can you just fall out of love?

Falling out of love is not a choice, it is a result of certain experiences that one happens to have. Yes, you can wake up one fine morning to realise that you no longer love that person. Although it is said that love is often blind, there are some grounds that are responsible for creating this feeling or the emotion of love. If those grounds disappear, it is likely that there would be change in the feeling or the emotion of love.

Yup, it is possible and I have experienced it. I have a boyfriend for almost 6 years (from high school to college). Thereafter, I worked out of town after my college graduation. One day I just realized that I did not love my boyfriend anymore. Of course there was a third party involved, and he could be the reason why I just fell out of love with my bf for 6 years. I could not believe myself, nor my friends because I really loved him for years. I admit, I was two-timing that time; I did not have the guts to break up with my former bf. Much to the dismay of my late mother...she thought I was being unfair to my bf (the former). Well, did it have a happy ending? Yes...he, he. You see the person as the "third party" is now my husband for 26 years!

i am in love with a girl wfor about over 2 years now. day by day my love for here increases.if you really love a person trully then there is no way you will want to leave tat person. even we have a lot fights but after them we get more closer. true love never falls back

I definitely agree with Norstar. It is not a choice. There are circumstances which are inevitable where your love for the person disppears eventually. It may be abrupt or a long process. I used to love a person but I am not quite sure if it is true love or just a puppy love. I did not like the way he acted with a some situations. One day I woke up, not liking him anymore. I realized I did not love him, when I saw him, I was not excited seeing him at all. We can not tell our hearts who to love and not love. We will just feel it.

yes..its possible.. according to READERS DIGEST may 2006 edition, love only last not more than a year. 8-10 months if im not mistaken. after that its upto the two of you how to keep or how to maintan the commitment. Love is the first step but its the commitment to each other thats really matter.

Same thing with me. I fall out of love with my x-bf and find myself falling for another one. Falling out of love is not a choice because you don't want to what you feel for the reason that you might hurt another. All you have to do is to confront him so he won't assume that you love him still.

when someone falls out of love, there is always a valid reason for it. there are others who will say that they do not know why, they just found themselves not in love anymore. there are times when we might not have given it any thought. there are some things that the other one did that has caused one to fall out of love. it could have been an offending word spoken, or a misdeed, or lack of care and attention. recognized or not, acknowledged or not, there is always a valid reason.

I don't think that you can fall out of love with someone I think you lose the love you have for someone. If you are in love with someone it can always last as long as the two of you are still giving like before. I'm not saying it's not possible because it could be but I think someone was not feeling completly loved.

yes it happens, for me. in a snap i dont have any feelings for the person realizing he's not worth it =) well sometimes its a choice, when there are a lot of reasons to let go of the relationship.

I am now on my 4th marraige and yes, I have just fallen out of love, it seems. I think that the concept of 'love' is so much different to the reality of love. We can mistake romance as love and lust as love. When you love a person - it's gotta be warts and all - and that's where I fail. I have the 'Mills and Boon' love philosophy and feel that if I don't passionately love my partner, then I can't really love him at all. I don't really think that falling out of love is a decisive choice, I think it's either a realisation that we never really 'loved' him/her or an experience (or many) that kills the love we had. But then, as I say, I am on my 4th marraige, so perhaps I don't really know what I am talking about at all.