What is it asbout some people?

It is human nature, I suppose. I think after so much time spending on mylot, members get very tired and the mood is very unpredictable. So, when bad mood set in, we become sensitive and any discussions that sensitive in nature will become the target of bad rating or abuse report. And there are also counter attack. A member who is not satisfied with the content of one member's discussion, will start another discussion which maybe a complain or pointing problems. There are also members who failed to find discussion that really attract their interest and they get really frustrated. Either they stop responding or bad rating others. I might be wrong in my views but I do hope we all can get along and stop being mean to others.

I try not to complain because people really don't like to hear complaints. But you are right it seems that instead of counting their blessings they would rather complain and as you say point out why someone else is wrong. I couldn't even say why people do this. It is so much more pleasant to say nice things to people and praise them for what they do.

I don't really think they are happy with complaining. Maybe its just that they are too preoccupied with things that's been bothering them which brings them here in mylot and so they discuss with the people all of their qualms and complaints in life. I sometimes do it too;to actually get others' view of the matter and that really helps me as a person alot. And besides, I don't think Mylot would be as great if every discussion posted are all positive,don't you think so?

I agree with you eskarena. I found it very hard to respond to many discussions yesterday with lot of what you said here going on. I am hoping today will be a better day here on mylot.

I notice this in life also and come to the conclusion that the entire world works on error. The negative side: Our senses are bombarded with examples of criticism. The media only writes what sells, and what is it that sells? War, broken promises, destruction, no integrity whatsoever. Has there ever been a successful newspaper that doesn't have a word of criticism in it? Has there ever been a politician that keeps his promises? That is truly committed? To me commitment means to keep your word, for if you persistently do not do this, the mind begins to function on a contradictive lie. The lie being - "I'll do that, but not really!" This then produces small stresses at a subconscious level and soon life becomes a conflict. There are millions of these subconscious conflicts that we have picked up as we have grown up. And then we wonder why the human race is as it is! The positive side: The more people that can become "honest" and keep promises as if their very life depends on it, the more of a Utopia we will experience on this planet of ours. It is possible, and it starts with each individual practising integrity and what will happen then? What will the example of each of use provide for the rest of us? Would you say that truth and integrity is a celebration of who we really are? I think so. But what we have done is swallow propaganda and bull***t in the belief that we will become happier. Wait a minute.. It sounds as if I have got on to a soapbox here and that was not my intention. It's just that when I look, this is what I'm seeing. I'm not feeling particularly negative, I am looking at what isn't happening, so that I can see what needs to.:-) For anyone who is interested, I have an article on my website on commitment - http://ayrehypnotherapy.com/CommitPower

I think people can easily relate on the bad things that are happening than those good ones. People will talk much about they have been through badly but I guess that is just how people try to feel good when they are able to express themselves, how they are feeling badly. Just like me, I often tell stories about those things that happened to me badly than telling those happy ones. I just don't know but I guess that's how I deal with my problems. I often forget my happy memories...

I really don't know and I am just giving up trying to wonder about it to be honest EsKaren there is just to many nasty People about so personally I am just going to keep out of it all now

I think some people are just born complainers. Oddly enough my ex-husband was one. He would complain that he won the lotto and was handed all big bills as opposed to be gloriously happy that he won! LOL I think it's a matter of make-up and personality. To be honest, I think people online tend to be a bit more "snitty" with others because they don't have to face the person. It's much easier to type your over-boisterous opinion then to have to speak it to someone directly.

human is born crying and live complaining and will die unsartisfied and angry .. i hope it does make sence ...it means as human being lives in problems ,compaining angry ,unsatisfied and we will ave to put all this blame on some one ..i gues the reason for ever day pointing at each other is justified ... we all ave to blame someone 4 our problems .. that why we are human.. i gues this the best response so far, rite yeah mmmh .

Too true eskarena. human nature, but not the best feature :) That got to me a few times, but I really am trying hard not to let it bother me. I can't change people and there will always be people that feel better doing that. SO I am just doing my thing and not even pay attention to that kind of stuff - or at least trying hehe Hugs to you

I think it is the drama. Anger makes good theater, and comedy makes better entertainment- my personal theory of life-LOL- and both touch on the irritating details right up to the outrageious issues- but sweetness and light are at hand in the every day and so don't warrant the proscenium arch we all put a personal spotlight on.

Your right people are very negative. I guess that's all they know. Me I'm happy glass half full type of person. I do vent about things on here because it helps me from time to time! Not all people are negative nelly's.

I have a theory that in general some people are missing something in their own life so they run others down. I think in the short term it makes them feel better about themselves. In the long run I honestly believe it does them more harm than good because they will lose friends. The only friends they will have left are other bitter people who like running people down. This of course will include their friends. It is better to celebrate the good in people, than to consistently find bad things to say. I suppose the human spirit is flawed in this way, but I believe in the long run it is better to look for the good in people. That is my theory anyway.

I think the reason is because it makes them feel better about themselves....seems when all is good with you ...you find the "good" in people..

Most of the people do see the negatives in others.This is true rather than appreciating the qualities of others we often want to see what is wrong with others forgetting completely what is bad in us.actually it is human tendency to always complain & remain negative.