I had my daughter when I was 19...
By s_keenom
@s_keenom (33)
United States
May 20, 2007 9:51pm CST
I had my daughter 3 weeks after I turned 19. Instead of having her adopted I decided that I was going to keep her and do it by myself. Although I lived with my parents I woke up with her up at night, feed her, bathed her, bought her food,diapers, and her daycare. Now she is almost 7 and I have not lived with my mom and dad for the past 6 years. But, still to this day my mother acts as though I am not capable of raising her right . She is always trying to correct me or tell me what I need to do. The funny part is that I also now have a almost 2 year old and a almost 2 month old and she never says anything about them. She is really starting to drive me nuts... She spent the night over there last night. When I called to see what time she was going to be home today I was told that she had a horrible cough . I told her I told you last night to give her medicine. Then we got in this big fight because I am tired of her trying to give my daughter excusses for acting like a big old baby. If I say anything to her she acts like I am making it all up there is no winning with her. I am almost 26 and I stillact as if I am afraid of her. I know it is real stupid. But, I guess I just had to vent.
4 responses
@s_keenom (33)
• United States
21 May 07
Well I am normally on the phone with her when I really let her have it but eventually you need to move out. You can not raise your child with your mom due to the fact that the bond that they will end up having is probably the one your baby should be having with you. It is hard as a teenager to have a baby. But, I moved out a year later and on a day to day basis it isn't that bad. You have to learn to ignore them or be upfront with them. The day I wrote this discussion I was real mad at her. You might be suprised you might not have it too bad.
@LadyDulce (830)
• United States
27 May 07
Yeah, I had my son at 19 too and I lived with my grandmother for a little while so I could get my little monies together. She's the same way. I got tired of it and told her to shove it. I limit her contact with my son and whenever she tries to criticise my method of parenting, she knows I'm going to come right back at her. This is the child I worked to bring into this world and while I'm grateful for her giving me a place to stay when I needed it, that gives her no rights over anything of mine, including my children. I don't know if that would alienate your mom or not, but it seems to have had the opposite effect on my grandmother. If you have any ideas to get rid of her, I'd be glad to hear them!
Blessed Be
@rapolu_cs (1184)
• India
21 May 07
Quite funny,interesting,cute parenting and iam shocked to listen your 1st issuse at the age of 19yrs and i congratulate you for the best parent you have been till now with your daughters and all the best for your future and my best whishes are always with yu lol.
@happythoughts (4109)
• United States
21 May 07
My mother is over involved in my life too. I have to call her at least twice daily or she gets hurt feelings. She is constantly telling me how to raise my kids and what to do with my money. We just take with a grain of salt and then do what we think is right. It has caused us a few good fights and some contetion between my hubby and I but we deal with it. She will always be my mom and I love her for it, but I am incontrol of my life now. ( I think I am, maybe I am not.)
