More to Life Than Paper Qualifications
By zandi458
@zandi458 (28102)
Malaysia
May 20, 2007 7:01am CST
It was really disturbing to read about a student who took her life after she received her final year school results. Academic education is important but it is not the means to all ends. Each one of us has certain skills, capacities and interests. These constantly change. There are very successful business people today who did not even complete formal studies. What do you think of our present society putting pressure on their children to chase for paper qualifications.
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12 responses
@H2hydrogenz (574)
• Indonesia
20 May 07
Hello zandi458, i know this is hard, because i'm one of those victim. It's really hard. This where parent suppose to takes action in easing children's life. Unfortunately most parents are not like that, Well that's life. Now i want to continue my master degree. I'm not doing this to earn more and more money or just to have a degree, i'm doing this to make this world a better place to live.
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@H2hydrogenz (574)
• Indonesia
21 May 07
Thanks Zandi458, i want to discuss about this to day wait for my discussion ok.
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@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
20 May 07
Hi H2hydrogenz, I see that you are doing well and have got the papers people are aiming for a better life. Ofcourse there is no limit to learning. The more learned a person you are the better. My son has completed his first degree and is working in a French company. I did pop the question of him furthering his studies to do his masters but as he told me he wants to gain some working experience before thinking about his masters. I respect his wishes afterall experience is the main criteria in a technical profession. He is a geophycist. All the best wishes in your future undertakings.
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@liranlgo (5752)
• Israel
20 May 07
I think that it all starts and ends with are closest surroundings, and that means our family, how much we are close to them, and how they did educate us.
I know alote of families that things that education is the most important thing, and a child feels that pressure and thinks that if he is not doing well at school, he is a failure as a person in real life. Those children are later on becoming adults that thinks like they were teached. The pressure is very large, and once they fail, they do see as the end of the world and act the same way as this girl acted.
I think that is terrible.
@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
21 May 07
Parents should mould their children in every aspect of life and not pressure them to excel in their studies. Not all children are academically successful, we should recognize children with their inborn abilities and make them feel that they are important. In order to this, parents must let go of their self-interest and accept their children as they are. Through this, they will gain the confidence to pursue and develop their latent abilities. Children like adult want to feel great. They want to be useful, valued, acknowledged and respected. Pressurized children take failures in exams as the end of the road and without parents giving moral supports they see no value to life anymore.
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@soccermom (3198)
• United States
20 May 07
What a shame this girl felt she had to take her own life over something like that. I think our society does put to much emphasis on getting a degree. I admit, it's not like it was when I was a kid, when you only needed to complete high school and had more "on the job training" opportunities. There is a billboard in our town that has a sullen looking teenager onit and the message says "99% of all QUALITY jobs require an education beyond high school. Go to college." I don't have a college education and I havea great job in the insurance business. A college degree is great, but not worth killing yourself over.
@huggiebear22 (2007)
• Canada
20 May 07
I think the high mark is not as important as the hard work that went into getting it and the sacrfices these students made i have worked with people who had degrees but were lazy and thought that cause i did nto have a degree that i should eb the flunky, boy were they wrong.
Reminds me of that joke
What does a person with a degree in liberal arts say?
Want fries with that?
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@huggiebear22 (2007)
• Canada
21 May 07
Not true being an honour student just makes getting some place easier adn the student that work hard get there too just take more work adn effort.
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@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
21 May 07
If one is not an honours student, he comes unworthy of special attention, and if he ranks low, his is no good. On the other hand, honours students also live in constant fear lest they fail to uphold their status. Therefore, whether you are a top student or not, life holds no pleasure.
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@ellie26 (4139)
• Malaysia
20 May 07
Hello zandi458, I think having a paper qualification is great because it is a passport for better earning. But putting pressure on children to get good results is not healthy. For one, the children will be in constant fear of getting scolded or punished if they failed to produce good grades. Constant fear can cause a lot of tension, stress and depression to children. If they cannot produce good grades, it is not their fault but their parents.
@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
20 May 07
Who to blame, ofcourse is the parents who are too ambitious. The parents have a part to play on the child education. They can monitor their children's interest, guide and encourage them to pursue what they are good at and not harp on academic qualifications alone.
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@miaolin (397)
• China
20 May 07
It's so ridiculous to measure a student by his school results.Academic education is important but it doesn't mean it's all of a student's life.They have a lot of other aspects to develop,so it's wrong of parents to focus all their attention on the school results of their child.
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@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
20 May 07
Parents should allow their children to go on their pace and not pressure them. They are 10 siblings in my family and my parents did not drive us to study so hard. We managed to pass our exams with flying colours and now we are all having good life to be proud of.
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@syain1972 (1011)
• Singapore
21 May 07
Yes our society is at fault for cultivating the need for Academic excellence. Too much basis on this has given too much stress to our children. Even, the country's policy for elitist in education have contributed to much unhappiness amongst our school going children. I think there is a need for change whereby children are able to cultivate their positive traits and skills rather than just academic excellence. I myself being a parent of school going children can feel the stress the children are going through..... Sad isn't it.....Sigh
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@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
21 May 07
The strong believe that paper qualifcations brings prestige drives students to be very competitive and they are not equiped with facing failures. The task of transforming society starts at the individual and family level. Therefore it is better to change now before time forces us to change.
@msjigga (864)
• United States
21 May 07
Oh my goodness that is so terrible because I know so many people who didn't even finish high school or go to college and they are living very sucessful lives. I also know people who have more degrees than a thermometer and have never worked anywhere great or done anything but went to school and are struggling to find work because they have no experience. Life is what you make of it not always your qualificatiions.
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@golfproo (1839)
• Canada
22 May 07
I really think that is the way our society has become. It is a competitive society whih is looking for every edge that they can get. Often what this means is a huge amount of pressure and expectations. Too often this pressure is put upon children and young adults. All in all, I think society has changed over the years, and this is the result.
cheers
@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
21 May 07
I don't dispute that paper qualifications is necessary to go up in the ladder of success in any given career but failing to get does not mean it is the end of struggle in life. The options are wide to succeed in life. We have to meet many failures before we become successful.
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@toby1054 (1)
• United States
20 May 07
Of course there is a lot of learning that takes place apart from formal schooling, but I think it is a good idea overall. While they system is not perfect a degree helps other people to recognize your level of competence. It provides a way for others to compare your level of training.
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@michaelalwynrabago (256)
• Philippines
21 May 07
I don't intend to argue in this situations because I too am pressured by mere school paper qualifications.
For me, It is a means of making a student responsible in his/her way of studying. Making the student more qualified for the job that lies aheasd of them.
So to speak, I just hope I can land a job because I am an College undergraduate. I prefer Call centers because I think that can help me raise my family.
Thank you zandi458 for your wonderful discussion.
I hope you can add me as your friend! More power!
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@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
21 May 07
When you are a student you have the responsiblity towards your studies. Gain as much knowledge as possible to equip yourself for a better future. For only through education we can come out of the vicious cycle of poverty. If you are knowlegeable nobody can take away your wealth of knowlege. But by all means it is not the only thing that makes up our life. We also need spiritual knowledge to remain humble and level-headed. Those without paper qualifications can come out of life equally successful if they have made used of their abilities to earn a living. Ofcourse I welcome you to be in my friends list. Just press the button 'add as a friend'.
@eachen2002 (889)
• United States
21 May 07
I had alot of academic problems growing up.I know it's an important thing in life but so is living it.
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