What should I do?
By TerryQ
@TerryQ (81)
China
May 21, 2007 8:26am CST
My father's friend introduce a girl to me. We watched film and sang kala OK together.
But I don't feel happy when I'm with her.
Maybe I'm too shy, she said I didn't say much.
Actually I'm not good at expressing myself.
I don't know what to do. Could you give me suggestions?
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3 responses
@mamasan34 (6518)
• United States
21 May 07
If you don't feel happy when you were with her, she is probably not hte person for you. Although, if you were nervous and shy and didn't feel comfortable, I would try to loosen up a bit and try to talk to her and get to know her. You have nothing to lose but time! Being shy is something that should be gotten over, I used to be terribly shy, but then one day I decided it was a waste of time and no matter how embarrassed I was about something I wasn't going to let it get in my way of getting to know people or living my life.
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@mamasan34 (6518)
• United States
23 May 07
I used to do much the same. I felt more comfortable behind a computer than talking to people face to face. it takes practice and you will get better and it gets easier as time goes by and you do visit face to face more often. Take care and good luck!
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@yanjiaren (9031)
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22 May 07
I think the truth is you may not be happy in yourself first. If you are too shy, you will not get any where with girls, I am married to a Chinese and we have the same problem. My husband is too shy, even now, he has lost his job and doesn't want to talk to me over the phone any more until he finds a new job, instead of sharing his problems with me, he is pushing me away and we are long distance so that is not helping our relationship. I, as always, have to be the patient one, for how long,i DON'T QUITE KNOW. WHAT YOU SHOULD DO IS MAKE THE EFFORT TO FIND OUT WHAT INTERESTS HER, GET OFF THAT RUDDY COMPUTER FOR A COUPLE OF HOURS, TAKE HER FOR A WALK LOL. OHERWISE YOU WILL BE MARRIED TO THE COMPUTER AND NEVER GET A WIFE LOL. So try to find things She is interested in. It is the computer addiction that is making you unhappy, not the girl. If you see after a few attempts at dating, this is not the right girl for you, then find another one until you get the girl you want. But give this girl a chance, you cannot say you are unhappy with her until you get to know her properly, zhidao? Take this advice like from your Jie Jie o.k?
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@TerryQ (81)
• China
28 May 07
If I lost my job,I wouldn't tell my wife either.I'm the same kind guy like your husband.I just want my wife to keep happy,not nervous.I will share my joy but not problems.I'm not sure whether it is right,but you should know that his original intention is good,he love you,don't want to you warry about him.I can feel that.Sometimes I did the same thing to my mother.
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@abednego7 (1060)
• Philippines
21 May 07
I will start at your saying that you are not feeling happy with her so that makes me think that though you are shy, she must not you type.
If you would given a chance to be with someone that you like, then I guess you will find a way to break the ice between her and you. But then you must overcome that characteristic, it will not help you to be a productive as a person. Be a positive thinker and build some confidence in yourself to win not only a girl's heart but every hardship the you may encounter in this cycle of life.
