My sister is stealing my dreams...help me

Philippines
May 21, 2007 1:57am CST
My sister and I have been enemies since childhood, when we even learned how to fight in our taekwondo classes..she kicked me! HARRRDDDD very very HARDDDD But after highschool, we became good friends, even if im the younger one, she asks me solutions to her problems, matters of the heart, fashion problems... everything! Then when we were both working and living in the same dormitory, I talked to her about my plans with my boyfriend, and that is to go to Dubai and work there to save some money and after two years we will get married here in the Philippines. The mom of my boyfriend even asked my parents' permission if they could bring me with them to Dubai and as far as i know, mommy trusts her mom since they were good friends back when my boyfriend and I were still toddlers.. they just lost contact when his family moved to Dubai 17 years ago. My parents did not agree with the plan, telling me that my grandmother didnt approved of it. Then after a few months, my ate asked their permission to go to dubai WITH HER BOYFRIEND (btw, their relationship is a secret but very obvious) , and they didnt have any issues with it, they didnt even tell my grandmother about it and just told her after two weeks she left! Now my sister is living my dreams, that is how i feel. Should I hate her or not? Ive been the one always hiding her deeds from my mom and going home everytime she wont because of her dates with her so-called boyfriend. Im getting tired of always being the one accepting and accepting things from her! When will it be my turn right? I love my sister a lot, but i dont know if it is right for me to hate her! :-( Should I hate her?
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@avelnrm (239)
• Philippines
21 May 07
you can tell her how you feel but it isn't good for you to hate her because of the fact that she's your sister. you don't need to worry about your life, God has plans for you. continue to serve God and live life to the fullest.????
• Philippines
21 May 07
Actually, that's what Ive been trying to blve in so that I wont feel any remorse over what happened. Who wants hatred hanging over her shoulders right. So yes, thanks to you.. you just gave me strength to go on and blve this again! Besides, there is this thing that ive read that I think is very relative to how I should do to pacify my pains! Here it goes... Hold steady when the fires burn, When inner lessons come to learn, And from this path there seems no turn-"Let patience have her perfect work."
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@Rozie37 (15499)
• Turkmenistan
21 May 07
No, this is no reason to hate your sister. I do believe you should find out from your parents why they allowed her to do what you wanted to do. I do not believe that a person can steal anothers dreams. She is doing what you want to be doing, but the dream is still yours. It is up to you to do what you need to do to make this dream a reality for you. If it is important enough, you will do whatever it takes. Don't live the reat of your life in regret. Go for your dream, just do it.
• China
27 May 07
yes,it's correct.Don't hate your sister.No body can steal your dream.Live with your parents so that you can take care of them.You know,I very envy my sister can acompany with my parents,it's a family.accept it and lead your happy life ,at least your boyfriend is beside you.
@kjc1981 (45)
• United States
1 Jun 07
no dont hate her maybe tell her how you feel but dont hate her life is too short for hate and you shouldnt take her for granted sisters is a very magnificant thing the bond two sisters share is unbreakable hang in there your dreams will come true just have some faith!!