Kissing the hand or forehead of the deceased
By Swtrose
@Swtrose (3385)
Canada
May 24, 2007 2:38pm CST
I was 19 when my father passed away. I still remember how I felt the moment that I saw him in his casket. I bent over and gave him a kiss on the forehead. I still remember hearing whispers from the family. Since then I have buried my daughter and my mother. I was with my mother when she passed away and kissed her goodbye and I held my daughter's cold body after she died. Have you given your love ones a kiss goodbye after they have died? What are your thoughts regarding kissing the deceased. I was reading an article that said, those who kiss the deceased run the risk of being severely affected by ghost. I think that is hog wash if you ask me. lol Have you ever kissed a deceased love one?
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@uniquenorthern (932)
• United States
24 May 07
I have been very fortunate so far in my life to have not lost anyone that is close to me. Some distant, distant uncles and aunts that I never even met passed away a few years ago, but that is different. If it were my own mom, dad, child, or someone close to me, I would kiss them goodbye one last time before they are buried or cremated. It just seems right somehow. At least to me. :)
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@crazynurse (7482)
• United States
24 May 07
Who cares. Even if one is affected by a ghost, it would be a friendly ghost!! I don't perscribe to that theory, and I certainly wouldn't let it stop me from kissing my loved one's deceased bodies if I did believe the theory! I can't imagine that your daughter or father, in their ghost state, would do anything but protect you and comfort you! I too, have kissed the bodies of deceased loved ones. My grandfather, grandmother, aunt and dear friend. To date, I have not been bothered (at least to my knowledge) by ghosts!
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@red158 (333)
• Canada
25 May 07
I don't think that I have ever leaned over and kissed someone in the casket, but I know I kiss my fingers, and touch their cheek or their chest.
I was always taught that if you touched/kissed them that you would not have bad dreams of them. I guess it is like the ultimate closure.
No matter what anyone decides, you do what you are comfortable with. No one should be able to say any different.
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@kitkat1 (1227)
• Canada
25 May 07
I always kiss the forehead of my passed on loved one. This is my way of closure and letting go so they can pass over into the afterlife. I can feel the inner peace in my heart when i do it and i talk to them and tell them how i will miss them but i will see them soon makes me feel so much better. I know my nan was struggle so hard to stay with us when she was battling cancer and i held her hand and talked to her and told her we were all there and it was alright she could go and let go of her pain and the restleness stopped and she was gone. But i think she needed that in order to go.
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@gingisnapz (738)
• United States
25 May 07
My mom does. I don't do it. Not because I think there's anything wrong with it, but just because I'm not the type I guess you could say. My mom always has kissed the forehead of loved ones who have passed. Now, I was holding my grandmother's hand when she passed away. I held onto her while she took her last breath.
@codystaub (16)
• United States
25 May 07
Well, I was with my grandfather when he passed away and I kissed him on the forehead. I see no problem with it. I don't believe in the superstitious stuff associated with it either. Just do what feels right to you.
