What will you do when someone hurts your feelings

Nigeria
May 22, 2007 1:01pm CST
As human beings, there is always a certain time when people will hurt us badly but the issue is how to handle such situation. So many people believes that payback is the best way to handle situations like this but this is not true. The only way a guy will feel sorry for his deed is when you let him know his wrongs in a polite manner. There is no way two wrongs will ever make a right all you have to do is to control the situation with wisdom. But to so many people, they prefere violence. Now tell me. If you love one hurts your feeling, how will you handle it?
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SEOGUY
@SEOGUY (906)
• United States
16 Dec 07
In most cases no one can hurt my feelings, It is not what they say but my understanding of what they are saying. Loved ones though are different becouse they have an intamate bond and deep trust. When a loved one hurts me, I first look at the situation, and I ask myself a few questions. Were they trying to hurt me? If no I think no mare of it, it was not an attack. If the answer ios yes, then I try to understand their motivation of trying to hurt me. Maybe i said or did something that they Persived as a hurtfull attack on them, if so I am the one to appologize, and do not exspect them to appologize though they will almost always do though. A loved one has your trust, and therefor knows your weak points, if a loved one was to try to hurt me on one of these points, I would not be angry at them for I have exsposed myself to them If I can not understand their attack I would ask them why they would find it neccary to try and hurt me? Therefor knowing and understanding their resoning the hurt is nullified. Non of us are perfect and we make mistakes, Vilance is not an answer to words, only compasion and understanding can take the sting from words. And only your own perseption of your self can couse you pain.
joycer
@joycer (498)
• Sri Lanka
22 May 07
I am really a sensitive person. I usually cope up by crying. If there is a close friend that I can talk to , or just listen to me, it will help ease the pain. Sometimes I try to confront the person and tell him he has hurt me. I want to settle things because I do not want to have a grudge in my heart. I believe that when a person has done wrong there is a karma. I think that is the payback. I do not need to get even because I know that if he has given me pain or hurt my feelings, it may happen to him too. And violence is a no no for me.
cipher2004
@cipher2004 (1183)
• United States
22 May 07
I seem to pretend that it does not bother me.Then I cry about it by myself.When I figure out that it is stupid to cry about it I confront them.I wait until I am not angry anymore.Then I approach in a polite way.Paybacks are just stupid.Remember"What goes around comes around".