do you get irritated when you hear people talking something about you?

If it is people I know, my friends and they are saying something I think is about me, I demand to know what they are saying, jokingly because I am curious. If I hear my name I want to know. If it is a stranger talking about me I would like to know what they are saying, but I really haven't heard anything negative being said I would be offended. I dislike judgmental people, I have seen people talking behind the backs of those with perhaps excessive piercings and tattoos. I dont think judgemnet should be placed on them let them do and be the person tghey want. Who are we to say? Just because you dont want 20 visible tattoos doesnt mean nobody would! It is annoying when people do this especially when they say things alittle loud so that others can purposely hear.

i get EXTREMELY angry if i hear someone talking abot me behind my back. If you have something to say, say it to my effing face! Grow a pair and confront me. i might b*tch you out, but i won't hit you.

I just had top answer this one. After being in the same situation for past twenty days , I need to rant about such people. I have hated every single moment of being with such people but I was stuck with them for twenty days and had to listen to them infact over hear them all the time discussing how ill mannered and outspoken I am. Even when to close the matter for once and all I accepted the fault was mine entirely and I am sorry. That gave them another thing to analyse that since I accepted hence they were not wrong in jusdging me. my statements were blown out of proportion , disected and analysed as per their perception in every corner and with everyone. I was so disgusted that I wanted to pack my bags and leave but couldn't. sometimes out of respect you have to stay back and listen. I am going through a difficult patch in terms of relationships right now and don't know how long its going to last but thanks to you and all my friends at mylot, I will get through this too, I am sure.

it drives me nuts to hear that ive been the topic of interest among people i know. i am very shy and i dont like it when people say good or bad about me. i live in a very small town and usually whene someone talk about you here, it becomes gossip talk. even the good stuff. like say, i helped my husbands brother get work, and it turned out,i later heard, that i had a secret thing for him. i was shocked.

Yes I'm like you, if I hear someone talking nice about me, I walk away. I'm not big on praise and stuff like that, it also makes me uncomfortable. If they are talking bad, I usually like to see if they are going to do it to my face, or whether they act all friendly. These are the worse sort of people. It's like 'if there's a problem, tell me about it'. Just plain rude, but then some people have nothing better to do with their time!

I think people talk about us because we the centre of attraction. Why get irratated. I am never irritated when someone talks about me, eventhough it offends me. Since we are on the minds of all the people we are talked about. If someone makes a good comment about you accept it, eventhough you know that the comment is made ironically to grab your attention and may be even to insult you. They will be now offended...

i hate people talking about others behind their backs. To me if i have something to say i will say it to their face or not at all. Also i do not join in conversations about someone who is not involved in the conversation. I think it wrecks lives blessed be

I never get irritate,i just see and leave it,But i feel for myself and think God is there,if these talk on me then someone will talk on them,then they will feel.I think and leave about this.But i will never go to them for fight.

i just hate when someone gossip about me.isn't that disgusting? hey what the need to peep into other peoples matters.it is ok if u r say in front u but speaking at someones back...i hate that the most.i just feel that if they want to say any thing about me then y dont they say it to me.instead y gossip????i said rite,i too just walk out of there.thats the rite thing to do

i dont like people talking about me. usually i talk straight to them to know the reason whats going on. but sometimes its no use in that case i go away from there. there is no question of quarreling with these people is they will not stop doing that.

Usually I never mind what people say about me, I take what's positive for me. But for last few months I've been having some problems with my boyfriend's mom and other family (not main family member) and they said everything bad about me as the only see (judgement from cover), trying to convince him to break off from me. This matter makes me easily get irritated about their comments on me. But I'm still trying to think positively on this matter.

For me, yes of course! If i hear people talking about me, if its positive, i can listen but if they are talking all my negative way, wel i am willing to listen but if i cant help it, id rather walk away than hearing something that can hurt my feelings but im willing to know about my negative way if they are the one talking to me, i mean a friendly i guess!

yes ,i will get irritated. i don't like those who like talking about others behind their back, but if i found my friends talkin about something aboutme ,i will ask them,i will correct it if the topic is my shortcomings.

yeah I get very very very irritated when someone talks anything behind my back..I find that ver illmannered..since I don't talk behind people's bak expect them o do the same..

This used to annoy me when I was younger but now if I hear people talking about me I just think that's good they're leaving the people who care alone,this was something my mum used to say and I wondered how she could feel that way, as I've got older I've found it's easier not to bother.

I too get angry whenever I hear stories created about me, behind my back. That was before, because I now understand why some of them do it. Some maybe insecure, jealous of something I have/had, or just a plain compliment that turned into negative thoughts. I don't care about them anymore, as I sometimes have some of my own thoughts like that to them. But I make sure that I don't offend them, I just try to keep it only to myself alone. We are all the same, as humans. And this behavior is also a part of our nature, be it for good or bad. The best thing to do is, leave them and do whatever you think is right. As long as you don't hurt them, that's the best thing that we should all keep in mind.

Yes i feel the same way too... There was a time when i hear my friends talking something negative about me, i was really hurt about what i hear that i wish i didn't hear it. I want to punch them very hard just to ease my pain but i did not do it because i realize that sometimes we need to hear this negative part of us that they don't like so that we will know, learn, and be sensitive the next time. We are just human, easily get hurt and has a negative part in which some could not understand even our closes friend, girlfriend/boyfriend, and even your family... this makes as unique and this makes us human. We must take this criticism as a stepping stone to be a good person. We should not be angry, instead, be happy for you know what is the bad side of yours that needs to be change.

The same with me. I don't like to be talked about, especially to be badmouthed. If it is positive, then it is ok. If it is negative, I would be quite influenced with a bad mood the whole day. The day before yesterday I was praised my immediate boss at a big school meeting, I was so embarassed. How I wanted to find a hole to get it as if I had no face to see people. I don't know why I don't like to be praised as well as to be criticized in public. Whatever I do, I love to have it dealt with without being noticed or mentioned in public. I am a shy person though.

Hi, Yes this makes me very uncomfortable as well. However, it happens to me all the time as I am a "boss" at work and this is what people always do. They never seem to realize that decisions have to be made, yet they would be the first ones to complain if they were not. This in turn leads them to talk about me...until I walk into the room. cheers,

yes, of course...that would be very mean!!