what would you do if someone told you a bad secret about your friend?

I would just give a damn about it.Its my friend and its my duty to trust my friend otherwise there's no point in being friends. On the other hand I'd go upfront to friend and talk to her about the accusations against her that way it'll clear any unresolved misunderstanding within. So i suggest that you talk to the person accused rather than talk to your other friends about it and going mum also will lead to problems.All the best.

Well i think i would tell my friend that someone is saying this or that about her behind her back. I mean, after all, would you want to know if this was happening to you? People like to talk, its entertainment to make others life misreable, for some people. Yes its wrong, but those people wont understand that until it happens to them. If the rumors happen to be true, she can explain why. I mean, more then likely it was nothing as major as these people are saying, they just needed to feed the fire, by stretching the truth.

Well I can take the bad story about my frined and find it by myself whether its all true or not.Without telling about it to my friend!! But just a harmless searching about my friends past.Mind it harmless searching!! If things doesn't seem alright then I can just walk over to my friend and ask her staright away. Thats it, will get things cleared off!! AS soon as I can. But I guess should talk to your frined first!

If I were in the same situation, I would keep mum about it. I would find out first if it was true, or just some nasty rumors to ruin her. If I find out that it wasn't, I would confront the one who told me and tell that person to stop spreading the lie. If it were true, well, I don't think it would make much of a difference in our friendship. Just as long as she's not a perverted, psycho something!lol!

I would find more information about the issue. I usually get information easily, whether by asking for the right person or sometime the information came to me by itself. If it's true, then I will tell my friends, just inform them, but not in any intention to discredit him.

you've said that she is your friend...as a friend, i think you shouldnt judge her just bcoz someone told you about such bad things bout her..talk to her first, as her if it was true..and if it happens to be true, ask her some explanations and try to understand why it is so...

hmmm actually I dont care about that gossips. For me they are just chiszms and rumors about that person, if ever that it is true well then Ill just have to wait to my friend will tell me about the truth but never will I opened about that gossips. I will just leave that and I will never talk about bad things to her. You know Im no where to judge.

I really think you should tell her. Just say I needed to tell you something I heard because it is bothering me and I want you to know what is being said about you. This way you aren't saying you believe it and you are leaving it open for her to tell you if it is true or not. Be prepared for her to ask who told you because as anyone would she is going to want to know who is going to spread rumors about her. Myself I would tell her the person because it is my belief that if they want to spread rumors then they better be ready to be confronted. I really hate rumor spreaders.

Yes, I got into a similar situation just 2 months back. A friend told me something really nasty about my another very dear friend. I was shocked to hear that, but I didn't quite react in front of that person who told me the thing. Also I decided to keep mum, just to avoid any unnecessary quarrels, or problems. I am not sure if I chose the correct path, but I know that I certainly didn't believe in that nasty rumour. I know my dear friend very much, and I am not going to suspect him, based on some cheap rumour.

I personally would go to your friend and say, I'm sorry, I've heard some rather nasty things about you and I just want to know whether they're true or not. I would stress that you're not casting doubt or anything, but you just want to hear from her what the truth is. If these things are true, then she has a chance to come clean. If not, then at least you can go back to the other person and say "hey, quit with the lies, they're putting you in a very bad light."

Dont fuel the gossip. Let it end on you for passing it one wont do any good and others mught think ill of your friend. Its not good to spread this around and it would be very shameful on the part of your friend. if you were on her shoes surely you wont feel good about it. If I were you I will try to keep it to myself, I would try to settle the issue with my firned if I will be given the chance to.

I would not say anthing to her. If the stories that you are hearing are untrue, then your friend could be very hurt. I would just stand up for her, unless I knew without a doubt that the stories were true. I don't like to be involved in any type of rumor mill, so I would just let it be. If the situation continues or gets out of hand I would probably just give my friend a heads up about the stories that are going around. That way she herself could confront the people saying these things, and she could stand up for herself, or do whatever she feels is best.

My mom's favorite piece of advice is "believe nothing that you hear and only half of what you see." This seems to fall into that category. However, I am also one who not only wants to know the truth, I want others to know the truth. if the "clean" friend does not know about these rumors, she cannot defend herself against them. I would privately discuss the situation with her, letting her know what you heard and even where it originated from. This would give her the chance to either admit to it/deny it, explain it and/or confront the person who said it. If she denies it and you continue to hear nasty rumors, I would just tell the person who keeps spreading them that you are not interested.

Ill just be quiet and pretend that i dont know anything. You know it is bad if we pretend to our friends or relative, but if its for good sake. Why not do that. Rather than telling your friends what his/her negative sides is. I cant do that to my friend.

What the others are saying about your friend must not matter to you. As long she is good to you,nothing should concern you at all. Friendship is one step above trust, if you dont trust you are not a good friend.I dont think you should be really be bothered about your friend's past,all secrecy in life.I would suggest you not to talk to your friend about this the the time he/ she is willing to discuss it with you.

This friend of yours has a right to know that people are talking about her. She has a right to clear her name. PLus you can find out the truth from her directly.

if someone told me something bad about a friend of mine i would tell them. because i would want to know if someone was talking bad about me. i mean if this is a good friend then you should let her know

hmm..It all depends on person to person..how they take it.. but If someone comes and tell something wrong about me then i might not yell back at them but i will not trust it unless and untill it is confirmed..i cant trust people simply and it might be some nasty rumour and i will definately not tell my friend abt this even this is true.. that is for sure..!!

I would for sure bring it to her attention, it may help her see if these rumors are true to straighten up. Sometimes when we are wrapped up in issues we don't see what it is we are doing. But if these are not true then she will let you know I'm sure. Best of luck to you Stacy

first of all keep it first to yourself and dont believe immediately try to observe it by yourself and know more about her/his attitudes and characteristics then at the end u can conclude who really is... there are times also people maybe bad in the past but maybe trying to change to become good so the best thing to do stop , look and listen and dont make it a big deal.....