house work

Your partner may do 12 hour shifts but he probably gets a couple of days off. You do 24 hour shifts 7 days a week. While I agree that it may not be fair to expect your partner to do housework after coming home from work, it would be fair to ask him to help on his days off. If you feel ill and have a child who is ill to look after as well don't worry about when you do the dishes as long as they get done.

I am in the same boat as you are. My husband works any where from a 12 hour day to a 14 hour day and like you I do not expect much help at all with the house work. You know I leave the dishes all the time over night. My son wakes up at about five am so I just make sure they get done before my hubby gets up. I know how tired you can be at the end of the day.

I don't feel guilty if I am behind with the housework because I may be staying at home but I am working too, I got school, I got a 3 year old to look and to top it of, I am expecting. Sometimes, I have my ironing board on the corner for 2 days in a row because I can't iron everything all at once. Right now, I got pots and pans soaking in the sink with water and soap. I got clothes in the washer to be transferred to the dryer. Before, I go crazy if I don't finish everything but then I realized that I need to wind down especially on weekends where my husband can watch our toddler and I can have a few hours rest. My husband helps me around the house too but then as a housewife, we are on the go majority of the day and we do need to relax a little bit to recharge so we can do more. If we don't slow down, it will affect our health. I am not saying that being behind with the household chores will be having such a messy house but things can wait as long as the house doesn't look like it a broom or a vacuum haven't passed it for months.

What a pity! Do you feel well now? Add oil~~

I feel the same way you do, but also agree with what some of the others have said as well. My husband steps up on his own to help if I am unable to get things done and on his days off. We discussed this early on and I told him that while I do not expect him to help, if it is something HE really wants done and I am unable to do it, then he needs to take the initiative and do it. He hates dishes in the sink so he will wash them after work if I leave them. Personally, I try to get the "important" things done each day and fit the other things in as I am able. I hope you and your daughter get to feeling better soon.

I can empathise with your approach as my partner also works long hours, five days a week. As I freelance and tend to be home more, I do almost all the housework. Having said that, my partner always tidies up after dinner. We do have a dishwasher though, and that does help tremendously. However, what doesn't fit in the washer, he always does by hand. So in answer to your question, we don't leave dishes until morning but if we didn't have the dishwasher and were not feeling well, I'm sure that we would. Hope you're feeling better very soon.

sorry to hear about you and your doing feeling sick. i hope you two feel better soon. my husband to be and i talked about the chores. and he is willing to share the chores with me especially with the laundry and dishes... i'm lucky! and there are times when i leave the dishes until the next morning. my siblings usually go to the kitchen most of the time even after dinner to look for food to munch while they are playing online games. and so, better to wash them until the next morning.

I am not a house wife and am a working woman but the thing is that one neeeds to realize that when a lady is at home she has a good amount of work at her disposal and is not free. Her work is equally hard and if we note its without a weekly holiday which our spouses enjoy. So they should be there to help us out. Especially in your case when you are not well the help should move in on their own. I personally never wash the dishes so they are kept overnight and the maid moves in during the morning and washes them.

Good to meet a woman like who is patiently doing all household choirs while husband is at work. Yes, sometimes I leave the dishes til the morning because when I feel exhausted in all works, but as long as my husband is in good sound, well I can accomplished many things at home!

You should keep easy.So work so tired without much sleep may threaten your health.

As long as both you and your hubby are happy with your roles in your home, that's all that matters. My man also works 12 hour days and often 6 days a week - so he likes to relax on his day off. I'm home with our kids 24/7 by choice. I homeschool them and I love it. And my kids are old enough to pitch in and help with keeping our home tidy. It may not be neat, but it's clean.