What We should prefer first "Lover" or "Parents" ????
By sunillangeh
@sunillangeh (64)
India
May 28, 2007 5:00am CST
Hi friends, as we knows that there is a common condition in our life that can come at any time Like:- One side u have a G/f (Lover)by mean u r going to make him ur lifepartner,,,,,and ,,,on the other hand, his / her or ur parents are not agree for that bcoz of any reason like caste(mostly the main reason),,or anyother.
What would u like to prefer,,or ,,what should be our next step in this condition...
Plz give ut suggestion or advice...we are waitin for ur reply
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7 responses
@magica (3707)
• Bulgaria
28 May 07
Lover. But in fact i will do my best to understand why i must make this choice.I really need very good reasons to do it. Theese relations are different and there is no need one of them to be prevalent and to control the other.
@sunillangeh (64)
• India
28 May 07
thanks dear for reply, but u didn't write , why we should go firstly for lover, plz give apposite respose, as u knows it a complicated situation of our life....
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@moumitamazumder (817)
• India
30 May 07
Well this same situation was in my life 2 years back. At that time I thought it and took decision with a cool mind. I then took the side of my parents. Technically my lover will not die, if I bychance leave him, but my parents may really die, if I leave them. Then I told and tried to convince my parents, that my choice is not that bad, and they can rely upon me, and can test my choice. And if they find my choice really bad, they can take decisions for me. I was confident that they will appreciate my choice. They did it. They met my love, and after the first meeting they were convinced that, he is a nice guy. Now we are engaged, and hope to marry soon. Never make your parents unhappy. It's their blessings afterall that helps you face life steadily. Lol.
@moumitamazumder (817)
• India
31 May 07
I don't know what to say you. Your situation is much more tough than it was in my case. The only thing you can do is, go to the girl's house, and talk straight to her parents. I know it will not be easy, but you need to gather the courage. If her parenst becomes convinced, that inspite of the caste difference, you are still a bold personality, and are not afraid to face the truth, then they will automtically understand that you are a good guy.
@sunillangeh (64)
• India
31 May 07
Thanks for reply,seriously i was waiting for ur reply,thnx again,whatever u r saying, max. of that i have done, actually her parents knows me from last 6 yrs, i have a good relation with them, i m too far from my home so last month i made a phone call to her mother and she was saying that u r a good guy, u have all the qualities, i like u, but bcoz of cast it is very difficult for us,if u had same cast definatelly we do this.....
so plz tell me what should i do(waiting)
@sunillangeh (64)
• India
30 May 07
Thanks a lot dear,May God fulfill ur all desires that u both deserve, u r so lucky person, bcoz it rear happen whatever happned with u and now ur family and lover both also including u are happy, i m also facing the same situation, plz suggest, my situation is too much typical, if i leave my love definately she will die, and if i marry with her, Her parents saying that they shall be die. Bco'z they have upper cast...plz reply,,what should i do...
@ArienKing (4647)
• India
28 May 07
to whom i love or choose as my partner will be the one who has some good respect for elders, one who values them...i can only show my love to the girl who value both parents ( mine and her)
@ArienKing (4647)
• India
28 May 07
Its the same point...as u have just now stated that if she has all qualities and equal respect for parents, then she shud be knowing that, the first priority will stil be my parents...and she should respect this thinking
@sunillangeh (64)
• India
28 May 07
relly i appreciate ur comments on this topic,,but the condition is that , to whome u love has every quality, intelligent and she knows how to respect others,,then what will u do if they r at the same point in front of u,,what will u do or will u use some other alternative or solution fot this problem..?????
@ArienKing (4647)
• India
28 May 07
Parents are my first priority...I love my parents even though they anger me at times. After all, I do owe them...every bit of my life...they brought me to this world and gave all comfort of life...secondly, i will choose a partner who show the same or more respect to my parents as well as her own...this is a prime duty of children to place parents on first priority for those who has to think twice to answer this question
@sunillangeh (64)
• India
28 May 07
thanks for a sweet reply dear,,but u r in little doubt,,our question is not related to choosing partner,,our question is that , if u love someone from the core of ur heart, then what will u do..if u have any alternative for this condition , u can discuss with us,,,
thnx
@Phlamingho (7825)
• Denmark
28 May 07
I don't think my parents would ever interfere in my life like that, but if they did I wouldn't care what they had to say, I would still be with the one I wanted. What could they do about it?
@sunillangeh (64)
• India
29 May 07
Thnaks for a great suggestion,,,but can u tell me plz what would u like to do if they both are equal for u...i m waiting for ur reply
@sleepylocket (380)
• Pakistan
31 May 07
well i think parents are great so i would prefer to my parents . we cannot find again aour parants if we lost them . and about lover i think there are alot of right and nice people who may have some love for me in her heart so i mean that we can find any lover but cannot make avery person as the parents...
@sunillangeh (64)
• India
5 Jun 07
Thanks for such a nice reply, i appretiate ur way of thinking, but we can't say anything in advance about this matter, just can wait for the sweet moments of our life which no body knows,take care,,bye
@kumarravi (145)
• India
28 May 07
In my view we should prefer first for Parents and then for Lover because without parents we are not there and up to this state our parents have crossed so many hardles and makeup ourselves to this stage. So first preference is to parents than lover.
@sunillangeh (64)
• India
29 May 07
thnaks a lot for replying,,as u have discussed very little words in ur response, so would u like to share some more idea's of ur's mind for this topic, if u can,,as i m waiting for ur reply,,reply soon,,take care.
