are you afraid of being alone ?

As for me, I'm not at all afraid to be alone. In fact I enjoy solitude occasionally. To keep away from the din and buzzle and having a few moments all to yourself is really refreshing and enjoyable.

I think loneliness and being alone are two different things. I like to be alone sometimes. I like the freedom to do what I want, and when I want to do it. I like to walk on my own, and be at one with nature, but when it comes down to it, I wouldn't like to be completely alone and lonely. I need a hug sometimes, or an opinion on things, which is when it's handy to have a partner or a nearby friend, to whom you can go for company. I can imagine your being lonely if all your friends are either away or at school, but why not call one of them and ask if they'd like to spend a couple of days or a weekend with you? You have to make an effort. Failing this... go out, and make new friends with whom you can spend some quality time.

I am not so comunicative person, have just few friends and no partner. But the total isolation scares me. I still live with my parents. I can stay allone some days, but then the loneliness becomes painfull and i want them back at home.

I'm not afraid being alone. Sometimes, it helps me realizing and thinking some sort of stuffs. But you know what? I've been to that situation like yours. It was exactly the same. You're not alone. What you feel is "the homesick". If only we're in the same place, we'll be hang'n out together. Don't worry, you'll get over it.

This is actually my greatest fear... Fear of growing old alone. I would probably go crazy if I grow old alone and living with no one. It really scares to think of all the people that I love dying and being left the last one with no one who cares for me. I would rather want to die earlier than be left the last one. I couldn't imagine living without all the people that I love beside me. So I make the most out of the time I spend with them especially with my boyfriend who I want to spend the rest of my life with.

I understand what you're living. I also live alone and quit my job almost a month ago. I rarely have anyone to go out with and make the most of the phone calls I keep connected to my loved ones (family and friends) with. I am also on the net daily, mostly searching for work and recently getting involved in mylot just to have a conversation about any topic that interests me. You need to keep working at finding work and let your friends be there for you. They care for you because you matter, not the job you lost. Even if just to the grocery store or to window shop getting out of the house is healthy. Don't stay cooped in and feeling bad. Take a walk, spend some time in your favorite local spots even if just to window shop and get in touch with your friends.

Yes very... LOL well no not like that, I don't mind staying at home alone but I don't like it when my GF goes away on a business trip for several weeks or months. Mostly it's because I worry for her.

Hi Luckywuyan I am use to spending alot of time alone. And Ive come to enjoy it.LOL I can got so much done when Im alone. I do agree I get loney sometimes but thats why I have 3 cats.LOL YOu need a pet. And I would suggest a kitten. Dogs are nice too but they demand to much. As far as making friends dont worry you will because you sound like a very nice person.

Not at all. I'd most probably welcome it! I'm not at all afraid of being alone. On the contrary, as I have said before, when i'm alone, your chains are being cut loose. You're free from anyone's control, judgement, opinions or views. Sometimes being alone has its perks. Sometimes being alone isn't so scary at all. It's nothing to be afraid of.

Being alone isn't synonymous with being lonely my dear. . Well on a personal note, there are times that i'd like to be alone. No disturbances from others so i can do things i'd wanna do without distraction from others. But i understand what u-r feeling now. Thats hard! When loneliness attacks me, i go nuts! What are the things that you usually do aside from going online? .. perhaps you can do some things like ur hobbies? Crafts or anything to that extent. . I'm fond of doing beaded fashion accessories you know. When boredom attacks me, i'll go right at my table and do my stuffs. . . and to answer back ur question again, yes i'm very afraid of being alone all my life.

Being alone and being lonely are two different things. If you dont have any money, just get out of your house and go for a walk. It wouldnt hurt to get fresh air once in a while. It dosnt cost anything just to go wandering around the neighborhood. God bless, Terry

Sometimes I need to be by myself for a little while just to think about things, but I don't like to be left alone very long. When my husband and I got married we moved to another state. He was in the Marine Corp and sometimes he would have to stay overnight at the base or be gone for a few days at a time. I didn't like that at all. I hope you can meet you some good friends there where you live so you won't feel so lonely. SheliaLee

Sure, I am very afraid of it. This is not because I am not a strong person. It's because I need someone to be with me when I am sad or happy.

i am indeed afraid of being alone! to me, sadness and loneliness are probably the worst two feelings ever existed! perhaps you can try making some new friends, then you won't feel that alone and would have someone to go out with. are you looking for a new job right now? good luck with the job hunting, hope you can get a new job soon so that you won't be so bored and lonely! if we are in the same country, i'd definitely ask you out, go shopping or a movie or even coffee ;)

i can never say that i will ever be afraid of being alone. the grief which will envelop me will be the thought that what if all the persons around will be gone. it will be difficult to fend for myself for everything. my, i will never wish for anything like that to happen. as for being alone in a crowd or in a neighborhood, there is nothing to fear about that. whenever we will go out of the four walls of our home, we will immediately meet other people. it will jsut be a matter of choice for us now as to where to go and whom to meet and pass the time with.

That's one of the strange things about me I suppose, I like being by my onesies. People don't often give me pleasant feelings, so usually I'm going out of my way to avoid them. I'm trying to get more social, but I don't think loneliness will ever be a problem to me -- not because people are always around, but because I could probably be very happy as the last person on earth. The fact is, no one is ever alone. There are bugs, wild critters, and plants..if you believe they have awareness. They can hear your voice, see your movements..if you listen they'll even speak to you (though us being only human, we can't understand..), happiness doesn't need to be shared..and though sadness can be overwhelming, sometimes when there's no one around to help you through it..it's sortof an opportunity to learn to deal with it for situations like that whenever they choose to arise. *shrugs* It was always my opinion that humanity caused more trouble than it was worth. One or two people around's enough for a disaster. No people around? I can worry less.

I am afraid of being alone sometimes. It's sad and you have no one to talk with. You're just thinking about plain stuff, like what you should do or something similar. I'm kinda feeling that right now. I don't know how to ease this pain deep inside my heart. I don't know if I can manage, but I'll do my best to feel alright. In your part, I know it's so much difficult because as you've said, the people who are close to you are not there. I'm sorry to hear that. I can't advice deep thoughts because I know it's not easy to ease that. I can only say 1 thing... "keep in mind that if there are downs, there will be ups" keep yourself alive. Don't get too bored by sticking up with one thing. ;) goodluck friend...

I am sorry you are so lonely. Is it safe enough in your area to go outside? Like maybe take a walk or go to a nearby park,library,shopping center? Something close. Just to get some fresh air and maybe meet some new people. I know how it feels sometimes. My family lives in another state. My husband works two jobs, so it is me and my kids all day long. I grew up in a house full of people. I am not used to this isolation. My kids and I often o on long walks. Sometimes we meet new people doing the same. Other times we don;t.

Being lonely and alone are two difference situations. If you feel lonely, that means you long to be with somebody. If you are alone, that states a circumstance you are in. From what I understand, you are alone and feeling lonely. What you are doing to fill in your being alone is surfing which is great. At the sametime you get to meet lots of people from all parts of the world. But if you are still feeling lonely, I think this will slowly go away as you start meeting more and more people discussing lots of issues that touch your life.

being alone is actually an art. whenever one does something wrong in his/her life which he.she wasn`t supposed to do, then that hatred feeling turns into afraid on being alone.