Is it too much to expect flowers?

It seems that he is just going along for the ride and not participating. He sounds very selfish and self centered. If your husband is not even performing in the bedroom, this makes life very difficult. It is not too much to ask for flowers. You shouldn't have to ask! Especially on a special day such as your anniversary! This is the day to honor each others commitment. It appears that he doesn't value you or the commitment you both made! He chose a restaurant that he liked and knows you don't like. Maybe that is the message right there! He doesn't care what it is that you think. It is easy to go along as if there is nothing wrong, but why do it? Why live an empty life? Life is way to short to do that! Hon, I truly hope you think this through, really you should sit him down and tell him your unhappy and lonely in this loveless marriage and if things don't change, then your marital status will change. Maybe that will wake him up, if you have already done this, then maybe it's time to make the threat a reality. Communication is the key to a successful marriage, if there is none or there is only one person trying it will never work, you will end up a lonely person in a room with a stranger. It sounds like you are there already. I know how this feels. I have been there. I finally chose to leave after 10 years of the crap. Take care and I truly hope you can remedy the situation.

I think it is time you had a talk with him. You need to tell him how you feel and ask him what he wants to do about it. If he loves you you nad he can work it out. I think if you want to make it work. You have to remember he has to want it to. You have to communicate or it will fail for sure.

LOl taht realyl sucks, unfortuantly that's what often happens when you've been together for a long time... Tell him how you feel instead of posting here :-)

My hubby can't even tell me how many years together we have been! I take it all with a grain of salt though as I know he may forget the small stuff but he is there when I really need him. It takes quite a few years to train a man, don't give up, one day he may be just like you want him.

Why not try talking to him and telling him how you feel. I know the feeling to be honest with you I have been with my hubby 8 years married 7 and I feel the same way at times. But if you fell like this all the time I would have a talk with him. Maybe go to get some counseling.

I think you need to let him see this posting! I have been married 39 years this October, and its taken a long time and a lot of hard work for both of us to create a strong and happy marriage. Sorry to tell you seven years is just the beginning, talk, communicate and talk some more. It takes a while, read Women are from Venus and Men are from Mars, thats a brilliantly helpful book, I only wish I had read it years ago! Good luck !