She would take things from her baby sister when she got older, and claim "It is mine!". She would never eat whatever I offered her. She seemed to think I was as rich as they were and could just whip something else up...to her order. My financial resources were very limited, especially since her father never paid any of his child support. So, I could not afford to buy her everything she had a whim for, and honestly, I didn't believe that was the right way to raise a child anyway. I felt it would make her expect everyone else in her life to if it was done in her childhood. So, as it turned out, I became the bad guy to her. I did not give in to her temper tantrums as her father and his family did and as a result, she spent the first week and a half back home with me (after her visits to her Dad's) being miserable and making me miserable....CONSTANTLY. She defied everything, she fought everything, nothing was good enough for her. She wouldn't even let me hug her. Then, finally, when there were only about 2 days left before her father was to pick her up for another visit, we would get along and things would go back to normal. Unfortunately, she would go for another weekend visit and the whole terrible cycle would start all over again. When she was 17, she ran away, and told everyone it was because I abused her. Shortly after she ran away, she said that her father had molested her every time that she visited with him. Unfortunately, I don't believe her totally. I told her I did at the time, but I am still unsure. She lied alot, still does, and I chalked that up to her father's influence because he was a LIAR, which IS the reason I left him. I was a tough Mom, because she was a tough child. There was no pleasing her...not ever. Now she turns that around in lies saying that there was nothing she could do to please me. She is an expert at manipulation...like her father. She has always played "pity me" her whole life, even when there was nothing to pity her for...she would make things up. She was very good at it.

There is so many factors to consider really why one is unhappy with his/her life actually. All of us have our own set of problems, different lives we live. It's up to us how we compensate with our problems. Every individual got the power and will over their sufferings and it's up to us how we handle certain circumstances. . On a personal note, i'm not happy with the way things going on with my life right now. But i have no choice, got no resolutions over my problems. Its very difficult, as much as i've wanted to surpass and overcome those trials.. its still there and wont go. I know one day everythings will be on tip top shape for me but i just take everything as a challenge. Spice in my life. God only knows the answer my friend.