Have you ever been tempted?

@winterose (39887)
Canada
May 26, 2007 7:33pm CST
Okay yesterday I asked what would you do if you your spouse cheated on you, today I want to know if you yourself was ever tempted to cheat, just tempted but never actually did. Once when I was young, I was tempted, the offer was there and the man made it obvious and I have to admit he was handsome and charmed me but I told him know, I had a boyfriend at the time and was not interested in any one else
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23 responses
• United States
27 May 07
I haven't been tempted. LOL I notice if their is a good looking man, but I think it is okay to look at the menu, just don't place an order. Personally, one man and the two kids are enough for me. I don't think I could handle another one. I'm just to tired and busy for that stuff.
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@ESKARENA1 (18261)
27 May 07
i think this is true, its ok to look its touching that causes the trouble blessed be
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• Philippines
27 May 07
i hate to admit it, but yes, i've been tempted a few times. i never actually did it but as far as i'm concerned, i feel bad having entertained the idea at all. it was during a rocky stage with my boyfriend when i felt doing "something" to ease the pain and frustration of being "neglected" so to speak.
@Calais (10893)
• Australia
27 May 07
To be honest, yes I have been, it was only about 3 years ago. I was going through a rough time at home and I worked with this guy, we got on really great. But nothing happened but it was sooo tempting is was scarey.
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9 Jun 07
Nope. I would never cheat because I love my wife and I only want friends. I don't want anything else from life and I stand by this and I won't ever think about another like that, some won't believe that. I do think it's inside ones mind and it's controllable. ~Joey
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@easy888 (10405)
• Australia
27 May 07
Hello,winterose,when i was in relationship with my ex-boyfriend,i had ever been tempted,but i was loyal to my ex-boyfriend at that time,i just brushed off those guys even they kept pestering me,I also told them directly that i was not interested in them and I got a boyfriend already. But it happened that my ex-boyfriend could not resist the temptation from another woman and had cheated ,our relationship ended finally.
• China
27 May 07
I really can't understand why your ex-boyfriend leaves you.Very nice girl you are I think. As you are separate now, I think it's really nothing. You of cause can find yourself a good boyfriend and he got his new girlfriend. That's it.
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• Philippines
10 Jun 07
Ye, I thought about it. I been tempted once, but it was never been followed. I had alot of fears when I done it. Thinking what would be the impact if my boyfriend knew it? I also think it reversely, what if he cheated on me? I believed in a word "Karma" anything that is bad will comes back to you double. It does happened to me. I never told my boyfriend about my infidelity, however, when I knew that he has another woman aside from me, I felt so sad, and I got hurt too badly. At that time, the healing of what I've done, came back to me. I totally regret what i have done. From the time I stopped my wrong doings, all I do was stay inside the adoration chapel, asked for forgiveness and give thanks for the realization he had given me. I know that in every relationship, there is always a part wherein you have a test to show how will you face it and through that test, our relationship keeps more stronger and tighter. We forgive each others fault and promise that it will never happen again. We're together for five years and still looking forward for another 5 more years to come until we get married.
@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
27 May 07
I was tempted once and my Marriage was already over then just before we split up I am now with the Person that I was tempted and have been for 3 lovely years
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@jewel76 (2305)
• Canada
29 May 07
I got a few offers, like, to go out for a drink, or a meal or a coffee, which wouldn't really be cheating if i'd gone as a friend , right? But I am happily married, and i wouldn't my husband to go out on a "friend" date, so i declined all invites. I was not tempted, not that the men weren't attractive, but i am totally in love with my husband, and i respect him too much to even think of cheating on him. I'd rather leave him first if i ever had to cheat, and that's what i'd like him to do as well, and he's aware of that.
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• Canada
25 Feb 08
I can't say I've really been tempted, once in the relationship. At the SAME TIME as I met my husband someone else was hitting on me (they were pretty much fighting over me). I dind't do anything with EITHER OF THEM until I chose one, and he's the one I married. Now the three of us are actually best friends!!
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@winterose (39887)
• Canada
25 Feb 08
that is very interesting, glad it worked out for you
@ESKARENA1 (18261)
27 May 07
I think we are all tempted now and again but what marks the commited out from the others is that we dont act on the temptation blessed be
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• United States
27 May 07
I have been tempted many times. I never have but definitely tempted.
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@liranlgo (5752)
• Israel
27 May 07
Well i am a very honest person, but i can tell you that in my younger years i did want to try alote of things. I was with my boyfriend for many years, and i did tell him that i want to try different things. He loved me so he did give me freedom of doing things. Today when i am thinking of it, it is crazy. I would never let my boy friend try "new" things when he is my partner, just from the fear of losing him. I guess that when we are younger we do foolish things, and we do not know how to appreciate love when we have it.
@Gorgeous24 (1091)
• United States
27 May 07
I think as human beings its in our nature to be attracted & tempted by other people, there are soo many people in this world for us to be ONLY tempted by one BUT it depends if you fall into the temptation. Everyday im tempted to cheat when I see a handsome guy and especially when the guy knows how to sweet talk you BUT you have to set boundaries for yourself. If your in a commited relationship then you should know it doesnt hurt to look as long as you dont do anything physically.
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• Philippines
28 May 07
Yes. Simetimes. But m conscience telling me that don't do that anymore. Its bad. In reality, after we did what we have done, our conscience telling us why you have done this or that. And then, we realized our mistakes after we have done bad things.
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• United States
27 May 07
In my relationships I remain loyal. I believe that if you no longer want to be with just one person, leave the relationship and move on.
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• Canada
25 Feb 08
I can't say I've really been tempted, once in the relationship. At the SAME TIME as I met my husband someone else was hitting on me (they were pretty much fighting over me). I dind't do anything with EITHER OF THEM until I chose one, and he's the one I married. Now the three of us are actually best friends!!
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@pinks0da (328)
• Philippines
27 May 07
Yes i was tempted. I'm still young and there are a lot of temptations out there. But everytime they come out, I always thought of my husband who is very loving and who is pampering me so much. Aside from loving him, I also respect him so I will not do anything that will humiliate or hurt him. Temptations are just passing, so it is important that we know how to fight it. And also, I don't want to waste God's greatest gift to me, my family.
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@Michele21 (3093)
• United States
27 May 07
I have thought about it but never really considered it. I am a loyal person and wouldn't want to hurt my hubby by cheating, even in high school I couldn't do anything to make my boyfriends jealous or whatever. I can't imagine how bad it would hurt to find something like that out (well actually I do but that is another story) and I just don't like hurting people! So no I have never really been tempted.
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• United States
27 May 07
Back when I was in a GOOD relationship I never had eyes for anyone else so I wasn't tempted to cheat. I had like an on/off switch and I just turned the temptation switch to off. LOL. I just didn't look at other guys that way because I was "in love" but once things became rocky and I started getting treated like sh*t then I did get tempted but I would never follow through because i'm a one man woman.
• Brazil
27 May 07
Yes, but a thing is to be tempted. Another is in fact to do, I already had a lot of will. But I thing is not worthwile to deceive nobody, you can be deceiving you even. It is also if you don't like your partner more, he doesn't have because still to be with him.
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