Kids and Listening....

Kids are a curious bundh. Sometimes the only way to ever learnis to do it. When my son was only 2 we would take walks every night. He was very afraid of dogs so we tried to avoid the houses that had dogs in the yard. Well he was pretty insistant on taking this one route that I knew from previous times had a huge dog behind a fence. You couldn't see it, but the dog would run at the fence and jump at it, and it wobbled like it would fall. I talked about and tried to explain it and he wouldn't listen. I warned him again right before we walked ny this fence and asked him to turn back. But he wanted to keep going. He let go of my hand and took off runnig past this house, and sure enough the dog heard him and went into his barking fit. I never say a little boy jump so high in the air before. The look on his face was pure terror. He was so scared he couldn't move foward or back. He was to scared to cry. We made it home withhim in a daze. And to this day (5 years later) he will not walk by that house. The people have moved and the fence has been replaced. BUt he remembers like it was yesterday. I still laugh sometimes when we pass by that house.

Ahhh the old don't put those coins in your mouth and 30 minutes later waiting on an x=ray to see if they are going to pass through okay routine! That is only one of many instances I have been through! If I was going to start telling some of the stories from my 2 we would be here all night Calais! I have tried explaining that there is a reason that I tell them not to do things but hey part of being a kid is not beleiving mum when she tells you not to stick a screwdriver in a plug socket! lol xxx

when i was still a kid, my mom always tells me not to do this and that since it will hurt me. but still, being a hardheaded kid, i still do what she does not want me doing. i always end up hurting myself and realizing that what mom told me was right. and from those experiences, i learned step by step... i learned things the hard way... but atleast, i have learned. d

I told my son not to show gets out to get in through our window, he showed them they stole his game boy and other computer gadget. I told him not to take his new bike out if he was going to play in the park. He took it to the park with a lock on it and somebody stole it anyhow. My son would frustrate me to no end.

You shouldn't tell a kid what NOT to do ;), you should tell it what to do instead. A kid wants to do something and will simply skip the word not there so it can do something. So if you tell a kid not to play on the stairs, it'll go play on the stairs. But if you tell a kid to go play on the floor with his toys instead, not evening mentioning the word stairs, chances are pretty high they'll go play on the floor. And well yeh, as adults we've never really changed from that behavior either ;). If someone tells you not to taste from the dinner before it's served in example as another is cooking, chances are high you'll go in for a quick taste as well in example when they don't look for a second ;).

Children will never listen to you until they see for themselves. Just last week, i asked my niece to stop climbing but it seems to be that each time to tell her, its like i am reminding her of climbing. She would not listen to me instead she keeps climbing all the climbables in the house. The worse of all is that if i try to stop her, she screem as if she wants to pull down the house so i hav no other option than to let her go. But the result is that she will always open her mouth wide after the fall. Children are always like. they want to have their own personal experience of what you are saying.

It is not just about telling the kid not do it. You have to explain to your child why it should not do it... and if you feel it still does not understand... you have to demonstrate it to him. As a parent... you are a teacher... and you have to act like one. Kids are no different than adults. If you tell an adult not to do something... unless you explain to it why it should not do it... it will tell you to go and jump in the lake and will go straight ahead and do it. There are two ways to learn in this life. By lisening or by mistakes. Most people learn by mistakes because they are too lazy to learn... or they don't have someone to teach them. Education start a home with the parents. The parents are meant to teach their kids about life and reality. School are only there to teach kids a language, mathematics, geography and history. But for a kid to be able to learn those things at school... it first need some parents which have prepared it for school and will continue to support it through school.

I was always taught that when you tell a kid not to do something, they don't hear the word don't. EX~Don't jump off the slide....they hear, jump off the slide. I think that I learned this in a college psychology course. Instead you should say~ slide down the slide on your bottom. You are definitely right though, kids will do what ever you tell them not to and then get hurt. Today I told a little girl I was watching not to jump off the slide~ she did, and cut her knee open. After the crying and drama, we talked about why we don't jump off slides. See, I should have said, slide down the slide on your bottom.

I also meet the same story just like you. my little sister always to this ,no matter how many time you tell her don't to do something, she will forget and then do it. if she is hurt, she will rember don't do something for a while,but then she forget again. it is Child, they always forget what we said and we have to tell them again and again. no other way, I think. do you agree?

My daughter kept playing with the standing fan cord. It wasn't on, but I said it will fall on you and hurt you. Well, I know this is horrible I watched her play with it and it fell. I was like this is why we do not play with the fan. Hasn't touched it sense,