Lack of love or chemistry?
By huilee
@huilee (1005)
Singapore
May 21, 2007 2:08am CST
I have been with my boyfriend for one year plus, but i realised, recently my boyfriend and i are on the downslope in love, my friend calls it the off peak period in love...
What do u guys think i can do to spark up our relationship once again?
Sometimes, i dun feel loved or appreciated?
Im not sure if i am just too sensitive, or what?
I really dunno....
But i noe i still love him, n i guess he does too...
Tt is i hope so...
2 responses
@dwynne (82)
• Philippines
21 May 07
Well, i guess, first, make sure if love still exist in the relationship...i mean, mutual, both ways, not just you. If the answer is yes, well, you might just be in a point where both of you is already comfortable to each other to exert some effort in showing and expressing love. Just as in any other relationship, you just have to 'rekindle the fire'. Think about the things you both enjoy doing when you're just starting in the relationship. Try doing it again and think of some little surprises! ...even shallow ideas or child-like surprises will do! Bring fun to your relationship. Andthen, try to find time to talk. Work things out, and discover each other's love languages. If this relationship is really worth saving, everything, is worth trying! Good luck huilee and hope to hear from you if things worked out well.
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@huilee (1005)
• Singapore
21 May 07
Thank u so much for ur advice...
I did verify and he agrees that its mutual love, so i guess its not that much of a problem..
Well, i guess its pretty hard to rekindle our love...
I mean perhaps im not sure hw i should go about it...
im not a very romantic person...
which is to say...
any real good ideas from u guys?
we can do anything together, so its like we are just too comfortable with each other...
we can play basketball, swim, do aything together...
tts why its abit hard as to trying to rekindle and give him some surprises...
partly because we are together most of the time too...
@dwynne (82)
• Philippines
22 May 07
I think the problem is not really about love, because as I see it in the way you describe it, all is doing well except for that 'not so good feeling' you're having. Girl, for every relationship to work, we need to be selfless. Put aside that 'feeling' for now and focus on how to make the relationship grow. Since you're always together, enjoy your togetherness. Remember, love is not a feeling...it's a choice!
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@hariharbhat (1312)
• India
21 May 07
Hey friend, the definition of love is the quotient of your IGNORANCE.The more ignorant you are the more SWEET is the LOVE.Once you strat on the path of finding the truth,the LOVE melts/starts melting like an ice cube under the hot sun.
It is all physical attraction which is called in different words.Once human being accept anything he/she starts building possessiveness about it.Hence IGNORANCE,THE BODY LUST takes everyone by surprise when the curtain of TRUTH is open.
Hence dont think too much about the love and life but try the receive the life as it opens tomorrow, and try to be HAPPY in life.
Life is too short ,dont waste in such ignorant folders called LOVE.!!!!!!!!!
@huilee (1005)
• Singapore
21 May 07
Hey, i guess u r so right...
I am indeed wasting my time...
I mean we used to be so sweet and nice...
Until i got all tied up and possessive about us...
I guess its me who killed all those feelings..
I always asked him why and wanna know everything...
Think that somehow dun work for us..
Thanks for ur enlightment...
=)
@hariharbhat (1312)
• India
21 May 07
Good Wishes, Walk the life on the experiences of Yesterday to make Tomorrow fruitful.
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