Mother-in-law: its my turn to complain
By Riette
@Zorrogirl (1502)
South Africa
May 26, 2007 2:59pm CST
in my life i have never met someone who complains this much. i cant stand it anymore. if the leg doesnt hurt, the back hurts, and the hand, and the foot and and and... she doesnt like anyone who goes against what she thinks.they are the devil...she complains about money too. i have tried, in vain,to please her the past 6 years, but no joy. i have tried everything. i have no ideas left. and i am not mean when i say she is lazy. she stays home all week and has a cleaning lady. i really need inspiration to lift my mood. we just spent 2 hours at their house and she is so depressing.
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4 responses
@usmcsgtwife (4997)
• United States
27 May 07
WOW are we related??? this is my mother in law to the tea.. Complain complain complain, it;s always the same thing over and over again, I am glad we live 2200 miles away
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@Zorrogirl (1502)
• South Africa
27 May 07
Well lucky you. and to think we shared a house with his parents when we were just starting out in life. we are looking for opportunities abroad and she complains about that too. the strange thing is that it only started to become worse when i was in an accident 5 years ago. i still live with a broken arm and leg. she has no clue what pain is. its as if she cant stand not being the one who gets all the pity. i would love to say to her she must be glad she has all her legs and arms intact, or say to her:be careful what you wish for... but i still respect her as my senior,however hard that is.
@limcyjain (3516)
• India
27 May 07
Yours is not the only case. I too am experiencing the same issues. You got frustated in two hours i am tolerating mine for the past 10 years now. Always complaining but now i no longer care. I do things as per my will and lend a deaf ear to what she says. If she is shouting i simply increase the volume of the tv and shut my rooms door and enjoy. Simply ingore her and she would moderate her acts. The more you give her importance the more she is going to disturb you.
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@Zorrogirl (1502)
• South Africa
27 May 07
ignorance has brought no joy yet. i have been struggling for over 6 years. they live 5 minutes drive from us. she demands attention and if she doesnt get it, all hell breaks loose. if she would one day decide to get a life, i will gladly help her.
@Anniedup (3651)
• Richards Bay, South Africa
2 Jun 07
I call people like that modern vampires; they drain you from, enthusiasm, and zest for life. Their negativity will later drive you insane. I can more or less in a diplomatic way turn people that are part of my everyday live away or around, but in your case it is a bit, hmmm delicate, and complicated, so all I can say try and be assertive, with her or just switch off. Good Luck!
@Keleidescope (204)
• United States
26 May 07
Wow, well, I have that same situation with my stepmom. I just make the best of it. When she's complaining about something or telling me something I don't want to hear, I ignore her and find someone else to talk to. I know it's rude, but she's being rude too. I really don't care what she thinks about me. I've tried to please my stepmom too, but it hasn't worked so far, so I'm not even going to bother anymore. I accept the fact that she doesn't like me and that's okay.
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@Zorrogirl (1502)
• South Africa
26 May 07
its a real problem. we will never win. i struggle to ignore her because she demands attention. i should write a book one day about all the crapo she put me through. and she now has the audacity to read a book that helps you stop pleasing others. she pleases nobody. she just thinks she is a gift to human kind.
