Marriage still works in this era??
By pttee333
@pttee333 (43)
Singapore
May 27, 2007 1:22pm CST
Recent events in my life have made me ponder.
What makes people who go for the divorce option?
Why did they get married in the first place?
Why are there more divorce cases now compared to 20 years ago?
Does love last forever?
2 responses
@natuser28 (907)
• United States
28 May 07
There are more avaliable oppportunities to cheat now than say 20/30 years ago. You have cell phones, business phones, the office, vacation travel, internet. Your friends and family cover for you were they use to let the spouse know. Now it seems every man/woman for themselves. The moral have drop tremedously.
@pttee333 (43)
• Singapore
28 May 07
Is cheating really the cause of most divorces? If he/she wanted to cheat in the first place why bother getting married at all? And if he/she started cheating after getting married, why?
I do agree there are more available ways to cheat but it's the same the other way too. It's easier now to keep tabs on the spouse compared to 20/30 years ago.
@vokey9472 (1486)
• United States
28 May 07
I think part of the reason that so many marriages fail today is that most people don't take the lifelong commitment seriously. In the old days people knew that when you got married, it was for life. Very rarely did anyone get a divorce, it just wasn't done. Today, marriages are entered into so lightly that a divorce doesn't seem like a big deal. People get divorced for the tiniest reasons. Money is the number one reason people get divorced. I guess they forgot that part of the vows that says "for richer or poorer". Also, people aren't willing to work at their marriages anymore. When the passions start to die or gets too hard, they just walk out on their marriages. Relationships are like gardens, you have to tend them and work at them and care for them. If you do, they blossom and grow. If you ignore them and hope that they will care for themselves, they die.
@pttee333 (43)
• Singapore
28 May 07
I totally agree that marriage need work. In fact all relationships need work.
I think that honesty is the main reason why divorce cases are rampant. I say this because during courtship, people tend to show the better side of their personality only. I mean come on, if you're getting married, it's for life. You can't hide your true personality that long.