You proposed to your love one and he/she answered No..

If I proposed and my lover said no. I would have to ask them why they made that decision. I would definitely try to understand what is going on. alot of people get nervous when they are asked and their immediate answer is no even though their heart says yes. I would have to ask why because I may not want to further the realtionship if they do not intend to settle down with me.

Had I been in his place, I would definitely asked the reasons for you saying "NO". If I am in relationship with someone, and suddently I get a negative response...I would surely like to know the reasons for rejection, so that if something is wrong with my attitude....I could be able to improve upon myself for the future. (For U my advice would be .....you need not think about that affair.....it is not going to help you any way..."NO use of crying over split milk" deepak

Without sounding callous and cold he obviously didn't love you, and that is a lucky escape for you my good friend, I would find it weird after being with someone for five years, and five years is a long time and not wanting to know the reason why, relationships are about building, and if you throw in the towel then the relationship is not worth saving. Thankfully I have never been in this position and never will be.

It must be hard to get the courage to ask.If I were to ask a man to marry me and he said no what would I do? This is hard for me because I don't want to marry but here it goes. I would ask why. And if he said it was too soon and he needed time, I would stay. But if it were any other reason, I would leave. For some reason he didn't want to marry me and I want to get married so it would have to be over.For me personally, I don't want to marry so I would tell new boyfriends that I will not marry them so if that is what they want, I am not the person for them. You have to follow your bliss. There is someone out there that wants the same thing you want. You just have to find them.I'm glad you felt strong enough and comfortable enough to tell your boyfriend your true feelings. There are so many people that are pressured to marry. And they marry the wrong people and are miserable.

5 years have past. I am sure you have move on. Forget about the question in your head. It might be better for both you and him should you one day happen to meet by chance. Sometimes, it is better not to know the answer than to have known and get hurt forever. He could be just doing the same thing. Or he could be trying to save the happy memories and does not wish to have any negativity that would tarnish it. I would just find an excuse for him and move on.

with him leaving says a lot about his sincerity and devotion to you. maybe he got a little impatient about some aspects in your relationship and wanted you to go along with his expectations. when he got a response that was contrary, he was just not ready to accept that fact. many men act like that. sometimes they don't care enough for their partner's feelings and they mostly end up hurting them or spacing them out. as for me, i never really got the chance to propose to my wife, it just sort of happened and before we knew it we got married and are living very happily with our kid. i'd like to believe that a person will know if that person is really the one for them. it's part of our instinct as they say or just a bond that forms between two people who really love one another. what you do with that bond is really up to you.

The answer is not simple. Of course, i will try to understand the reason. Is it in me or anywhere else. Before to make this proposal, i will be interested to know if this relation is serious for BOTH of us, how are his ideas about the future and etc. And i will tell him about my plans, if any. In fact the official marriage is not so important for me. We can live together without any formalities.

I would most definately try to get the reason for the No. If u have been together for long and he does not want to get married i would like to have a reason. If it is good then the relation might not have to end, but if he can never see himself married to me, then whats the point.. UNLESS he says that he never wanna marry at all. That i could accept - for me marriage is not that big. The relationship in itself is much more important.

Maybe what he did was good for him. Should your reply hurt him further, he will be miserable. Fortunately, I did not go through such a situation, because I build my relationship up and when I know that the tide is favourable for me I did it. So it was a win win situation.

Well maybe he was really really hoping that you would say yes and when you said no, maybe he was already accepting the fact and was really to the max hurt. For me, I would also be hurt regardless of the reason. I think it's better that you said the reason after you said no before so that he'll not be devastated as it is.

We tend to run from what we fear - he feared rejection, he feared hearing the truth. More than likely he asked himself "why" a million times after he left, but confronting the reasons face-to-face would have been hurtful, at the time. He may have known deep down "why" and depending on those reasons it might have been a matter of him facing some truths about himself and why the marriage wouldn't work. I commend you for saying no and looking hard at the reasons before saying yes, just to say yes.

if a girl just rudely say a big 'no' to my proposal i dont think digging reasons behind it wud be of much help..i wud rather suppose that the girl is arogant n move on..... but if i know the girl to be a soft one n still flashing red signal to my proposal i'll probably try convincing her rather than just giving up...

if i would be rejeted i wud first try to find the answer why he answered no...then try to rectify my faults because in this world no one is flawless...but proposal can only be made when true love occurs.so if its true love it wud never betray me....definitely my dream boy will respond.

I would always be keen to no the reason why she said no and will talk to her and clearify things with her and try to make things transparent.

For me, well I would be very depressed, and I would want to know why I had been so rejected to see if it was something that could be changed.