Do You know where your children are at all times?
By heartuvgold
@heartuvgold (493)
United States
May 20, 2007 3:45pm CST
It really scares me when I see children outside and no one out watching them. It only takes a split second for a child to disappear and never be found again.
Even schools don't have adequate protection for our kids.
A lot of parents don't feel it's wrong to let their children go to the mall and other places by themselves and this gives pedaphyles more leeway to do their dirty deeds and parents are always so sorry about it after the fact, but then it's too late to bring their children back.
If you're in the habit of allowing your children to be away from you and without supervision just to get them out of your hair for a while, think about how you would feel if they were molested or raped, or murdered.
We all tend to think that will never happen to us, and I thought the same thing, and it DID happen. My child was molested by the next door neighbor while they were babysitting them while we were out for our 10th anniversery. It was the VERY FIRST TIME we had ever let them stay overnight with anyone and we trusted these people to watch them just for the simple reason that they'd never given us a reason to be suspicious of them.
I hope this never happens to your child, but if it ever does, will you take the blame for it?
I have blamed myself for years that this happened to my child. I just wish I had never allowed her to stay overnight with anyone who wasn't family. Now I know not to allow it to happen to my grandchild.
He never leaves our site for one minute.
A child can get into poisons and medications in your own home, so you need to be very careful to watch them closely and make sure they're safe. If you're not doing this, no one can say when disaster will strike, anything can happen.
3 responses
@silv3rcut (178)
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20 May 07
I think your over eggstruating the story and maybe watching out for your kids abit too much. How are they going to learn to depend on themselves.
@heartuvgold (493)
• United States
20 May 07
I'm not talking about teenagers, but teens are also at risk for being taken from malls, etc... Even adults are being conned into following people to cars and being taken. It's on the news all the time.
My grandson will inch away a little at a time from the boundaries I set for him, so if I'm not watching and it gets quiet outside I go after him. We live in a big city and an apartment complex on the third floor and there's a stairway outside for entry to the apartments. We don't know our neighbors very well and anyone could just reach out and grab him or offer him something he wants to get him inside their apartment. I've lectured him on not accepting anything from strangers, yet a social worker that we've never seen before has the ability to go into the school and question children on their parents habits and how they're punished, etc... The very thing that we're taught to tell our children not to do, they're required to do with these complete strangers.
The public school and child protective system in this country is very flawed. You're damned if you do and damned if you don't. No wonder so many parents are confused about how much is too much.
@anlelan (90)
• China
21 May 07
My baby is only one year old ,but she is very like friends. When she see other children passing by the doorway ,she run out quick and say hello to them. Most time she stay in home with her gradmother. Sometime they can go shopping . On the weekend ,I can take she to the park or the side of sea.
@cher913 (25782)
• Canada
20 May 07
how true this is...my 10 year old daughter and some of her friends left school property to go to one of these friends house...the parents both work, so they were not at home...the mother just happened to come home for a minute on her lunchbreak to get her forgotten meds...she called the school and they didnt know these kids were missing! now how scary is that?
i am sorry for your experience...we were very fortunate when are kids were small, we have both sets of grandparents close by...the only other person that has watched my children (the oldest is now 14 - and watches her 10 yr old sis...during the day...not at night)was a university student that we knew very well...