14 year old daughter GRRRR

Our children must be related. My daughter is 12 and does much the same thing. It drives me nuts! She is not so much an eye roller as she is a huffer. When I tell her that she needs to do something or I ask her to do something she will take a deep breath and then slowly huff it out. "hhhhuuuuuuuuu" That drives me nuts. It is like nails down a chalk board! She too keeps things locked up inside of her when she isn't in the mood to talk about it, our little talks seem to be less and less sometimes. It is just hormones and the changes she is going through. parents are supposed to be the enemy. I just tell my daughter, when she is ready to talk, I will be here. I also check her journal and her room while she is not around. I know that is wrong, but I want to know what is going on in her life and if it takes doing that to keep her safe that is what I do. take care! This too shall pass!

Yes, 14 year old girls are going to do that. I remember when I was 14, it was only a few years ago, and my mother had so many problems with me because I thought that I knew everything. Thank goodness those days are over with.

Try spending some quality time with her doing something you both enjoy. It will bring you closer and hopefully leave her feeling more open to talking with you. My daughter is only 10 and is already starting this kind of thing. Best wishes :)

Good Luck! She's a teenager and there is nothing you can do... welcome to the worst 4 years of child rearing

I think that teenage daughters are just going to do this, i did it and my mom couldn't stop it either. If i was to suggest something it would be to listen to her, just tell her to talk about whatever she wants. The only think i ever wanted my mother to do was to listen, and not critisize me for what i did. Teens need someone that they can talk to without feeling afraid that you will bring the wrath of the world down upon them. Try talking to her, just lettign her know that she can talk to you about anything at anytime. It might work, I don't know.

I have a fifteen year old and I can totally relate to what you are saying. I've learned not to react to what she says by listening more and advising less. I find that she talks much more to me when we are just driving in the car and that's when I really listen and don't judge. Overall though, girls at this age are very dramatic so your daughter is very normal in that respect.

yes but we're in a more technological advance arene, it's were her hormone are fluntuating and which in her mind she adult even though I did this to my mom and she sometimes did what you said will happen but sometimes it's for the best. Keeping this inside is the fact she doesnt know how to express herself (if she learns to will be a plus for english). Talk to as he friend and talk about topic that you think is bothering her and she might open up ...

Are you sure that you aren't talking about my 13 yr old son? I know the look exactly. I think it is very disrespectful. I have started punishing my son when he starts with the rolling of the eyes, ect. If he has plans for the following weekend, he doen't get to do them. Instead he stays home with me and we end up discussing more how he needs to show more respect. It works for a while, but he does tend to go back to his ways~ I think it is an age thing~ hopefully they will grow out of it soon.

I was once like that but a bit earlier in age...I was 12. I do that whenever my mom asks me to do something that I hate, like run errands and stuff...or whenever she sermons or nags about stuff. Those rolling eyes meant "here we go again...yeah i know that already so quit it". The good thing was that my dad was always there to mellow things down for me. He would encourage me to follow what my mom had asked but in a really nice and sweet manner..that's when I melt..A few months after, the worse nightmare happened, my dad passed away. There wasn't anyway for me to act like that anymore coz of our situation. I guess I outgrew it instantly and since then my mom and I were the closest ever. Since I was the eldest, I became her partner in everything. MY advice is to not forget reminding your child that her actions are disrespectful and that it is hurtful, that she has to act like an adult and speak to you instead of rolling her eyes. Talk to her like she's an adult and not a child anymore. Continue to open the channels of communication, I'm sure she'll pass that stage sooner than you think. Goodluck :)

I think you should set yourself in respect becasue she should have some respect for yuo becase your surelty pays everythin for her.

I know what you mean.I live by a mall and the teenagers hang all the time there.there way of acting and dressing is totally different from the way I was when I was in school.My mom smacked me a couple times because I had a real bad habit of that too when I was growing up.

I think alot of teenagers do that.Mostly i think it has to do with the things in the world.The peer pressure they deal with is harder i think.The way teenagers talk to today is totally different from the way they used too when I was in school.I live by a mall and teenagers are there all time.Some of them even scare me with the dress and act.

Oh, one more thing. On the talking it out thing. This is the really hard age where kids think they know everything and can do it all on their own. Acting out instead of talking it out is way easier emotionally on them. They are probably confused about all the new changes they are experiencing and don't know how yet to communicate them. Us as parents can see it but we can't make them understand that. They have to learn for themselves. Just reassure that you are always there no matter what, anytime. And keep your word. The day will come when the kids wise up and see us as friends and not the enemy.

I only have young sons, I am no expert, and I am sure my days are coming. Just remember that kids are smarter than most people think. And they get to that stage where they are trying to exert independancy in the only ways they know how. The start testing their boundaries. Like the eye-rolling. They know it bothers you. And the more you get visibly upset, or react to it, the more they will do it. This is where you get to be that smug annoying parent and smile in their face and remind them "I Love You Too". It will anger them to know it is not gettting to you. It will pass.