Why do they fight so much?

Telling them not to fight is NOT going to help. You have to take action. For example you say they fight over where to sit at the dinner table. So make assigned seats, then every one will always know where they are sitting. And make it fun have the kids do an art project by each of them making a place card for themselves. That will give you quility time with your kids while making your life easier. Second the bathroom. Give your 2 year old and 5 year old a bath at night and the 8 and 7 year old in the morning. Give them a schedule. 8 you get it from 8am till 815am 7 you get it from 815 till 830am or what ever times is right for you. Your kids are not going to just get along so help them to get along by making schedules. Also have them do a couple chores together like your 8 and 5 year old quick clean up the "leggos" and your 6 and 2 year old quick clean up the "bathroom toys" The only way they will start to get along is if you help them and give them reason to get along. reason they understand like if you get along then you get to play video games. if they fight over tv each of them get 30 minutes. thats 1 show each. set the times to the shows they each like. good luck!

It could be that it is their form of loving. Try to ask a favour, only a day without fighting. Treat them whenever they don't fight. Teach them that they will need each other someday.

If they are fighting over who sits where at the table, set assigned seating. My children had an issue with the same thing. But once you set that in place, there can be no fighting over who has what seat. And to help them remember who goes where, put a piece of masking tape on each place/chair just for the time being. Once they get into the habit of going to that chair, there will be no more arguments over who sits where. And you think you have problems with arguing? LOL I have seven children. And trust me, I feel as if someone is always arguing about something. ha ha Someone normally has to apologize or someone is sent to their room to think about it. But it is very important that I explain to each child how the other felt. Kids are rather selfish at times. And they get stuck in the "Me me phase". You know...where is it all about me me. So, to help them see the other side of the coin, you have to talk to them after they are calm. Good luck! Just wait until they hit teenagers. ha ha

Sibling rivalry is common and sadly it extends way past childhood. I have not talked to my brother in five years. I have two teens like your kids fight all the time. I tell them the same thing that you tell your kids, but it never works. Every day is an argument. All you can do is sometimes let them settle their own differences. You will be able to determine when to step in and mediate and when to let them work it out themselves. Do you make the two older ones write out lines when they fight? There is no permanent solution to sibling rivalry and I wish I had some magic answer for you. I think all of us parents should get together, put the kids in a big fight and us parents argue to make them see how silly they look. lol Seriously, good luck!

I fought all the time with my two sisters, now we are best friends. We talk almost everyday on the phone. We live in three different states. My two kids fought over everything, even that one was looking at the other on. It would drive me crazy. One thing I think that may help you is assign a place to everyone at the dinner table and no one trade their spots. Time outs or a bathroom schedule that might help with the morning fighting. Good luck.

I think it is natural for young children to have sibling rivalry, as they develop and create their own persona it will stop. My brother and i fought like cat and dog when we were youn but now we get on like a house on fire. I think that being in a situation where by you spend so much time together you compete for attention, they are probably competing for your affection. Children view the world very differently from you and i. The eldest probably feels as though the others have replaced them in your affection, the middle child competes to be as much in your affection as your first born, the younger will follow what they see and learn from his older siblings and the toddler is a child that is finding his feet in the household. I wouyldn't worry too much.

When we were younger our biggest fights were what to watch on TV and who's turn it was to do the dishes. We had to decide the TV by voting - there were 5 of us so that usually worked out. The dishes got put on a schedule, but we still fought over who did it the night before... My boys were 2 years apart and they rarely fought. But when they did, in their teens, it was not pretty! Me and my siblings are about inseperable now, as are my boys. It is just a part of being a family, but it's very frustrating on everyone. Try to set boundries for the things they argue about. Take control of the situation and tell them they have to deal with you and not the other children.

Well I have two girls myself, 10 and 7 and they fight all the time as well. I got fed up with it so I started to work with it, if they are going to do it, then use it to my advantage. So when they started fighting one day I said, fine if your going to do it, you are going to do it on my terms. So instead of going outside to play today after school, you both can stay in the house to fight each other. That freaked them out for a while and actually worked. Then one day they called my bluff so I stuck to it. Sure enough when they came home and dropped their backpacks, they started to head for the door and I stopped them. I made them face each other and set the rules, no hitting of any kind, then I told them to go. They both just stood there dumb founded. So I reminded them what they were arguing about that morning and got them started. For about 1 minute at most they started up, then they both felt finished. Nope, I kept encouraging them to keep it up I even instigated, with are you going to take that and come on, you can top that. Fice minutes into it, they were begging they were fine with each other and they didn't want to fight anymore. I had them actually pleading with me with how much they loved each other. So I told them I was not convinced they were done and they had to make me FEEL they really loved each other. So they did! They both started complimenting each other and pointing out the good points. It was funny let me tell you. Do you know I had two days of peace and quite after that? They still get into their tiffs, but they aren't as often as it was before. The best point is the fight stops the minute I step in with one question, "Are you two fighting?"

that is the love they to each other ... in that fashion

Wow ,OMG ,so many kids they fight every day ,every minute , If I were you , I must be crazy : ) In China , Now every family just have one child and this child just stay one conner lonely or play his toys . No another one will fight with him .

My cousin and i often fight in petticoats.But now we get on well with eath other.your kids fight natural when they were young.But then you need to lead to well way.they will grow up health.Good luck!~~~~~~~~~

I think that when children spend so muchtime together sa with any relationship they feel taht they want to be heard and want to have an opinion. I think that there is not a problem wit the arguing as long as they are not physical with it as it is teaching them to learn to solve there own prblems and people skills. Having so many children it must be hard to give each and everyone your time 24/7, I woudl personally say it is down right impossible. it could be a fight for your affection or attention that is causing this as at such a young age any attention be it good or bad puts them in the limelight, if you don't already try making a special time for each and every one of them and also play family games adn if they do not behave amicably I would ask whomever starts the argument to leave the room until they are ready to play nicely. i am sure you are a great mom and do all you can for your children but you can't be in 10 places at once and only have one pair of hands. i always fought with my sister as a child but now we get on really well, its odd as I never fought with my little brother at all. I think they will grow out of it with time.

That is how siblings show their love for each other. I cannot even count the number of times that I have fought with my other siblings and I know that there is noone who can honestly tell you that they have never fought before. You should be worried if they dont fight. Not to mention even though they fight each other if an outsider comes they will protect each other.

My kids are 6 (almost 7) and 4. They are constantly at each other. My daughter can be an angel all day, but when her brother comes home from school, she becomes whiny and difficult. He picks at her all the time - doing things just to annoy her. It isn't always his fault though, sometimes she just changes all of the sudden. And now summer is coming when they will be home together all day long. Some days I am successful in getting them to stop. A few times I have sent each one to their room telling them when they were ready to play nicely and talk kindly to one another, they could come out. One of them always gives in and asks can I go play with(the other) now? Then they play very nicely. Different things work on different days. Just try to be creative - maybe punishment isn't always the answer. Sometimes I think my kids just need structure and sometimes I think they need alone time. I keep trying new things and ways to get them to stop. Good luck!

That's just how it is. It's tough brother love. They know that they fight a lot but they also know that they love each other. I say this because with my brothers it's the same thing. One is 21, 17, 15, and 8 or 9. If you see them ever with their friends you will see that they will treat their friends better than they're brother. I mean it's nothing to be worried about. That's how brothers communicate.

you will have to bring your children over to a meeting. there you will explain to them what their quarrelling does to you. it gets you upset, worried, it makes you feel sick, etc., etc., etc. this way they will understand that they must not be quarelling too much over trivial matters. ask them not to quarrel anymore, instead, they can ask you for advise over things which must be resolved with any fights. the children will talk endlessly about their feelings and all, but in the end, you will reap the good harvest if you will hold these meetings once in a while.