how can you help a friend who doesn't want any help?

Well i kinda figured it was over a man. I was in that situation once, but i was the one pushing everyone away. I didnt want to listen to what anyone had to say. And i lost a lot of friends. But after i ended things they realized what i had been going through and they forgave me for it. As long as she knows your there for her when she needs you thats all that matters. Good luck.

I find this situation very familiar. It happened to me just recently. A friend not wanting any help from me or any of my friend because she thinks we don't or will not understand her. She thinks we don't want her to be happy. That was hard, I was offended and I felt betrayed because what she did was really against my principle as a person. Now she is paying the consequence of her actions. She is now in trouble and none of her friends are there for her anymore because she shove us away beforehand. Some people learn the hard way :). That's her lesson.

I agree with nmhschic2004. Maybe your friend needs time and space. When we are depressed and do not know what to do, we sometimes prefer to be alone. Her mind is still at lost. It is good that she knows that you have already offered a hand to her. And if you are bothered still, you can communicate with her family or her partner regarding the problem. I know she will come into realization in the end, that friends are always there to give a lending hand and a shoulder to cry on.

Like said before you just have to wait. Just make sure she knows that if she ever does need to talk to someone for help then she can talk to you. Then in her own time she might come to you for help.

I understand where you are coming from. You just need to give her some time and maybe some space. Is this over a guy she is dating that you maybe dont like? And if she feels that you dont want her to be happy i am sure in time she will realize she is wrong. I dont think theres much you can do until she accepts your help. I know how it feels and its a miserable feeling. Good luck!