Not A Good Morning At Work

Wow, you were in a situation I would not want to be in. If the other worker had been there say, five years or longer, I probably would not have said anything. If she was relatively new, less than 5 years, I might have asked her to speak privately, and then explain my reasoning. Some people might not think this is a problem, but it is. You are not overeacting. The only saving grace is that the lady patient has you to look after her. Having someone who truly cares is the best medicine of all.

what you did was right. Too bad the other worker has a blind side. Hopefully the lady got enough to eat to tie her over until lunch. It's too bad things like this have to happen. Everyone deserves to eat!

Thats so sad you would think the guy with his cereal and grapefruit would have been polite and gave her atleast half the banana , just out of common courtesy ... I think there should have been enough for her since she is a resident , it should have been a priorty that there was enough for everyone ... I think you handled it the only way you could , but maybe you should take it up with the boss , so it won`y happemn again ...

I do believe you were right, but hopefully it all went well. Maybe they knew that the male would be more agitated than the female. You could have actually gave both of them a half of banana. Put some in his cereal and gave her some with her applesauce.

I think you did the best you could do under the circumstances. If you have access to the MAR you could check to see if the female in question has been ordered a high potassium diet, in which case the banana probably should have been given to her. My response would have been to offer to go and get some bananas so both of them could have some. My two cents on this subject.

Are they allow to pick out what they want to eat? I wouldn't want to be in that situation but I would feel bad for the lady that is of she wanted it. Knowing me I probably would stay out unless the lady wanted it.

I think you should have said something. I understand your resistance...since you haven't been there long...but that's not right. Why should this poor woman be degrudged her daily breakfast. I'm sorry but one banana is not a breakfast in my books..not even two...but that is her choice. This man could have been a gentleman and given up the banana since he had a hearty breakfast to begin with...next time let her have her banana...

I would have documented what happened, and see if it continues to happen. Both residents have rights, but if the male is more likely to have a strong reaction, the other worker may be trying to avoid a volatile situation. I agree that you need to check up on the dietary requirements listed for each of them. It sounds like whoever does the shopping for your facility goofed up this time. I think the banana should have been divided between the two of them. People with special needs do get very tied into their own routines. I have a great deal of sympathy for you.

Think I would have took the bowl of ceral and gave it to the woman are they tring to starve her?

I would of went to the store on my break, lol....Or since you work that shift, I would of went after I got off work and took a whole bunch of bananas back to her. That is rediculous and I see your point! I used to work in a nursing home. This one lady (who stopped developing at age 2) would absolutely FREAK out if something green was ever placed in front of her. She would throw whatever it was, food, dish, toy, whatever....Well, one day one of the nurses who was a very very unpleasant person, tried to force her into eating some green beans. This REALLY upset this lady. And it was unneccasary. I had only been there a month or two when this happened also and I went off on her. She had no reasoning for doing it and she ended up getting in trouble for it. Although that situation is different from yours, don't be afraid to say something! Those people need people like us! They NEED someone to stand up for them! I loved that job and will go back into it when I figure out what to do with my half a dozen kids, lol. Good luck and take care....Take some bananas with you to work tomorrow! :-)

I think your right the female should of had the banna since it was the only thing to put into of her.I think the should have taugth of that before using the banna.he even could have shared it with her.

Did the woman say anything about the apple sauce instead of the banana- or isn’t she able to speak- I used to work in a State home and a lot of the clients could not speak. I would have thought that she should have gotten the banana also- If that is all she eats in the morning- How sad- Perhaps the other worker thought that the woman would relate ok to not having it and the man would not have- I think that no-one can give a good answer to what was right without actually knowing and working with these people. I would bring it up to a supervisor or another worker in the house to see what they think. If they agree with you then perhaps talk to the other worker- Maybe they just weren’t thinking- It becomes routine to make something the same way if that is what they are used to doing-

It is too bad that you were put in that situation. It seems to me that the ones who do the shopping would understand that they need to keep bananas if they have several people that eat them for breakfast. You were exactly right in deciding that she should have the banana if that was the only thing that she eats. I don't think it was right that the male patient got all of that to eat and she got applesauce. I believe that I would speak to someone in charge about this. It is a good thing that people like you exist in the world to help others who can't help themselves.

Well you have a good reason to be upset as far as I can see. If that's really the female wants to eat, then they should have given it to her, I would have been mad and probably said something I would have regretted LOL. I think that was really wrong of them for what they did. I'm sorry the day wasn't very good for you, hopefully it'll be better the next day :)

It always sucks to get into an argument in front of your clients, so I maybe would have suggested that we split the banana and I would have given the chick like 3/4 of it and given the man the rest cut up in his cereal. Because you are right, that man had a pretty substantial breakfast even without any banana and the woman had the banana as the main feature of her breakfast. Sometimes it's hard to think on your feet though, especially when you are trying to preserve harmony and not cause a scene but still make your feelings known. Maybe you could talk to the guy privately next tiem and just say you were a bit concerned about the woman's nutritio needs and the decision to give the man the whole banana. I don't know, maybe the other worker had some information you didn't? Like maybe the guy throws a big fit or something if he doesn't get his banana and he didn't feel like dealing with a tantrum? idk just a thought. I think it is sweet and good that you were concerned about the woman though. I think a lot of people in the helping professions get burnt out after a while and they stop caring, so it's good to see that your heart is in your work, as it always should be.

That is not nice at all. The other worker I mean. She should have agreed with you and gave the banana to the female patient. This is just me but I would have argue my point with her more. I would have explained to her that it is only fair for the female patient to get it since that is all she usually eats. Maybe you could take an extra banana to work so the female patient could have hers too when there is only one left. :)

I tend to have a soft spot for people who I dont think are being treated fairly. I probably would tried to as professionally as possible explain my reasoning to the other worker, and when it was ignored, spoken to their superior. Though I can see your reluctance to do so having only been there a month. I agree that with as little as the woman had and everything the man got, she should have had the banana.

Wow, what a situation you where in, I feel the lady should have spoken for herself if she was present there and you would have supported her later. We need to talk for ourself. I know it sounds selfish but that is what i would do. I would talk to that person and if he says he wanted it then might be i would have left it for him. If he is okay not having it then that would be for me. We need to talk and sort out things ourselves rather than somebody talking for us.

Pretty unfair treatment of that poor woman. The fellow had plenty food, so I don't understand how that other worker could defend giving him the banana. A banana and 2 glasses of orange juice doesn't even seem adequate, and to then not let her have the banana is not right. I don't know what I would have done, but I would definitely watch that person to see what other kinds of messed up stuff they do, and you could have a little talk with them. If that doesn't work, you could report them. Make sure you document everything accurately.I feel bad for those poor people who are supposed to be taken care of. It's a good thing you're there to watch out for them.

I think you have a tough situation but I would have to say that I would try to talk to the other worker to come up with something mutually okay with the both of us. I am curious as to how much control did you have with the food rations or was it something you do not have control over. Because if the situation was that I was able to get my hands on some additional food, I would most likely hand one for the female patient so she gets her portion.