Do you talk to your spouse/ partner?
By Kali2218
@Kali2218 (61)
United States
May 21, 2007 10:56am CST
I don't mean " How was your day?" or "Isn't the weather nice today?". I mean really talk. About politics or what you want in the future. What your dreams and life goals are. When we first started dating, my husband and I talked about these things, but with marriage and a son we seldom find the time. We try, but then something comes up or we think of something we didn't do and have to go do it. If you do, how do you find the time? When do you do it?
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@happymom1 (1179)
• United States
3 Jul 07
We always talk many things in life, past, present and the future. He tells me about his view about politics, christianity and other stuff. When we eat or his driving we talk different things like problems, what he wants for my future and to our son. I think we are open-minded to each other. We talk especially raising kids and how many we want. Just give time any day or any time to talk about you and your family, everything.
@coolchic101 (848)
• United States
30 Jun 07
Usually when people date, they usually don't live together, so therefore, they end up talking about each other's interest and what they have in common.
When people start living together or get married, they know more about each other, so they don't find the time to have these conversations because things need to be done first: taking care of the children, chores, work, paying bills, etc. "Interest" conversations are a bonus.
When we travel long distances via car, my spouse and I would have time to converse more about anything, while our little boy is in the back seat asleep or something. You could do what we do (setup a little weekend getaway trip) and/or you and your spouse can set up a "date night", each week where it's just the 2 of you. Have a friend, relative, or babysitter take care of your son, while you and your spouse go out to dinner and a movie, or you could go to a museum or a park, places and activities you used to do when you were dating. When people get married, most often they become mom and dads and quit being friends and lovers to each other. When you take the time off, once a week, at least, for yourselves and with your spouses, you become better parents :-)
@teison2 (5921)
• Norway
21 May 07
We do talk a little bit about politics and current events and values and things like that. But we do not talk as much as I would like. We do not have many problems finding the time really. But then we do not have kids. we talk during meals, and in the evening. The TV does not have to be on all night.
@cooltrikerchick (148)
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21 May 07
hubby and i chit chat about all sorts.... but sometimes we dont need to talk, but yet we know what each other is thinking.... sounds strange i know, but thats the way we are.....
soul mates.......