do you understand yourself well?
By Luckywuyan
@Luckywuyan (360)
China
May 27, 2007 9:27pm CST
i don't think i undestand myself.
coz you know ,i used to think i am a confident and out-ging girl ,but i 've found i moved back when i was recommended to be the trainer of a team.
i used to think i like jollification very much,but i've found sometimes i prefer to stand aside.
i used to think i love my colleague who shares the same bureau with me ,but i've found i can't contain his those bad habit,for example ,he likes asking snacks from girls.
i used to think i know how to get along with others ,but i've found many friends leave me after taking money or things from me .
i used to think i know what is "good return deserves another|,but i've found i am always be hurt after i did somthing right. for example ,i gave the beggar some money ,but he stole my cellphone later. why? i helped him !
so i want to know ,my friend ,do you understand yourself ?
or i am just a little over-reacted?
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22 responses
@yinjx111 (2)
• China
28 May 07
yeah, you are right, it is not easy to know oneself well,almost everyone has various aspects in his own personality, even he himself would be unconscious about it. have you read Clinton's MY LIFE? Clition said that he likes to stay with his friends and enjoys solitude as well. And he didn't realize that he has two personalities in himself until his affair with Lewinsky was disclosed, that even the experience in childhood will influence his entire life unconsciously. so what we could do is restrict our dark side, try to be a good person.
@Luckywuyan (360)
• China
29 May 07
thank you so much my sinere friend.
i knew Clinton's my life ,but i didn't read it.
so that is to say everyone has two personalities ,right?
thank you again.
best wishes for you ,my dear friend.
@jianhong (739)
• Singapore
28 May 07
Well, i am sure i understand quite well. However, sometime i will still ask friends about me, my personalty's and thing that relate to me. So i will learn something new about myself because something even i myself don't know until someone tell you about it. If it is something bad i will change it. ;)
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@Luckywuyan (360)
• China
29 May 07
thank you ,my cute friend.
but i wonder where your friends will tell you the truth ,or just comfort you.
anyway ,i will try to ask.
best wishes for you.
@Luckywuyan (360)
• China
29 May 07
so that is to say ,you have the same feeling with me ,right ?my friend.
hope you can have a good mood all the time .
bestwishes for you.
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@lordwarwizard (35747)
• Singapore
28 May 07
Sure, I think I understand myself very well. Well enough for whatver purpose. I guess.
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@Luckywuyan (360)
• China
29 May 07
how lucky you are .
my friend ,hope you have a nice day.
best wishes for you.
@Jennifer19860109 (22)
•
28 May 07
I think I can understand myself pretty well. By the way, if you don't know yourself, then who will? We all have some friends that we think they know us well/But, when something come up, we always wonder how comes nobody knows what we are thinking about.
It is nice to know that we know ourself,so that we can accept our own shortcomings and be more patiend with ourselves.
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@Luckywuyan (360)
• China
29 May 07
thanks a lot.
i will try to learn to know myself.
best wishes for you ,my sincere friend.
@kkjayarajan (55)
• India
28 May 07
Everyone have to understand themselves who they are. well in all respects. with that only we can become a winner in the entire life. without understanding you how can you achieve your goals.
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@Luckywuyan (360)
• China
29 May 07
that is real my promblem now.
i really don't know why i can not realize who i am ,i always ask myself ,but have no answer.
so now ,you know ,my friend ,the reason i quited my job partly because i want to stay at home and think over who i am and what i want to get.
now i try to understand myself.
thank you ,my friend.
God bless you
@maryannemax (12156)
• Sweden
28 May 07
there are times when i also ask the question "who am i really?".
we all think that we all know about ourselves. but at some point, we pause and ask ourselves about who we really are.
we all come across the crossroads of our personalities. we think, we act, we ask... we're just humans.
and i am sorry to hear about your experiences with people. i had gone through a lot, too. but it's life and we move on from our experiences. i hope you find good people around. you deserve good friends.
@maryannemax (12156)
• Sweden
29 May 07
thank you, too.
if you can't trust anyone around you... atleast trust yourself. you can most of the time just rely on your instincts so, better if you have self belief and self confidence. start from there and you'll go further.
@Luckywuyan (360)
• China
29 May 07
thank you my dear and cute friend.
i am really puzzled on who i am sometimes ,
and i always ask myself what i want to get.
now,i have no bf ,so love will not make me lost myself.hahaha...
just my job now ,maybe that is the main reason to make me feel now.
since i quitted my job, i haven't got any good news for my new one ,so i am a little nervouse now ,and doubt everyday ,maybe
anyway ,thank you for your sincere response ,,my dear friend.
best wishes for you.
@TerryZ (22076)
• United States
29 May 07
Hi Luckywuyan I think you can still be confident about yourself. If you were before there is no reason you cant again. Im very confident about myself and I know what I want and I believe in my self and you should too. Yes I have come across some people in my life that only used me for some reason or another. But then I realized they are not really my friend. You must be strong
@Luckywuyan (360)
• China
29 May 07
thank you for your sincre advice.
i will do my best.
God bless you,my dear firend.
@pramodthakur (2365)
• India
28 May 07
Yes I understand myself very well. I analyse myself time to time. I am introvert by nature. You are true that there are people who takes help and forget. Never think to thank even. When we are in need/troble, we cannot expect anything from such friends to whom we helped in the past. People are selfish. Only take help and do not give. When we do something good for others, he/she should also do so at least with others. But most of the time it does not happen. This discourage our efforts towards good cause. I my opinion, we cannot change the people's nature which has come with his/her birth. We need to identify such people and avoid to help.
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@Luckywuyan (360)
• China
29 May 07
thank you my friend.
you know ,maybe that is because of my age and my experience ,i can not identify people correctly .therefor ,i am always hurt.
i hate my stupit sometimes ,i don't know why i can not get how to distinguish good eggs and bad ones.
anyway ,thank you for your sincere response.
blessed be ,my friend
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@anjrit (997)
• Indonesia
28 May 07
It's complicated problem babe...I can feel what you felt if I were you.Maybe I just can advise you that everything done must be faced with positive in thinking although you got some bad things happened.In each problem contains a message that God want you know it and understand it and must be repaired for next time
I hope it can help you even a little.
Some times I can controlled my self but some times I can't controlled my self,My lecturer ever said that no body fully understand himself/herself I can explain you why because I didn't ask hm why....Some times I do something that myself not want to do it,it's look like a conflict inside my think...
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@Luckywuyan (360)
• China
29 May 07
thank you for response,my dear friend.
so that is to say ,we should keep a positive atitude ,right?
ok, i got it .
best wishes for you ,my dear friend.
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@miaolin (397)
• China
29 May 07
I don't think these things can prove you don't understand yourself.On the contrary,I do understand yourself,understand yourself more deeply.The things and your feeling just are the different aspects of you.In fact,I'm the same as you.I always meet such problem and the similar thoughts also will appear in my mind,but I don't think I misunderstand myself.The reason why I behave in that way is forced by the social pressure.If you want to survive in this world,you have to do something that you don't will to do.I think you are just a little over-reacted.
@Luckywuyan (360)
• China
29 May 07
thank you for your sincere response,my friend.
i just want to do myself if i clearly know who i am and what i want to do .
to tell you the truth ,i really don't want to flatter others,i just want to do my own business withour being bothered ,but why i always do something that is contrary to my heart,i really can't understand.
anyway ,thank you so much ,my cute friend.
blessed be.
@rangics (1334)
• Philippines
28 May 07
I guess you've not overreacted, maybe you're just thinking too much. Calmn down friend. We sometimes have this confusion to ourself that we ended up thinking about it too much and so we think we are overreacting to the situation. It's better if we sort things out. Life is not unfair for whatever downfall we are experiencing right now, everything has its own reason. Just relax! What is taken away from you right will go back to you two times or more. Goodluck. Do not confuse yourself too much. ^_*
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@Luckywuyan (360)
• China
29 May 07
thank you so much ,my friend
maybe my thinking too much is the reason,
but you know ,my friend ,i really can not help thinking about it ,when so mach unlucky happened on me .
thank you again.
blessed be ,my friend.
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@rikki8 (392)
• Philippines
29 May 07
No I do not think you are over reacting. Just sit down and think for 5 minutes what kind of friends would you like to have. Write all of them down on a piece of paper. Then start thinking of the people you have around you and try to label them based on the criteria you wrote down. Then you will probably see which ones you may want to be closer and others a little far from. Acting friendly to your friends is your natural self. There are those who try to take advantage of these for many reasons, but I think because largely of you being a threat to them...they are getting 'insecured' about your personality or just you because you are what you are. Just stay that way but just try to understand yourself by thinking a bit more of what exactly you would like to be to yourself and to your friends.
@Luckywuyan (360)
• China
29 May 07
thank you so much for your sincere advice ,my dear friend.
i think INSECURED may be is the reason for them to leave me .
i will try to become better.
you know ,now ,changing is so difficult for me .
anyway ,my cute friend,thanks a lot
blessed be.
@FallenAngell (40)
• United States
29 May 07
I am the exact same way. I thought I knew myself, but now I found a friend that knows me better, I dont even have to speak and he knows what I am thinking. I didnt realize that I am so different then what I precieve. Some of it is that we are constantly going through changes. Alot has an effect on a person such as jobs,friends,relationships,school, they all affect our lives and slowly change us. We keep growing and learning what we like and dont like. But I understand where you are coming from!
@Luckywuyan (360)
• China
29 May 07
hahahah...
thank you ,my new lovely friend
and i understand where you are from too.
and maybe i changed by the life i have now .
now ,i feel so nervouse,because since i quitted my job ,i haven't got any news for my new one.
ok, thank you,anyway.
best wishes for you and your specially friend who knows you better than yourself.
@erielle (1280)
• United States
28 May 07
I don't think that it is possible for one to truly know themselves. I mean, some days I wake up in a glorius mood, feeling self confident and ready to start my day. Other times, I don't even want to get out of bed. It's all brain chemistry. It has nothing to do with knowing yourself. It's all about COPING with yourself. Its nearly impossible to know yourself.
@sreevasu (2717)
• India
29 May 07
I think I understands me well. Because it is me always talking to me except while sleeping. More over I think it would be better to understand oneself in understanding others. There are certain times others won't understand us or we won't understand others. So I would say first understand yourself then only you will understand others.
Thank you Wuyan.
@Zelmarq (12607)
• Cebu City, Philippines
29 May 07
well, I know you deserve it and at times like this we are either happy or sad but behind it we also feel good about it and just confused about our true feelings.
@sukumar794 (5040)
• Thiruvananthapuram, India
28 May 07
I do not claim that I understood myself fully well . At this age of mine , I carry a feeling that I lag much behind in many a things to which my familiarity is one of a bare minimum. Yes ! I have so many things yet to know and accumulate them to my person .
@reshadodo1905 (20)
• Egypt
28 May 07
most people dont understand themself some time i see my myself quiet girl. when i was angry i cant talk with any one when i talk i output from my feeling im very kind with any one i want to give him any thing he requested but most the people dont treat the same treatment
@forisuru (217)
• Sri Lanka
28 May 07
Yes..I think I undestand my self well.But my dear friend there are some times in our life that even we can't undestand our self about the things we are doing....Specially when we r in love with somebody....
Thanks
@maryannemax (12156)
• Sweden
28 May 07
i do know myself, too. but still there are times when i feel puzzled. haha. when it comes to love, we all seem to lose ourselves. or maybe, we just love a love that's true that's why we feel like we lose ourselves when inlove.
