Kids! Too much pressure!!

Your situation is actually not entirely uncommon. Society as a whole and the parents of adult children generally automatically assume that having and wanting children is "normal" and expected and whenever someone comes along that doesn't fit that mold, they start to freak out. They call you weird, unhealthy, selfish, immature, insane, and the ever popular "you'll regret it" guilt trip in order to try to "shock" you into being "normal". I will tell you right now: There is NOTHING wrong with NOT wanting children. That is your right and ability to choose. Procreation is an ENTIRELY personal decision and you can't let anyone ever force you to go against what you truly want. If you have kids just becuase someone told you that you had to or should, it will honestly do nothing but make you and your subsequent children miserable. It's much, much better to realize before hand that you don't want kids, than to wait until after you're already saddled with them. I myself am only 20 years old and engaged to be married next year to a 22 year-old man. He has a brother who is about 4 years younger than he. Last year, his younger brother came out to his parents that his g/f was 6 months pregnant. They not only accepted it, but they exhaulted it. They took in the pregnant girl, bought every and anything they could want on their meager paycheck. Did not once ever pressure either of them to get a job, and they were both high school drop-outs. The only thing they did was simply assume that they were now going to get married. The boy was 17 and the girl was 18 when they got married at the Justice of the Peace on 6-6-06. His parents constantly refer to them as "the precious family". "You're brother already has a family to support, he's a real man now, what good are you?" My fiance got engaged in May of last year and we never even got a simple congratulations from his family, much less any kind of respect. Yet he was forced to wish *them* a congratulation on the blessed birth? I haven't seen them in over a year and Idon't think they are even coming to our wedding.

I just wanted to point out that where you state that your at an age where 'you should' have kids. There is no time anyone 'should ' have kids. If you and your husband have for what ever reason decided you do not want children, then people should respect your choice. I do not think this is at all selfish,what is selfish about making choices for your own life that will make you happy. Have you told your mum that she makes you feel this way and that you and your hubby have made a decision not to have children. My antie and her husband now both nearly 40 have never wanted children and never did. They are both happy with their careers and enjoy their life. If they had bowed to others pressures to have a child even though they didn't want one then they would not have the life they have today. Everyone has the right to choose if they want or do not want kids, and no one is a better person for the choice they make. People are happy with and without kids, it is uo to the iundividual.