What can you say when ur BF dump you because he's in love when someone else?
By araphoenix
@araphoenix (209)
Philippines
May 24, 2007 10:03pm CST
I experienced this kind of bad fairy tale. I was dumb by my x-bf and that time I still love him, but then he dump me and chooses with the woman who is much better than me! ouch!do I deserve this one? all I've done was to be better gf for him!
Still, I wasn't mad at him, eventhough his lying,making false alibi...
Good thing, I moved on, but really a bad experience
15 responses
@Superfluous (284)
• Philippines
9 Jun 07
Yes, because you deserve someone better.. someone who won't leave you for some other woman. Someone you love and could love you back. Someone who will be happy with you all along. So you deserved to be freed from a prison with pain and betrayal. :)
@araphoenix (209)
• Philippines
9 Jun 07
wow that was a tough advice coming from you ka, thanks for the envouragement, I wish I could be smarter like Mr. Fugisawa in the Liar Game, so I could deceive people like him.. joke! I am really affected with that story... reallly
@araphoenix (209)
• Philippines
9 Jun 07
yah.. I surely agree on you. somehow the man who trully deserves me will come, and I don't want to stick with that awful guy ... I will surely be happy without him
@nagalloyd (9)
• Philippines
5 Jun 07
Just look for another guy thats all you need to do. if He really loves you he wouldn't left you from the start. There are many guys out there. Just don't loose hope. That all you need to do. Move on!!
@araphoenix (209)
• Philippines
7 Jun 07
yah, I already moved on... tnx 4 d advice, in fact I found another.
@impaktita (965)
• Philippines
28 May 07
this has never happened to me yet cause I'm usually the one to dump the guy before. I'm engaged now and doing things right lol.
however if this was to happen of course I'll probably get hurt. Maybe even try to find the girl who ruined our relationship and do something to her lol. but then again if a guy makes up his mind it is very rare for them to change decisions! sO the best way is to just let go and move on. besides theres so many guys to choose one. enjoy single life for now and just go with it till you meet someone new:)
@nnsb75 (632)
• United States
28 May 07
well, your not the only one who had that experience, it happens to me too a long time ago and the worst thing is he left me for my bestfriend, i was so hurt at that time because of all the girls out there, my bestfriend whom i consider and treated like a sister betrayed me, but its all good now, i actually feel thankful that he left me coz i found a much better man than him which i feel so lucky and blessed to have as a husband and a father of my child.
@lrincon1 (157)
• United States
25 May 07
I would be very devastated, I don't even want to think about it, I'm a very sensitive person but I can get over something in minutes, but not something like that. I think I would be mad at first but then I would act like I got over it but I would still feel hurt inside. When you love someone you want the best for that person and if he thinks the other girl is better for him I would support his decision, there's nothing else I could do besides cry everyday at night in my bed where no one can see me and hope that one day he realizes that he made a bad decision.
@araphoenix (209)
• Philippines
25 May 07
yah...good for you , It hasn't already happen to you... well, let's pray for that stupid guy!
@latsmom (824)
•
7 Jun 07
I think anyone who does not think you are worthy does not deserve you in the first place. If someone does that o me Iwoudl wish them well just to let them think they meant nothing anyway and even though being upset on the inside I woudl not let them see this. You are so much better than this guy and you can show that by moving on as you have done and youwill find someone who loves you for who you are.
@cecillecarmela (3818)
• Philippines
4 Jun 07
NO!!! Don't ever say that. Don't ever say that other girls are better than you. Each one of us is shaped uniquely. Each has its own uniqueness and everyone deserves to be accepted. Never let yourself down just because of a heartbreak. And never think your worthless just because you have felt unworthiness on others.
I think it's better if you assess on your personality first before you love someone else. Know your strengths and weaknesses, know your likes and dislikes and most especially, you should realize your worth! EVERYONE deserves to be respected, and if he can't give it on you, better leave him.
I have experienced this kind of situation. I know it's hard leaving your boyfriend because he have dumped you and he had another girl. It's hard, but it takes a lot of guts. Prove him (or to others) that you demand RESPECT as a person and most especially, as a girl. If others can't give it to you, don't settle and waste your time on them.
I know it's hard, but you just have to be strong. Good luck to you. No girl deserves to be treated as such! Always be a nice lady. Be yourself and demand respect on others. I know you can do it. Realize your worth. and God bless you a lot!!!
-lots of love,
cecillecarmela
@pearl_angel (42)
• Philippines
4 Jun 07
When youre hurt, its okey to flirt, to date, to hate, to mingle with other people, to drink, to cry, to laugh out loud, to scream and to dance wild. You know why?
Because when your hurt you dont owe anybody any explanation on how you choose to repair what that person broke live your life as you wish, until your whole again.
@pearl_angel (42)
• Philippines
4 Jun 07
there's a word called KARMA. He may not realize it for now but in the long run it will haunt him down like a theft in the night. Yes, its a bad habit to play with others feelings and pretending that he wasn't doing anything wrong. FOOL! who are you kidding? A two year old? Even a baby could sense your doing something wrong.
To tell you honestly, My ex introduce us and told me that she was his classmate. DuH!!!! The first time I lay my eyes on her I knew there was something wrong. Its not that I was imagining things but I sense it. Girls have this ill gut feeling when someone will do them harm.
And I wasn't wrong. Trust your instinct.
@devilinu (105)
• India
7 Jun 07
u know wat?....u shud hv stopped him....
n told him that u wanted the pleasure of dumpin a loser like him.....
sorry if i said nething to hurt u...but really dumpin sum1 4 another is stupid....wat guaratees that he wont dump her too 4 sum 3rd gal cuz shes better than the 2nd one......