When He Loves His Job More than You

If my partner was hooked on work i wouldd set us goals at home so that he could enjoy his time with me whilst still striving to succeed at something. I would make sure that he knew that i was not going to be neglected that we got into the relationship together and if he neglected me for anything he would have some serious work to do at home. All of our decisions ought to be joint and couples should always find time for each other.

A workaholic is married to his job and very unlikely that he will change his attitude.

better he love the job than he love and involve with other woman... just love him the way he is. When he tired,.. he know he will comming home to us, woman.

i would want him to change, yes. and i will let him reflect on things-- if he's willing to make adjustments, if he still cares about how i feel. i will let him know how of his "mistress" is robbing us of opportunities and chances to be happy with each other. i will try to make him understand that, to say the least, i want us to reach a compromise.

nothing is diffucult to achieve if u try and that the other person is willing to learn and change,. I think it is necessary that the guy tell u how much he is attached to his jb and whether he is willing to change and give u equal if not more importance than his job before he commits. U too should be open and probably supportive toward him-coz u need to remember that he is doing it eventually for not only himself, but for u and ur kids.....Cheers

i know very well how it feels...all the weekends n holidays go for his job n he is hardly evr there with me or the baby...i donno what to do...i tried to talk with him he would nod n next week its the same....i made home as cozy as possible n made all the dishes he loves n what happened...he had a good meal n off to bed no time to talk...what else to do?

Nobody likes to be ignored, but i am also workacholic and cant judge my partner if do the same. Sometimes this shows problems in your relation and this is not just because of his work. In all cases a friendly and honest talking without blaming is o.k.

My bf is a real worlaholic, however so am I. We do set time away to sepnd time together and we have a rule that no matter what we always have to sleep at home =) So atleast we can hug everynight =)

Yes it is a tough time for u that he is busy with his work and u get ignored but it is not means that he totally forget u, if you had not forget him. The best thing is that encourage him for his work and his carrer that makes him to move towards you.For every step in his sucess every one needs care,support,emotions,that actually he want, which was lacking between both of u.The way he get devoted and work so that you can notice that you get ignored.Its true that he had not forget u ,actually he want something more in your relation that is understanding.

DUMP HIM....lol..Kidding aside, if the reason of focusing more on his job is because of financial stability and your future together, then that would be reasonable and valid enough. But if he took you for granted and never have some time with you then that wold be a different story.

Hi zandi458! Yeah, you are right. Fighting the battle with another woman is comparitavely easier than fighting a guy who is hoked to work. I can say this because i am addicted to work too and cannot keep my mind away from work.

Does he work 24 hours a day and 7 days in a week? He is probably doing it to earn more money and make life better for the family. probably what you could do is to get employment in his company so you work together, share experience and the first and foremost love. I think this does not only happen to men but women as well. some women hook to their jobs and have no time for men. don't you agree?

hm.. i would love it if he's willing to change.. but i wont force him.. i have to understand because he's doing all that because he wants the best for him and also ourselves..

Well, I am a workaholic it has caused alot of problems at home with the kids and in relationships. They put guilt trips on me to make me feel so bad that i do whatever they are wanting to do and I dont think that is fair. I enjoy working I have had two bad divorces and I have always had to take care of myself, maybe that is why I do it. There is one thing that I regret--spending time with my kids when they were little. There are times I can remember that i could have done things or went somewhere with them and i didnt because i was working. It is really starting to bother me and I talk to my girls about it they understand now but then they didnt. I think believe a workaholic can change but honestly I dont know how. If you find out please let me know. I dont want to lose everyone I love.

Work is worship. Men will work for the welfare of his nearest and dearest ones. If they dont become workoholic his folks has to lead a tough life.

i'd rather have a husband whose loyalty and dedication for work takes precedence over me and the family rather than, have one whose priority are his vices. at least, i know that whenever my husband gets unavailable it is because of his work. his work cannot take him away from the family. in fact, his earnings supports the family. vices a is different thing. it takes the husband away from the family including all the earnings. the husband becomes lying and difficult to deal with and live with. break up in marriages take place because of the proliferation of vices and womanizing.

I do not think that there is a way to change a workaholic. It is in his blood, and i am sure that it is somthing to do with his education. I know that only an extreme thing that happens to him, maybe could change his views and addiction to work. But it sure is frustrating. The first thing that usually happens to me, is that i can not figure how he pays more attention to work then to me. LOL. The second thing that happens is that i usually start to envy him, that he likes so much what he is doing and doing that with all of his heart. But there is also a possibility that it is a run away. That this is his way to cope with all of his problems. To Bury himself at work.

career over love? this is a tough one..well, i wont say that my boyfriend is a workaholic..but i respond to this because my boyfriend is away to work..he is currently out the country to find a living and this is really hard for me.. i mean, thinking about the situation.. it sometimes makes me think that he value his work over me or his family..because he is really smart and as i see it, if only he would wish too, he can find a decent job here in our country..but i dont really argue about this infront of him..i try to understand him..but anyway we are not married yet.. nor planning to marry..so as long as we are still in this girlfriend boyfriend state, guess i can permit him, but i cannot marry him with his work, because when i will be making my own family, i want my husband to be beside me everyday of my life..how corny it may sound!!hehe

It's hard to say. I think when a man spends lots of time in working, then you have to be understanding and do not nag to him a lot. Man doesn't like hearing lots of complaints. In fact, when a man spends most time in working, perhaps he wants to make more money and therefore the whole family can live better. The most common thing is man has to work hard, and his wife spends his money. Man may feel like a loser if he can't earn enough for his family. So I think woman shall be considerate. Try to talk to him and find some time to get together. Make a nice cozy home for your man and he will be glad to come back after work.

In my situation, my husband is the disgruntled one, always fighting me over my computer time. He thinks that I spend too much time on the Internet. He thinks I'm hooked on my work. Of course, he's right! And, I know it. But, what can I do? I love chatting on My Lot. He's a really great father to our little girl, and doesn't mind watching her while I'm working online. And, she gets to see more of him now that his schedule is flexible. And, I guess if I worked a little less on the Internet, I'd hog all of my husband's time, so she wouldn't get to see him so much. She wouldn't like that. My online obsession works for all of us. We all win. At least that's my point of view. If you asked him, I'm sure he'd say something different.