Anger Management
By snaresh80
@snaresh80 (24)
India
May 23, 2007 2:51am CST
How destructive do you thnk is anger in one's life. With some practical instances that i faced in life, i feel that Anger is highly destructive. It can spoil yur image in the society, can really create a hatred for you among people.
For instance, One of my friend's girl friend, decided to break-up with him. and she said that she loves everything about him, except for his anger. And that one problem had over shown everything else in him and she wanted a break. She felt that she really loves him but is very scared of him at the same time. Because of that fear, she slowly started feeling away. And now that she has lost that intimacy, she is not able to get it back. She says that "he is eally a good guy by heart and character but somehow i am noy able to regain that intimacy. And without int8imacy there is no meaning in marrying him."
Hence i feel Anger can turn-down one's life if not addressed at the right stage. I feel its a kind of disease that is inculcated in one's prsonality.
What do you feel??
4 responses
@JcHitomi (100)
• Nepal
24 May 07
Anger is viewed as an immature or uncivilized response to frustration, threat, violation or loss. This condition can cause inappropriate expression of anger, such as uncontrolled, voilent outbursts of misdirected or at the other extreme repressing feelings of hatred. Anger management can dealth with empathy, forgiveness, changing self atlk and improving optimism. As the issue of anger varies from person to person, the treatment are designed to be personal and should have a closure with the two parties.
@jeffpaypal (5)
• Singapore
24 May 07
Anger, if it is spontaneous and uncontrolled, it is definitely damaging to oneself & others. However, sometimes one has to intentionally show that he or she is angry just to convey the message that he or she is displeased with certain issues or things. Such intentional showing of anger is alright then.
@mystery5 (350)
• India
23 May 07
Anger is alright, but the loss of control that goes with it is more damaging than anything else. I hope your friend learns his lesson and learns to get a hold on himself now on.
Anger, apart from damaging you in the ways that you have mentioned, is also very harmful in another way - it releases adrenalin into the body, which is really very bad for our bodies in both the short and long term.
I agree that it is a disease inculcated in one's personality, but it certainly can be changed if the person wants to rid himself of it. I know several people who have gotten a complete hold on their anger after they started seriously working on it
@snaresh80 (24)
• India
23 May 07
perfectly right. But self-realization is what matters. Most of the people whom i have seen on such ill temperment are reluctant to realise their flaws. thats where the issue is. While some people really need some counsellig and help, i perfectly agree to your comment the the person can definitely change if he wants to. Thnks for your comments.
@Manoj_s (939)
• India
23 May 07
Anger not only affects the relationship with others it destroys our health also.while at the time ofanger our body will produce lot of unhealthy hormones which is going t o affect the health.also what u sow what u reap and if you are more angry to people they will not like u .but u cant avoid anger fully .sometimes it is necessary to show anger other wise peopple will take advantage of u and to show that u are not happy over the things one has done so that others will be able to correct their wrong doings.but unnesessary anger is not good.
@tyuepsc (189)
• China
23 May 07
Nobody like to make friends with people who has a bad temper coz being with that kind of friends letting you feel nervious and unesay. You should pay attention to every words and behaviour towards him lest he would jump abruptly and throw the things nearby him angrily. It really a terrible experience to be with a person who will be angry easily and for no reason.
So if i were your friends, I would also choose to leave that man quickly. It a judicious decision to aviod the further hurt in the marriage.
