How can u evaluate a family bonding?
By daises
@daises (5)
United States
May 23, 2007 9:41pm CST
I m H4 wife, newly wed just settled in USA. My in laws as well as my parents are back in india. We always have some or the other problem in making our parents understand our situation back here. Its not like that if u come to USA u re all done
it takes a lot to settle here. This most of the H4 people's problems.
Does this mean that inspite of our trying best our kind of families are not well bonded? Need ur suggestions and experiences.
1 response
@serenidity (641)
• India
30 May 07
It is really a misconception the whole world has that once you reach USA, it is end of all troubles. Sure, this is a land of opportunities but it is just like any other place where you have to struggle to make best use of the opportunities available. Specially for a person who is newly married and has shifted to a place far away from friends and family, it can get very lonely. These things are however hard to put across to parents who are back home and under the impression that life isn't much of a struggle abroad as it is, in one's own country. Reverse is true I would say. Abroad you are more careful with the money you spend and it takes more time to settle down in new surroundings, job and people. This however does not mean that the family is not well bonded, it is sometimes necessary to share the struggle instead of putting up a brave front all the time.
