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Instead of telling them what not to do, give them choices of things they can do. Don't give them too many choices at once though. If you want them to get dressed, put out two outfits and say "you can pick one of these two to wear". If you want them to go to bed you can say "You can read a story or listen to some music before bedtime". The reason why kids don't behave, is that they are vying for some control over their own lives. Giving them choices, gives them some control. Once they have it, they will begin to stop trying to control you.

Oh wow! You have got your hands full! Luckily my son is only 16 months old! :) Have you tried taking away all of their toys/favorites and have them "earn" them back? I think that will teach them to behave and be responsible. Also, have you tried PRASIE when your kids are behaving?

First you smack them on their little behinds. Then you clean out their rooms of everything they hold dear. Then ground them. They get their stuff back when they learn to respect their mom. Period.

Well, I would sit down and think beforehand about some new punishments. Your 6 year old is ready for some more creative tactics. She probably loves video games, t.v, internet, and probably could care less if she's sent to her room. All discipline needs to grow and change with our kids. I would suggest revoking her privileges, If she's got a bad attitude, or is being disrespectful, take away a privelage, if she does it again, take away another one. Eventually she will learn, that is better to be respectful, than to not have anything! Also, for the 2 younger ones, if time outs don't work the way you are doing them, I have a friend who makes her daughter stand in the corner, with her hands on the wall, and she has to stand there for 5 or six minutes, time outs just were not a punishment for her, depending on thier age, you can either do like their big sister and take away a privelage, or you could do what many teachers rely on, writing sentences. It works. (although the child would obviously have to be old enough to write!). Good luck to you and your little ones. May I also suggest, trying to find another mother to trade babysitting with. Moms need time to themselves, away from their children, if even just a couple of hours so you can go to the local book store and buy a coffee, it's important to take time for yourself, so that when the kids are screaming and crying all day, it doesn't push you over the edge. We've all been there. Good luck!

You are the mother! Remember this! Find a punishment that hurts - No TV, no video games, no telephone, no favorite clothing. Figure out the appropriate lenghts of time for this. 1 hour to maybe 1 month. By the time my son was 8, we went a whole semester with only PBS, animal planet and discovery channel as his only TV. Once you dole out the punishment, no matter how much it makes you feel mean, or guilty or anything else - never back off! You back off once and you will set yourself up for more problems. You must take control now.

The one way i was able to take charge of my boys and I had three stair steppers. was to give them one warning and then follow through on my threat. So I said either pick up your toys or no tv for a day. If they did not pick up their toys they lost tv privalege. Or if a child has an attitude you say Change the attitude or you will stay in your room with no tv no friends or anything else for a night. Dont make it something you cant follow through on. Once they learn that mom means business they will stop. Dont argue with them tell them once . and lead them into the room if you have too. it might take time. But eventually if you show them you are the mom and what you say goes they will listen. i found a web page for you to check out. Good luck and i hope this works for you. http://www.askdrsears.com/html/6/T061000.asp

OH,i think you have worst position with your kids,ok tell me how they are with their dad are they afraid of him and do they listen to his words ? I think you should once talk to them in alow voice in calm manner as if you are advising them but not saying no to their behaviour for they are doing daily and be with patience things will better soon as they are kids they will like that to certain period and one more thing if your elder one goes to school then talk to her teacher about her behaviour and she may help yu somehow in this matter,if you can stop the elder one then the youngers will learn from her. ALL THE BEST.

maybe u should have a nice calm chat with your six year old.tell her how she is hurting you usually kids start disrespecting their parents knowingly to get back at some serious 'crimes'that they have done.get to know what is troubling your kid.you will most probably get an insight into her problems.

you must can to be their friends, you must can to share with them and you must understand them. i know that's not easy, but you must try and try

I think you will spend much time to teach they.You will set a example for your sister and brother.You want they respect you,you will have a good pair of them.These things need to go slowly,please don't worry.

well actually we are the same realy we are 4 sisters but in big ages u can use abook or something to know how to deal with or you maybe listin to any program in this am telling you for sure this is gonna work just try it ok god helps you you are so young