ever fell for someone who dont feel the same way?
By gellah
@gellah (193)
Philippines
May 20, 2007 12:43am CST
Me? I dont fall easily for someone who dont feel the same way. Every man whom I loved had the same mutual feeling. I dunno why. How about you?
8 responses
@marsha32 (6631)
• United States
22 May 07
Going thru that right now! I have fallen so hard....and he said the same...said he loved me so much he wanted to just crawl up inside me. We moved in together. That went bad right from the start almost. He stopped telling me he loved me long before we moved out, which was a few months ago.
When I ( and my 2 daughters) moved out the agreement was that we were still going to see each other,do things together, remain bf/gf.
Now, all the sudden he calls to tell me he wants to just be friends....at least until he finds someone he can live the rest of his life with. He had that with me!! I guess nothing I can do to make him love me again tho :(
I cry on and off all day long as I think about it and don't know what to do. I really want him to e the one I spend the rest of my life with.
Marsha
@gellah (193)
• Philippines
22 May 07
oh i see. im nt really good with advices but as of my experiece, let the pain remain. dont try to elude the things that reminds him of you, be open for pain cos it will be there. just have faith in God that someday, you will be over him and everything will be normal. who knows? someone might come and he will be the one you've been waiting for. the one who's gonna treat you like a princess. Think of this as an opportunity to become a better person. spend time with your kids cos i know they're the only ones who can give you such happiness.
"love hurts when God knows we deserve someone else"
:)
@H2hydrogenz (574)
• Indonesia
22 May 07
i don't agree loves hurt. For all the pain that i have been through i don't think loves hurt. I feel that sort of pain because i'm still human, and those pain makes loves grow bigger and bigger everyday
@marsha32 (6631)
• United States
22 May 07
thanks for the comments. I feel this one is going to hurt for a very long time.
I do trust that the Lord is leading my life. Either he will come around and change his mind or he is not the one the Lord intended for me.
Problem, of course is that I'm 41 and still not found the "one"?
Marsha
@H2hydrogenz (574)
• Indonesia
22 May 07
Hmm can i ask you about something.
What if you fell for someone, but you wait him because you want to know his feeling for you first, so you can have a mutual feeling with him. But strangely that guy also wait for you to tell him your feeling, so he can have a mutual feeling with you too. If this case happen what do you do?
@H2hydrogenz (574)
• Indonesia
22 May 07
Hmm i never expected those kind of response. There are only little cases like that and most of them eventually don't know both feeling for each other.
For me mutual feeling is the second thing on my mind. The first thing is being honest to my self
@gellah (193)
• Philippines
22 May 07
hello! THAT actually happened to me already and he was m last ex :) what i did is that i showed him how i care for him, and that i dont want him to get harmed. though that time, he already admitted that he admires me a lot. but that is no big deal here. it was just a crush. but secretly, i liked him too but since im a girl, i dont wanna give in first. that's why we stayed good friends for a while, and as time passed by, it seems everthing is getting special. i care for him and reciprocated it until he finally asked me if he could court me :) just show that you care so that one daw will come that he will realize that he cant afford losing you, thus, resulting for him to tell the truth. hope i helped!:)
@desertking1981 (455)
• India
25 May 07
It is very difficult for me to fell for someone who dont feel the same way.
@amplified27 (492)
• Philippines
22 May 07
Yeah, it was painful since he was my first love. He was a cute guy though I didn't really care for his appearance that much. I prefer the attitude because looks are disregarded if his personality stinks right? But I do want someone who's decent to look at and you'll be proud to say you love/like him.
Anyway, to answer your question yeah. I haven't known someone who had mutual feelings for me who I love recently. I learn there were some, but I only learned them after years of not being together, the best example is my classmate who had a crush on me when we were in 3rd grade but just learned it this year! Haha, when I recall it I just smile to myself.
It's hard to fall for someone who doesn't like you back but life's that so I ought to move on then cry all day just because that's what happened. :)
@thedebbie (58)
• United States
22 May 07
I was single for a while and found that it was difficult to be on the same page as a man as far as feelings go. either I dug him and he didnt return the feelings or he dug me and I didnt return it. took a long time to find the right guy.
@lonely_f16 (2146)
• Philippines
20 May 07
well, sadly,i fell twice to people who I thought have feelings for me but in reality, I was just dreaming. I just hope that the feelings will not come back because I don't like anymore to expect anything.
@sheryl_natividad (154)
• Philippines
20 May 07
i feel that one. its so hard to fall inlove when sumone who doesnt feel the same way as you do. he just takin you for granted. that's the worst feelin i ever felt and i dnt want that to happen again
