Trust, why is it so hard to trust a man?

United States
May 20, 2007 9:15pm CST
You know, I have such a hard time trusting men..why is this? I just cannot figure it out. I was cheated on several years back but I have gotten over that, at least I think I have. I am always worried that I will get cheated on. I dont think a man would cheat on me because of my personality because I can be seductive with that..lol. However, with all these young girls these days dressing the way they do and there are obviously a lot of women out there prettier than myself, I always worry I will get cheated on merely for the body of another woman...do any of you feel this way, if so, what do you think it could be?
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donsky14
@donsky14 (5947)
• Philippines
21 May 07
Yeah, I feel that all the time. Cause i've been cheated before as well. Its always the start of me and my bf's fight. I know he loves me so much, but I can't help but worry sometimes that he might cheat on me.
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misssweetthingg
@misssweetthingg (355)
• United States
21 May 07
I totally know how you feel! I know mine loves me as well but that thought is always in the back of mind.
donsky14
@donsky14 (5947)
• Philippines
21 May 07
I know...I guess in some way, we were traumatized with what happened in the past. Even if we say that we have moved on, the memory or the thought clings on...and it has somehow affected our points of view when it comes to trust.
alilswt
@alilswt (388)
• United States
21 May 07
i think it has a lot to do with being cheated on in the past
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misssweetthingg
@misssweetthingg (355)
• United States
21 May 07
True
Stephanie5
@Stephanie5 (2946)
• United States
21 May 07
Yes, I do. And I'm glad I'm not the only one. It's just us being insecure. I don't know how to fix it. I also have the problem that I'm never truly happy with the person I'm with. I don't know if it's me or them, but I'm never happy. I think that if my marriage ends, I'm either going to become a lesbian or just quit all together! Good luck with your search! :-)
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misssweetthingg
@misssweetthingg (355)
• United States
21 May 07
Yes you are right, it is insecurity. My insecurities are what keep me from being able to truly be happy. Why cant I just go through life with a happy soul and feel comfortable. I wonder if a lot more women than I think feel this way, its so tough..hopefully one day, we will change:)