Starting over again

I would not blame myself at all in situations like that. Who knows why people do the things they do? We can't get into other people's minds and know their thoughts. Perhaps he was afraid of getting too involved in this relationship and being cruel was his way of backing out of it. His way of breaking the attachment. Maybe it's all for the best and it just wasn't meant to be. Take care of yourself and your precious children. Love sometimes happens when you aren't even looking for it. Good luck!

I have had some doozies with my husband. But we don't fight very often. About once every six months or so we "clear the air". A lot of things get said and done in the heat of anger and we forget who we are hurting and that we care about those people. If it happens all the time it's probably not healthy and ending the relationship is sometimes the best thing. But, if it's something that happens on occasion and afterward you can talk like adults, then it can be healthy to blow off some steam.