what kind are you?
By arkaf61
@arkaf61 (10881)
Canada
May 27, 2007 11:10pm CST
When confronted with someone with a different opinion than mine I don't always try to change their mind. Most of the times I let it go. But sometimes it is important...
In a meeting at work, a suggestion that you find completely useless is going to be approved. You're listening to someone proposing it and you really need to let that person understand that it won't work...
Your child is telling you about a plan that you can see won't work and wants you to support it....
How do you get your point across? Do you start your sentence with " NO! Because...." or with " Yes, but.... " ?
Which one do you think brings best and faster results?
Startting with No! Because might get the person you want to get the point across to get defensive and not even hear you properly .
Going for Yes, but... can make the person thing that you are on their side.
What do you do ? what do you think is more effective?
I have always been more of a Yes, but person. It doesn't mean that I don't get results, just that I go about it in a slightly different way.
What about you ? How do you go about it?
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4 responses
@misheleen73 (6037)
• United States
28 May 07
I am more of a "you know" person. I let them finish and then say "you know, I was thinking and it doesn't really seem like that would work because.." or however else it needed to go. By saying "you know" it's kind of putting the idea into their head that they "do" know what I am saying and at the same time, not making them think I am really "for" their idea nor does it make them defensive off the bat. It usually works out well for me anyway...LOL
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@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
29 May 07
I go for yes to as it is a lot easier at times because the Person will argue anyway But I make them think about things the way I put it across lol
I have done this a lot of times with my Kids to when they thought they where right and it worked every time
@yanjiaren (9031)
•
28 May 07
Yes I am more like you lol, what I like to do is give them more diverse options to choose from so they can at least make an informed choice before sticking to one self opinionated way of doing things. Even with my Jem Invest biz, I am always listening to the viewpoints of my members and I see that their imput has made me introduce new and exciting possibilities and has expanded my way of thinking. So to have ideas and be open to suggestions is a nice way to be.. I hope my Son can grow up with making informed choices.
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@kmdvmd (357)
• India
28 May 07
people dont have much time to convince otheres so most of the time they let it go,it is fair but some times othere people take it as a sign of coweredness or an escape from the truth,if this condition is prolonged then it would be converted in to fight or violence.that is very dangerous.
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