Would you tell your spouse you lost it ?
@sojournseeker (1244)
United States
May 22, 2007 10:49pm CST
You checked your steps backwards and forwards. You re-checked last places it could of been. You searched for the most obvious place. It is still not there. You are sure you had it when you left. Now you don't and you are not sure how your spouse is going to handle loosing the very expensive wedding ring she or he purchased.
If you do tell, is it "the whole truth--like it fell in the disposal, or the toilet, or slipped off finger and rolled into whatever OR do you just simply say "I don't know where it went" and face consequences ?
Or do you go this route:
{Can} you not tell and find some way to replace it or ?
sharing the light,
Erica, the Enlightenment Advisor, M.A. Transpersonal Psych Studies Counselor
http://www.enlightenment-psych.net/ericasprofile.htm
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8 responses
@maurs99 (55)
• Australia
24 May 07
That's a hard one but as I get red in the face if I lie, I would have to tell the truth but try to find a way of replacing the ring.
I guess the lesson is that the person would have to appreciate that you are truthful and guilty. That builds trust in a relationship. I would much rather be considered careless but trustworthy than found to be a liar.
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@sojournseeker (1244)
• United States
24 May 07
Now that is a very mature and honest answer especially with the 'give-away' of adrenaline rushing right to your face making it nearly impossible to mask the truth . . . I just love facial expressions and what emotions do to the color of them, don't you ?
Thank you so kindly for sharing, what a great guy your gal is hooked up with !
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@sojournseeker (1244)
• United States
24 May 07
Now, see there I go assuming you were a gentleman instead of a lady and proceeded to comment making myself known as "not looking to the poeple who comment before responding back". I apologize for not determining your gender before I posted. Thank you for your sincere response and your guy is very lucky to have a woman who seeks to resolve through truth than meander through lies !
sharing the light,
Erica, the EnlightenmentAdvisor, M.A. Transpersonal Psych Studies Counselor
http://www.enlightenment-psych.net/ericasprofile.htm
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@serialmommy (639)
• United States
23 May 07
I avoided this kind of thing by purchasing our wedding bands at WalMart for $10 a piece. I knew that I would lose mine eventually and my husband does very hard work with his hands, and he didn't want a ring that might get ruined. I do plan on eventually buying a really nice wedding band, but it wouldn't be for every day wear, but for special occassions, like family dinners. In fact, I have lost my ring once already, and I had to buy a larger sized one when I was pregnant, and it was very inexpensive to do so. And I am very thankful that I went that route!
@sojournseeker (1244)
• United States
23 May 07
Thank you serialmommy for that very encouraging, warm, sincere and real honest evaluation of the 'lost wedding band' scenario. The Walmart purchase is a thumbs up cause who really needs a diamond worth 3 grand UNLESS one of the spouses is abusing the commitment and has left the relationship, then you could at least sell the darn thing !
But truly I think diamonds are NOT a woman's best friend--but that is a whole separate discussion in itself, isn't it?
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@GnosticGoddess (5626)
• United States
1 Jun 07
I would tell the truth. I am really careful about my engagement ring and wedding band though. They rarely leave my finger. My hubby on the other hand can't wear his to work so I could see him loosing it by accident sometime. I would be heart broken if he did. Not because of what it cost but because of the symbol it is.
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@healwell (1268)
• Ahmedabad, India
23 May 07
When you try to become truth seeker then you must tell what ever fact is there!
I certainly tell about that, no doubt!
So naturally I need not to go right now to Erica! Am I right, sojournseeker?
@castleghost (1304)
• United States
23 May 07
I would tell my partner the truth. Accidents happen and no one is perfect. She might be a little upset at first but she will help me look for it. She will retrace all of my steps with me all over again, just to make sure that I didn't over-look anything. My partner is a very understanding person so I have no fears in being honest with her.
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@sojournseeker (1244)
• United States
23 May 07
I truly appreciate the sincerity I feel coming through in waves of this maturely-adopted approach. Yes accidents do happen and the truth does set you free in so many good ways before bad. The fact that your significant other is so understanding proves good communication and rational tactics to bring on positive results is a household common for you too. Fantastic and again, thank you so much for sharing . . .
sharing the light,
Erica, the EnlightenmentAdvisor, M.A. Transpersonal Psych Studies Counselor
http://www.enlightenment-psych.net/ericasprofile.htm
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@imisshue2 (4)
• United States
2 Jun 07
Oh telling the truth is always the best thing to do.Mistakes are made all the time! I think it would hurt more if I lied about it.
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@sojournseeker (1244)
• United States
3 Jun 07
Your instincts are probably correct in that a lie would not serve you as well as the truth would. Thank you for sharing.
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@JessyBlue (536)
• United States
23 May 07
I have lost my rings before in someones front yard, they somehow just slipped off. When I told him I made sure to look really upset, so he couldn't get to mad even if he wanted to. He luckily found them after a few hours. If I lose them again, I'll tell him the whole truth, beside I cant lie worth a crap, so lol it'd be no use in trying.
@sojournseeker (1244)
• United States
23 May 07
A good mature approach to adopt when in fact not everything is in our control therefore being equally distressed over it, has now turned a single-hand operation (finding the ring) into teamwork. Next time, well there will try not to be a next time, huh cutie ?
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@roadrat (274)
• United States
30 May 07
if i haven't responded to this yet, i'd just tell the truth or it'll come around and bite you in the a$$ sooner or later. i've lost a lot of sentimentally valuable keepsakes and it hurt but to lie about it would have made it all so much worse.
@sojournseeker (1244)
• United States
30 May 07
Your honsty is much appreciated !
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