Postpartum
By wendee
@wendee (359)
Canada
May 22, 2007 10:27am CST
Has anyone had postpartum? How long did yours last? Was it severe or mild?
I am asking this because I had PPD with my 18 months old but kept it to myself. I would classify it as well, more than mild but less than severe LOL if that makes sense!
I had a baby about 4 1/2 months ago and know that I had PPD pretty bad for about the first 3 months. I thought I ws getting better but recently i have hit a slump. My Dh husband knows that I have dealt with this but he thinks I am over it.
Is it ok that I am scared to go to a doctor? I am ashamed and sad and tired of being like this.
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10 responses
@Zorrogirl (1502)
• South Africa
24 May 07
i had it bad. it scares me thinking about what i went through. i also lost it and started throwing things, hurting myself and blaming myself for being me. i cried about the whole day and night.i thought i was the worst person on earth. i just cant describe it. when i went for my 6 weeks check up, i cried in the waiting room and while seeing the gyne i couldnt speak through the sobbing. she immediately gave me pills and i felt better 3 weeks later. but its 2 years now and its not over yet. i feel so helpless.
@Foxxee (3651)
• United States
23 May 07
I had postpartum with my daughter. It's nothing to be ashamed of. DO not let anyone tell you different.
I felt the same way at first. I told my mother about it and she took me to go see a doctor and she was the one that did all the talking for me because I couldn't. The doctor asked me questions and I was honest with him. Everything went okay. He actually put me on medication and it did help me wonders.
I didn't have a bad case. I was more a mild then anything. Postpartum can be many things. It's best to see a doctor and don't be ashamed. This happens.
With my son. I didn't have any signs of postpartum. He is now 16 months.
So, do me a favor... make an appointment with a doctor. It's the best choice. They can help.
And just remember, if you get stressed, don't be ashamed to ask for help.
:)
@toyhamarz (124)
• United States
23 May 07
Please don't be scared to go to a doctor! And tell your husband that you are still depressed because he needs to know. You should bring him with you when you go to the doctor so that he can also understand that it's not usually something you can get over in 3 months. I went almost 8 months denying that I had postpartum, and I wish I had talked to a someone sooner. It got much easier once I realized that so many new moms feel the way I felt. At the very least talk to a family member or a friend who has had a baby, just so you know you are not alone. Good luck Wendee.
@leeesa (884)
• United States
23 May 07
I had it and I believe it was triggered by a miscarriage prior to the birth of my daughter. That was almost 6 years ago and it has never gone away. I don't have symptoms constantly, but periodically throughout the year, especially during the winter. Don't be ashamed. Go to the doctor and let them help you.
@toe_ster (770)
• United States
23 May 07
Yes I have had PPD but didn't realize until much much later. It started out mild when I had my second son. I didn't think anything was wrong, and by the time i did, I was too embarassed to seek help. When I got pregnant the third time, I realized it was out of control. After I had him (a few months or so) I mustered up all the courage I could and I called a dr. I started medication adn things were going ok. A year later I was relapsing and didn't even know it. I thought I was doing ok with taking meds. Instead I tryed a therapist and he explained that it is very common in all types of depression to have a relapse. It is ok to be scared to go to a doctor, but it is serious enough that you have to seek help. there is so much help out there. I think the hardest parrt of depression is reaching out, and you already did by starting here. You can do it.
@Akeela (2078)
• Trinidad And Tobago
22 May 07
I think im still think im going through it actually im still depress not happy with the changes and know my husband is harly supportive somethings I just think to end it but my son is my Major priority and my son is 22 months...When I try talking you know peole will asked me you have nothing to be sad about so i just suffer it alone.... Good luck to you do hope you come out of it as soon as possible.
@Blazing15 (333)
• United States
22 May 07
I had my daughter 3 years ago and I went through bad PPD. I was throwing stuff and talking about just running my car into a pole. My husband I didn't think knew the extint of it. I didnt want to go to the doctor though. I felt ashamed. I know that it is something that some women go through after having a child but I didn't want that to be me. I still thought that at times I was really depressed. I didn't want to go out anywhere or talk to anyone on the phone or anything. We decided to have another child and my fear was having the PPD after we had this baby. Well I had a little bit but nothing like I did with my first child. I still feel depressed sometimes and I know that I need to go see a doctor because it's only going to get worse if I don't talk to someone and get something done. I feel for you and I hope that you go to the doctor like I am going to. I would suggest also sitting down with your husband and telling him that you still feel this way sometimes and that you would like him to go with you to the doctor so that you both can have a little more insight on it.
@Melissa528 (744)
• United States
22 May 07
I'm sorry Wendee but you NEED to see a Dr. I'm pretty certain that I suffered from PPD with my son. It took me MONTHS before I built up enough courage to see a Dr. You're not a weirdo for asking for help and PPD is fairly common and TREATABLE. Do yourself a favor (as well as your family) and see a Dr. Together you both could work on a way to make yourself feel better. Good luck!
@Gorgeous24 (1091)
• United States
22 May 07
Wendee trust me when I say this...YOUR NOT ALONE IN FEELING THIS WAY!! Millions of women have this same issue everyday of their life but you CAN get help for this. Dont be embarassed to seek help for postpartum because your going to get the help you need not only so you can feel better about yourself but so you can also feel better about life in general. Its good your asking for advice because it shows you want help and there is sooo much that can be done for this.
I know your sad right now but just think how much better life could be for your whole family if you just get help. If you dont im worried that this minor case of postpartum can grow into something else if its not treated.
DONT EVER BE ASHAMED OF ADMITTING TO SOMETHING AND ASKING FOR HELP..THATS WHAT THE DOCTORS ARE THERE FOR.
I wish you the best of luck and I know you can overcome this.