Were Your Children Planned, Pleasant Surprises, Or Pains Of Reality?

Our daughter was concieved on the night of my high school graduation. She was suprise and loved very much. I never considered her a mistake nor never considered her unwanted. Then it took two years for me to get pregnant with our son. Growing up my twin sister and I where told we where not wanted. We where told that because there is two of us we had to share everything. Mom was and still is a wicked selfish person. I told her one time "If you did not want us they why din't you use birthcontrol?" She darned near killed me for that one. She kicked my twin down a hill one time and darned near killed her more than once. I never told my children that they where not wanted or that they where a mistake. I will tell you I am not perfect and I did make mistakes, but not the same ones mom did.

My first daughter was a pleasent surprise but my second was planned . Our third child was our miracle baby as we were told we would never have anohter child again after I had repeated miscarriages and had , had a difficult pregnancy and delivery with my first two children . It took eight years for us to have another child but we proved them all wrong when they said I would never have another one . Our next child was another pleasent surprise , I figured it was going to take another eight years so was stunned to find out that I was due with her right after I decided we would try for another one and then our fifth child was a child we took in to live with us and is a part of our family so she was a pleasent surprise as well . My children mean so much to me and I went through a lot to have each and every one of them and even for the one's that were not planned they were just as exciting to find out about and were wanted just as much . I have never understood people that say there children were unwanted , even if one is not trying for a child , after you find out you are pregnant and go the nine months of carrying your little one and then delivering them , I don't know how you could after all this , still say they were unwanted . My children were the most wanted of anything I have ever had in my life and had I not miscarried all the times that I did , we would have been a huge family . Although we are still considered a big family with five children , I have to say that I love it and would never trade it for anything in the world .

My first was a surprise, and then that was going to be it for us. Seven years later we had another surprise. I am so blessed with both.

I guess I would say my son was a pleasant surprise. We wanted to have kids pretty early. We were planning on trying about 6 months after we got married. Well, we got married May 14th, and according to the first ultrasound, our baby was conceived May 15th or 16th! It was a little bit earlier than we had expected, but we were really happy.

My son was a pleasant suprise. We were trying to get pregnant for over a year and it didn't happen. We gave up and I advanced in my career. Without even noticing, my period was late, I just got really tired and someone mentioned I could be pregnant-and I was!

I can honestly say that all 3 of my kids were planned. There is a reason for each one of them having life today! They each know of their particular story and love to share it with their significant others.

My oldest 3 were all "accidents". Accidents in the loosest sense of the word since we weren't exactly taking huge measures to prevent pregnancy. They are each a year apart (born in 2000, 2001 and 2002) and all by c-section. We said when we finally moved out of my dad's house we would try for #4. We moved in June 2005 and I was pregnant by July and found out in August. We had only just started discussing it seriously in July (probably after I was already pregnant) and hadn't decided yet when we wanted to start trying, lol. She was half planned and born in April 2006. I don't regret any of them despite the headaches they give me. They are almost 7, 5 1/2, 4 1/2 and almost 14 months old now.

My daughter was a pleasant surprises. Me and my exhusband had just gotten back together and a month later we found out we were pregant. The marriage didn't work out but I have a beautiful daughter that I love so much. Do you have any kids?

i only have baby daughter, who is now 5 1/2 months old.... i guess id say it was planned. i was married in dec 2004 and was trying to get pregnant for a year. i consulted the obgyne and found out that i had to treat by polycystic ovarian syndrome. then i had to take some meds to ensure the my egg cell will mature... and after amonth of taking it... i was pregnant.... gave birth dec 6 2006. we are planning to have another baby soon because that is the advice of the doctor because i am having difficulties of becoming pregnant again.... 3 kids is fine with me, 2 boys and 1 girl.... :)

All of mine were surprises if you want to say that i mean i never tried to prevent them so you might want to call them planned but either way i wanted every single one of them I have 3 and i should have 4, My oldest is 6 then almost 4 and almost 2 and i should have an almost 5 year old but i think if things didnt go wrong then i wouldnt have my youngest now, i would have stopped at 3 no matter what and that is what i did i had a c-section for all of my births so that last time that i was on that table they cut tied and fried my tubes for me, becasue i didnt want anymore and i really couldnt according to the doc he said it was a bad idea because of all the scaring from my surgeries, and it also seemed as if i was pregnat all the time i missed celebrating my 21st bday my 22nd, 23rd, and 25th birthdays properly. lol

My son was not planned at all, but then again we were not doing anything to prevent it. He is the best thing to ever happen to me and if I had to do it over again I would even though me and his dad are not together any more. I was 22 when I got pregnant and I did not want to have kids until I was 25 or 26 but like my mom always says "best laid plans". I am glad that I had him when I did. I guess you could say he was a pleasant surprise and a pain of reality. Guess what,if you do not do anything to prevent it, it will most likely happen. And that is reality.

Our first was planned. He is a beautiful 7 year old boy. Our second was a surprise. We were not expecting to get pregnant again (I was on birth control at the time). He is 19 months younger than his older brother and is 5. Then there is our youngest and our first little girl. She was not planned but not avoided either. We weren't doing anything to prevent pregnancy. She is now 8 months old. Only our first was planned but as the saying goes the other two were "unplanned but not unwanted." We love all of our children.

I would have a hard time with "selective reduction." That said, it is her decision. Accept her decision as much as you can even if it bothers you. Diahni

P.S. Maybe this is a little nutty, but I think kids plan themselves. We're just the vehicles for their decision. Diahni

My son is definitely planned. We waited a year for him. The wait is surely worht it. He's so cute and very lively and we love him so much. I don't like to add another one at this point becuase I want to cherish him alone for 2 more years. This way he will really feel the love that we could give him. I only want to children, that way I can take care of them and raise them right while having some time with myself too.

Goodness 6 children is a lot. My stepmom had 6 and loved everyone of them, she lost one to leukemia at 5 yrs. old, then when she and my dad married, she took me and my sister and brother into her heart as well. My son was my firstborn and he was definitely planned for and such a welcomed blessing. My daughter came along about 4 years later, although I had planned to go off the pill and start trying to get pregnant, during a time when we were buying and moving into our home, I forgot a pill and Surprise, she was on her way. It's a subject that her brother likes to tease her with, saying he was planned and she was the accident. Isn't it just like a brother to do something like that? Wow, your sister was a fertile one wasn't she? My daughter had to have some help but welcomed a little girl this last April. What a joy and a blessing!! Triplets, my goodness, how exciting! You are right, it is a disturbing and disgusting procedure, and I hope people don't actually go through with it. I bet you have some great memories and stories to tell about the triplets growing up, maybe you could share some of them sometime with us :)

Our first one was not planned and was a complete surprise. But such a blessing! We're planning on trying for No. 2 soon and I'm determined to make sure our 2nd one is planned and wouldn't be a complete surprise! haha!

MY children were planned, in the sense that we had decided that we would want to have children and were ready to have them from that point on. We were married for over 6 years when I stopped taking the pill, and we decided that whenever I got pregnant would be fine. This was the way we had planned it. We wanted to have a few years for ourselves before having children, because we had seen from family and friends that once we have children our lives change quite a bit. We have two children but a third one would have been welcomed as well. It just didn't happen. In any case we would have been fine with either outcome.

My one and only son was planned. We had been trying for about a year so were very excited when I fell pregnant. We have been trying again for over two years and still no luck - we will keep trying though :)

I think selective abortion is wrong. People know they risk multiple births when they use invitro or fertility pills. I do not condem those who choose to selectively abort but I couldn't do it because I feel it's wrong. I am glad she didn't abort any of the triplets and I hope she is too.