Love - Will it Break... Pls Advice
By snaresh80
@snaresh80 (24)
India
May 26, 2007 12:50am CST
My girl friend and myself are in love for more than 4 years, but for the past 6-8 months we had been having lots of misunderstanding and we fought a lot. It went to an extent of we breaking up.
But after we stopped talking to each other we relised that we were really missing each other... and hence we use to find reasons to call and talk. Both of us never express that we really are longing to talk. Now we have come to a decision that we should give it a break for atleast 6 months so that the thoughts of all the fights we had fade away. and we hope that things might fall inplace. She strongly feels that we should give it a break.
But i am scared that this 6 months break might just create more distance between us. She feels that this break will make our hearts ponder and that we will get back. But one concrete thing is that both of us have the intentions to work on the relationship and make it happen. But i am not able to decide on this break...
Any suggestions please......
6 responses
@vani24 (783)
• India
26 May 07
Hi Naresh,
Well, see if you think that staying apart for 6 months will reduce your problem,and will improve your relationship , i really dont think so...Whats the surity? You cant tell that...i would suggest you that talk to her and try to identify the cause of this situation, and sort it out and try to understand each other better, see one thing if you both understand each other feelings and know better then there would be any problem in future. Spend some time with her leisurely , go for a long drive and talk to her cooly and anaylze the things properly...See one thing breaking a relation takes a second but building a strong relationship takes years....So always think twice and dont get tensed and always try to handle things calmly then everything will set right...Okay i wish you both a blissful married life and take care....
Bye and have a great day ahead.
Thanks,
Vani.
@snaresh80 (24)
• India
6 Jun 07
Thank you for your comments. That was really soothing an passifying...
@gasmas100 (585)
• India
26 May 07
u cant give ur relationship a break mate........ imagine ur parents saying that to u ( no offence).that they are giving themselves a break...u would be shattered, right mate?
well thats what life is like....u stick to ur committment, once ur in one.........guess since its been long u r in a relation...it has lost its charm.........u need to rejuvinate i.........do something that ull have never done together......like take a tip to the mountains, hills, do something crazy.....it'll reignite the flame and thrill and rejuvinate ull, since ull havent done anything new in awhile.........itll be a good thing......ty it mate.....it'll work for sure.
all the best.cheers mate !!!
@snaresh80 (24)
• India
6 Jun 07
Thanks a ton for your comments... Even i feel the same thing... i dont want a break... thaks for your well wishes and tips.. will try doing somethng different that will excite her
@TheCatzMeow1 (579)
• United States
27 May 07
They say that distance makes the heart grow fonder. I don't think they meant long term like 6 mos. I can't see my partner and I taking a break, because we're supposed to be in it for the long haul. Some people need a little space and time to figure things out though. If I had to be in this situation I would have to say, let's take this one day at a time. Maybe we only need a week or two. I don't see how one could put a time frame on something like this. Communication and meeting half way is what will really carry you both through this. I don't mean meet half way on being apart, but whatever the arguing has to do with. You've gotta get down to the source of the problem and deal with it, not run from it. Good luck.
@maddysmommy (16230)
• United States
27 May 07
Six months is a long time to be apart from one another - does it have to be that long? do you think it will help resolve some of what you are going through? I would rethink the length of time you feel you need to be away from each other..I think a month is long enough but that is just me!
@3superkids (446)
• Philippines
26 May 07
I understand what you are going thru. The break that your girlfriend wants might not be a good idea. It won't guarantee that the fights you had will fade away. It would be best if you would talk about your indefferences, all the small and big things that cause problems in your relationship. However, if that's what your girlfriend wants you should respect her decision because in the end it might be the cause of you losing her at all. If you really love her and you want to keep her show her your sincerity. Tell her how you feel about the so called needed break. If it does not work and she insist on it perhaps it's what meant to be. The best that you can do let her know, as often as you could, that you are not giving up on her.
@laylac (10)
• Philippines
27 May 07
hi! you must be really having a hard time.
Honestly, I for one is not sure about this. I know it is hard. But if you were really in love with each other, then i guess love will find a reason to stay. Yes, 6 months is a make or break. You may end up losing her, but soon you will find out why. Loving is just not about holding on, but it is indeed also the art of letting go. Dont chase it. It will stay if it is really meant to be. But if it decides to leave then just let it go. You'll never know what is in store for you unless you are brave enough to face what is there... Hope you'll be fine. Just let it be...
