As a mother what frightens you the most?
By SilentRose19
@SilentRose19 (1733)
United States
May 21, 2007 9:07pm CST
I was just thinking about a nightmare I had the other night about my son breaking his leg, and got to thinking. What frightens you other mothers out there the most? What worries you about your children out there in the world? I really worry about my son getting hurt by others, emotionally. I mostly worry about his biological father hurting him in the future, its a worry I live with every day of my life. So what bothers you?
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13 responses
@disvachic (10117)
• United States
22 May 07
I really worry alot where I live my 11 year old son got jumped by 7 boys when he was 9 for no apparent reason.They tricked him into going over there where they were and knocked him off the bike.I was so angry and had called the police and everything.Its always something going on.There are gangs walking around and I am just ready to move now.Its getting hot now and all thats doing is making it worse.
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@disvachic (10117)
• United States
22 May 07
Thanks.He is a child and wants to play as bad as I want to keep him in the house I have to let him go outside and play.The same goes for my girls.
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@mamasan34 (6518)
• United States
22 May 07
That is awful! I lived in a rough neighborhood last year before I moved here to marry my husband and I am telling you, the heat just brought the trouble on! The kids were just out in full force and there would be fights. I don't blame you for worrying about your son! I worried so often about my daughter when we lived where we lived previously. I tried to keep an eye on her as much as possible, but you still have to let them have their independence too. Gangs are everywhere and they are always looking for victims or new recruits. Take care and I hope that doesn't happen to your son again!
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@SilentRose19 (1733)
• United States
22 May 07
I think that children who do that are just cowards, they don't fight fair. I dont' believe in fighting, but if its going to happen it needs to be one on one. Its just not honorable for them to fight that way, or to trick young children into getting hurt for no appearant reason. I'm sorry that this happened to you disvachic, its just not right.
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@sramsey150 (162)
• United States
22 May 07
i worry about other children hitting my daughter and her getting sick and i also hate when strangers feel they need to get in my space and my daughters space just to speak to her because i always feel that they're trying to kid nap her from me . as a mother that's what frightens me.
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@SilentRose19 (1733)
• United States
22 May 07
I agree with you in some ways you sound like a very protective parent, we just have to remember that we cannot protect them from everything.
@SilentRose19 (1733)
• United States
23 May 07
Try not to be overprotective of her, it will be ok. As long as you are there for her she will be ok, just don't worry about her so much. You know you are a good mother, and you have to have faith that you are teaching her how to grow up with you by her side.
@sramsey150 (162)
• United States
22 May 07
i guess i am but it's only because she's my first child and i'm still getting used to being a mother and i want to let her know that i'm always there if she needs me. i just don't want to be too over protective because i want her as she gets older to be able to tell me anything and not hide things like i did with my mom.
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@steney (1418)
• Philippines
23 May 07
God knows I have a lot of fears in this world for my little one. Someone hurting her both physically and emotionally, getting sick, accidents she might meet along the way, teenage pregnancy, failures, and the list goes on. Now I know how my mother must have felt when I was growing up. But I came to realize that I cannot protect her from all the cruelties in this world. To a certain extent, yes. But basically, and eventually, she will have to face everything on her own. The best that we can do is to prepare our children to face their own battles by imbibing values and principles that will guide them all through their lives. Raise all our worries and cares to God so He can take care of the rest. If we can do that, then our minds can be at peace.
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@SilentRose19 (1733)
• United States
23 May 07
I think every mother realize when they have children how they're mother felt when they were raising you. Its good to know what your parents had to go through for you, it makes you feel kinda special. I wonder sometimes if i'll be able to overcome some of the things my parents have, hopefully i will.
@mamasan34 (6518)
• United States
22 May 07
There are so many fears I have. My daughter walks to and from school, so I worry that even though we are on a military base, I still worry someone could kidnap her or run her over and I wouldn't know about it for hours. I worry that she will meet a child predator on the internet and she will be fooled and end up hurt or worse, I worry so much that she will get hurt in the house because she wasn't paying attention to something and no one will be around, if I am on my way home from work or something. I think we all have fears that we keep deep inside and hope they never happen. I keep my eyes and ears open and try my best to keep her safe. Those are the things that bother me the most!
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@SilentRose19 (1733)
• United States
22 May 07
I have worried about this too, my son is very young but i worry about the future too. My husband is in the military and swears that we will always be safe, however I still feel that no child is safe in this day and age.
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@mamasan34 (6518)
• United States
27 May 07
Thanks for the best response rating. I really appreciate it! My daughter is still scaring the bejeezus out of me with her antics, I am always afraid that child is going to get hurt! She went swimming today and decided to get bruised up at the pool. I tell you, I am not sure I am going to make it!
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@4cuteboys (4099)
• United States
23 May 07
There are many things. I can't pick which one is the most frightening. I am worried they will get picked on in school and hurt. I worry that the oldest two's biological father will take them and run away. I worry about them playing and getting hurt, and I worry about a house fire and not being able to get all my kids out. Ugh! I am getting stressed just typing these out on the computer! I wish I could relax, but it seems like there is always something to worry about.
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@SilentRose19 (1733)
• United States
23 May 07
I completely understand about the bio father thing, I worry about the same thing with my son. I know in my heart that its very uncertain that we'll ever see him again, but i worry everyday about the same thing. Its a mother's instinct to expect the unexpectable.
@elizabethmarie05 (15)
• United States
22 May 07
I'm mostly afraid that I won't raise my daughter right.And I'm afraid that I might end up with a child molestor.I really don't want to have to put my daughter through that.
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@SilentRose19 (1733)
• United States
23 May 07
Sometimes you just can't tell with people, but you have to have faith in your teacings. Just rememeber that you can teach them everything about the world, but they make the choices.
@pinks0da (328)
• Philippines
22 May 07
My greatest fear is losing my kids. The thought of it is killing me! That's why I see to it that they just stay inside the house especially when me and my husband are working which is everyday except for the weekends. I don't mind buying them toys, PS2 or anything as long as it will keep them inside our fence! And I don't leave them with a nanny or a housemaid because I can never be sure if they are really taken care of. Thanks to my mom who is there to watch them when we are at work.
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@SilentRose19 (1733)
• United States
22 May 07
Yes with all the things that childcare providers are doing to children these days you can never be too sure.
@maddysmommy (16230)
• United States
22 May 07
My son being taken away from me and never being able to see him again - I would die if that ever happened!
@SilentRose19 (1733)
• United States
22 May 07
I worry about that as well, its a worry I think that all mothers come to face at one time. I worry about something happening and him being taken away, because of the unethical child protective services that we have. I worry that someday they will not like how i raise my children and take them away from me, i'd rather die than lose my children.
@toyhamarz (124)
• United States
22 May 07
I have an 11 month old and since he was born I have worried constantly about SIDS. My friends son passed away from SIDS so it is a very realistic fear to me. When he gets to be older I know that fear will be replaced by other ones like broken bones and accidents.
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@SilentRose19 (1733)
• United States
22 May 07
Very true, with different ages comes different worries and fears. I worry about different things all the time, every day almost. Its sad sometimes how much a mother worries about everything and everyone, but I guess its our job to worry about our loved ones huh?
@jimbelle (485)
• Philippines
7 Feb 08
As a mother i would always fear of losing my son. We always look for our children's need and of course anything bad that will happen to them are our greatest fear. We always want the best for our children and always pray that nothing should harm them..
@shy611 (53)
• Philippines
22 May 07
I am most worried when Im not with my kids, if something went wrong and Iam not with them to protect them from any harm...its hard to feel your helpless coz you are not with them,and cant do anything about it. but most of all to lose any of them, that, i think will make me crazy!!
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@thedebbie (58)
• United States
22 May 07
My ongoing nightmare about being is single Mom is someone breaking in and threatening my kids. Me getting in between the bad guy and my kids, telling my kids to run and get out while I hold the bad guy off, and as I was going down, to look back and see my kids still there and the bad guy going at them. yikes. run - kids - run.
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@SilentRose19 (1733)
• United States
22 May 07
I had the same fear before I got married, I was always worried someone was going to hurt me. When I got married and my husband was there I no longer worried, simply because he's trained in combat and there is now a bat under the bed. Lol
@kiran1978 (4134)
• Australia
7 Feb 08
It is hard being a mother sometimes, I worry about lots of things with my children. For example my daughter just turned 12, I am worried about her mixing with the wrong crowd, as she is so innocent at the moment. I am worried that she will get hurt my men physically when she is older like I did. I worry when she walks home from school that she gets back safely. The list is endless, we need to try and stay positive and hope for the best in our kids. Otherwise we could have a break down if we think about all the things that could happen to our kids.