Do you treat a child with special needs differently from other kids?

No, I do not, If he is able, he does it. It doesn't matter if it is playing or it is getting in trouble. I have a 12 year old that has CP. When the kids play ball, so does he. He is in a wheelchair, but he plays. I do know what you mean, he even has a Grandma that does that. She yelled at her husband for giving him peanuts. I spoke up and told him it was ok, he has been eating them for years. The only thing that she seems to be able to do with him is give him food. She doesn't really want him playing with her other grandchildrens toys, unless they are already worn out. She is afraid he will break them. Needless to say, we aren't there very often and they never come our way and they are only 10 minutes away.

I have a special needs nephew and I do try to treat him like I treat the other neices and nephew, but he has no talking capabilities, so I am sure that I do. I also have some friends who have a special needs child, with only slight mental retardation, and I do not treat him any differently. He is very outgoing and he loves to play with the other children, we just need to help him out once in a while in a game. I think that society just doesn't know how to treat all the different kinds of special needs children. I try to treat every child the same, but there are some who just touch your heart and you melt. I guess the best news I could give you would just be to state your feelings on the way they treat your son. I am sure he already knows that he is special, they do not have to bring it to his attention. Just ask them to help you in raising your son without the stigma of everyone telling him he can't do things because he is "special". I wish you the best of luck!

My daughter is a special needs child. She has sacral agensis and a heart condition. I refuse to allow anyone to treat my daughter different. I have had family and friends try to leave her out of some things. If my daughter wanted to do these things then I would make everyone allow her to play. If they still wouldn't allow her to play then I refused to allow that person to be around us. My daughter is going to be judge by enough people in her life she doesn't need family and friends to judge her as well. I am sorry that you and your son are having to go through this. Some people just don't realize how much pain and hard feelings that they are causing because of the way that they are acting. You are your sons best advocate. No, we has mothers can't solve every problem but we most certainly try. Any time you want to talk I am willing to listen.

yes, i agree special kids needs special attetion because they have respond to life in some different ways,so they need our attention to let them feel that they belong and that to let them feel that they are important.but in someway they have to be treated not in any way different from the others its because they have some sorts of difficulties.still they have feelings they get hurt,so one should be carefull and sensitive towards them.Treating them in a special way doesnt mean that is because of their abnormalities its because we want them to feel that they are special and we want them to have a normal life.to let them feel they belong.and they exist.

Treat them as normal as you possibly can although they really need some special attention because of their condition but never forget that they're still kids...

Unfortunately, most people just don't understand kids with special needs. I would like to say I wouldn't treat him any differently, but I might. I might pay more attention to him and encourage him to play with the big kids or play with him myself. I wouldn't tell him he couldn't do something, though, especially if I didn't know whether he could. If I were concerned about something he was trying to, I'd probably mention it to his parent or have him ask his parents first. I've seen parents be the one to hold their special needs child back, and I'm glad you don't seem to be doing that.

When I was younger, I would tend to baby all kids, especially the little ones. I have always done this since working with pre-k kids at my high school. I was told to stop babying one of the kids with special needs because they needed to learn to do things on their own. From then on, I would step back and let the kids do things for themselves. The look on their faces when they did it, you could have light up a room with the smiles. I even use that advice with my own kids, now I do baby them every once in awhile, I mean who doesn't.

as a disabled child with polio I was treated no different than my brothers or sisters with I needed a spanking when I was younger I got it as I grew up I was treated differently from other people but not from myt family and today I tell people do not feel sorry for me I Thank the God that I can walk and do things on my own I have a son with ADHD and he is 30 years old now and he is doing great.why can,t people except the handicapped person for who they are on the inside and out.I have always said that a normal person who can not except a disabled child or adult is more disabled than that person with the disability

When my son was at school I used to help out in the classes there. The school had a number of special needs children and I loved working with them all. I never treated any of the children any differently, they were all children and equal. I must say I found my time at the school very reqarding, some of those kids were amazing.

Bless your heart! That has got to be hard on you because children with special needs should not be treated differently. My son has a mild case of autism but if you are around him long enough you can pick up on it fairly quickly. But we have been so blessed that most people do not treat him differently. He has made friends at school who really care for him and the same at church. I hope that your family and friends will start just showing him that they love him for who he is. Sometimes people just don't know what to do or say, I know because I have been in those situations before, but having a child of my own with a special need makes it easier to relate to other children. God Bless You and Have a Wondeful Day!! :)

Hi I am a teachers assisstant and I have worked with special needs children for some time so I can honestly say that I don't treat them diferently, however I feel I have more of an understanding than most people in this situation. I also know how dificult it is for family members to treat the special needs child the same as others, they almost seem to have a fear of them or something. It is the same with the elderly, people think they all can't hear and they yell no matter what. I am not saying it is right because it isn't but I can relate to them. I also have a friend that works with special needs children and she will "vent" some of her frustrations on me and I would also like to offer you the same if you need. Please feel free to contact me if you need someone to talk to about this subject I will gladly listen.