baby

United States
May 21, 2007 5:52pm CST
i have a 10 month old n all she wants is me beside her all the time i mean all time.the moment i leave her n move she throws a crying spell anybody faced it help me plz
8 responses
@dramaqn (1990)
• United States
22 May 07
Wow Rapid, I feel for you on this. I personally never went through it, but have given suggestions to friends on the issue. You have to pretty much use a weaning process with this situation. Also, in figuring out this issue some vital information is needed. For instance, is this an only child? Are there other children in the extended family or your friends homes that the child can interact with? Are you a stay at home mom? If there aren't any other small children around or if you are a stay at home mom, this is a classic case of what happens. The child needs to interact with other children or adult family and friends to learn how to adapt without you around. Please let me know more detail so that I can try to be of better assistance in helping you with this situation. I'm a mother of 6, and aunt of 3, and a godmother of 2. So, I've seen many different situations and would love to be able to help you with this so you don't go stir-crazy.
• United States
22 May 07
yep i am a stay at home mom n he will be away all day n no kids around, i mean they r there but they r much older n she does not like the stroller or high chair n i have to carry her most of the time
• United States
22 May 07
yep i am a stay at home mom n he will be away all day n no kids around, i mean they r there but they r much older n she does not like the stroller or high chair n i have to carry her most of the time
@dramaqn (1990)
• United States
23 May 07
Ok, Rapid, fist off, stop carrying her so much. Because you are a stay at home mom, maybe you can find a mommy and me class or if need be, you may have to put her in daycare or find a sitter for an hour or two a few days a week so she can learn how to function without you around. It's best to nip this now, or gonna be a very bad day the first day of kindergarten. Another thing to remember, it'll get worse before it gets better. So let's find a way for you to get through this rough spot. Also, as much as any mother hates to do this, sometimes you just have to let them cry and throw a fit. Trust me, 5 minutes of crying is not bad. Even if she stops to take a break and start again, try it at least once or twice a day. As a mother it hurts for us to see and hear them cry, but if we know they arent hungry, wet, or hurt it's ok to do for a short time. Just stay in eye sight of her and see what happens.
• United States
22 May 07
Be patient and accomodate her need to have you nearby all the time, and she'll get better in the near future. It's a normal phase at this age.
@dramaqn (1990)
• United States
23 May 07
That is not a normal stage. This happens when a child is constantly with their mother. The mother becomes the security blanket. It's much easier if the child has an actual blanket, stuffed animal or pacifier. Normal, no this is not.
• United States
25 May 07
i prefer her to be with me than have a blanket or pacifier in my place
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@AugBoyz (79)
• Singapore
22 May 07
kids this age is on the separation anxiety mode. My 9mth+ DS oso the same. If we are sitting in the living room watching tv, either 1 of us stand up to go toilet or kitchen he will start crying. No matter how the one who is still with him try to console him, its useless. So we let him cry till tt the other party walks back to the living room.
@dramaqn (1990)
• United States
23 May 07
Aug, I like the fact that you stated how you let the little one cry until the other one comes back in the room. It seems like your little one enjoys being around both of you and that is his comfort. But at least you know this and don't cater to the short amount of crying time.
@mtoxales (374)
• Canada
22 May 07
When my baby was still around that age, she would cry whenever I am not around and then stops when I get her. What I tried doing was to wear a sling so I can do household chores. And I also made her busy by giving her finger foods or activity toys and let her sit on her baby chair while she eats or plays. In this way, she can learn to not always cling to you. When you need to do something that will not allow you to carry her and she cries, just let her cry. It won't hurt her to cry. :)
• United States
23 May 07
the thing is wont sit in the high chair so i carry her or finish my chores when she is sleeping
• United States
22 May 07
My one year old is attached to my hip. It makes me crazy. She follows me around the house whining all day. I can't even use the restroom. I have just started to ignore her when she whines. Becasue she does it because she wants attention and the only way to get her to understand it won't work is by ignoring her. Other than that I have no clue what to do, but it will only spoil them more to pick them up just becaause they shed a tear.
• United States
25 May 07
I know what you mean. I really just want to pick her up, but I keep telling myself if you do you will regret it later.
• United States
25 May 07
i am trying that nowadays but its hard to watch her cry like that
• United States
22 May 07
You can try and bring her with you anywhere you go.Sometimes they just want to know you're there.
• United States
23 May 07
thats what i do most of time
@deedles88 (297)
• Australia
22 May 07
That is a tricky problem, and my daughter went through that when she was a touch younger. I dealt with it by distracting her with toys, movies anything else. I felt that she needed to learn to have her own time and space. I know she was young, but it needs to start early otherwise she will turn out like my cousin. Age 10 he was still attached by the umbilical cord :P Not literally, but he would NOT leave his mum alone. Not even for a shower or to use the toilet!
@mememama (3076)
• United States
22 May 07
That's a normal stage, if you have to leave the room, like to use the restroom, yell out "hey baby, I'm just in the other room" so she can hear you. Start playing peek-a-boo with her, like with a blanket, so she gets that if she can't see you, you'll still be present for her. If you want to get some work done around the house, try baby wearing, there are many types of slings, pouches, carriers etc available on the internet.
• United States
25 May 07
i tried that but calling her from rest room just makes her cry more .peekaboo worked when she was much younger now no more