If someone cheats on you , does he/she really love you ?

I've never been cheated on so I'm not sure how I would react. If I found out through the grapevine that he cheated I would leave him without an ounce of regret. If he told me he cheated...I might be inclined to try and work it out, since he was at least sorry enough to admit to it and not apologize because he was caught. Though I would take a number of factors into account though.. how long we've been together, if we were in love, how he was treated me in the past, among a few other things. Though no, I do not believe a person can cheat and be in completely love.

I will have to say NO. I won't think that my partner is still loving me truly if he cheated me. Well, it's like I won't do that if I love my partner. I will probably feel that my partner is DIRTY if he be with someone else at the same time he be with me. I'll probably slap him if I found out that he cheated me and still saying 'I LOVE YOU'.

I was cheated on by a few of my exboyfriends. I did stay with them. Looking back on it I shouldn't have. They didn't deserve me. I don't believe the person loves you if they'll cheat on you. I'd rather them leave me than cheat on me.

I think it really depends on a lot of factors as to whether or not they really love you. For one, it's rather easy to get caught up in the moment. You don't have to be under the influence, it can happen to anyone, especially if you happen to let your guard down. I think it also depends on what they did and whether or not they realized it was wrong and made a point to stop it. If they made a point to tell you about it too speaks volumes, but I really think it also depends on how long it took them to tell you and whether or not they were being honest about it. Everyone feels different about their relationship and relationship boundaries so I think that really tells a person whether or not they should stick with someone after they've cheated. Some people just don't have self control either, so they find it hard to stop themselves from cheating on their partner even if they do love them. Other's use cheating as a way to get out of a relationship they no longer want to be in for whatever reason. I think trusting your intution as to why they did it will really tell you whether or not they truly care for you.

For me, he doesn't really love me if he cheats. Infedility is definitely a sign of untruthfulness for me. I think i'm close minded when in comes to that.

For me, I think they do love you but I think they are just exploring and trying to find out if you are really the right one for them.

Honestly I couldent stay with someone who cheated on me at all. I am gratefull in many ways that my husband is totally devoted to me. The thing s if someone is in an open relationship then it is not considered cheating and everyone knows about everyone. If you think you are going to cheat in any way then you might want to consider being in an open relationship that way there are no hard feelings and you can have your cake and eat it too.

When trust is broken it is very hard to repair. However, people do make mistakes. For those who can find forgivenes and understanding in their heart, they will learn that a relationship most likely has far more value in it, than to justify throwing it away because one partner made a bad choice. You will not know if it is a one time failing unless the person is given a chance to begin again. For the realtionship to heal properly, the offended person cannot continually hold it over the head of the one who messed up. It's often hard to see, but the truth is that there is blame on both sides, and what is best for both is to forgive and continue to grow together. Many choose not to.

I would have to agree with MelodyRhapsodical. Okay, only sort of. If i found out my wife cheated? Well, first they'd have to find the guys body. and then, well, i guess it would depend on the situation. But for the most part, i would say that it would be over. Trust is such an integral part of a relationship, that to be cheated on, would ruin that. It would always be there in the back of your head, what that other person did. When we got married, the vows were only for each other. to cheat with someone, to me, is not only physical, but emotional as well. And that's something that would be too hard to forgive.

I have been cheated on and I really tried to move past it and forgive but i couldnt and we broke it off. I would not even try to forgive if it happened again. I do not think that u cheat if u really love your partner. Coz if u love - you respect and to cheat is very disrespectful!

I find it really hard to say if those who really cheated their partners really love them less or not at all. I can only say from my point of view and from my own experience. I can't really find it in me to ever cheat or be unfaithful to someone that I really love no matter how great maybe the temptation. I am actually speaking from experience. There was a time that I have become bored or find my relationship with my husband really unexciting and here comes another guy who seems to show me such interest even if I am married. However, no matter how attracted I was and how tempted I was, I just can't find it in me to throw caution and my conscience to the winds and have that blast of an affair. I thought hard of doing it mind you, but I just can't because I just can't bear to hurt my husband and my children. I can't even face my safe in the mirror for thinking about it, how much more really doing it. In my own way, I could really say that I did truly loved my husband and my family because I couldn't bear hurting them. In the end, its a matter of choice and a decision to honor my vows in marriage.

if a person cheated on you....i dont think he do love you truly. i believe that if a person loves another truly he/she will never be tempted to look or be invovlve with another person. when i love a person i always feel satisfied and complete, you only look if youre unsatisfied. Also if the person loves you truly he/she will always think of not hurting his/her loved one.

Well i dont think any person can give an excuse for cheating on his/her partner....there is absolutely no space for cheating if you really love someone.... I believe if someone is cheating on you it was either an attraction in the first place...he/she never loved you...and if they still give their prblems for cheating on..one should not accept them back in their life... I dont think a person who has ceated you once can be reliable and worth of your trust again...maybe some cases can be exceptional...but if someone is cheating on you..you should not look back towards that person...he should be considered as a past and your life should continue... Dont make yourself feel bad for something you have not done...i am strongly against cheating someone or just playing with the feelings of someone...:-)

My first husband cheated on me and I left. It was hard for me to find the trust again. I have never cheated and truely believe you wouldnt if you were happy. I took it as a sign our time was up and left. I would do the same in a heart beat. Its something that never really goes away and I believe it would be on my mind. My first husband cheated a number of times and kept saying he loved me.

yaa. and that was ultimate i think. There is a guy whom I met at my workplace. Initially we were just friends. Became good friends with the passage of time.He used to share all his secrets with me. After few months he proposed me.I only had feelings of a friend. I communicated this to him.He still kept on persuing.In the mean time he used to behave with me like his GF. I left that city and was happy to be just friends. He started avoiding me.After some time I came to know at the time he proposed me, he was in constant relationship with another girl. Now I think may be I took the right decission. But whatever may be, he chaeted me and my feelings.

I have never been cheated on and my first instinct was to say "no they do not love you". However, After some deep thought I think that that may not be the truth. We all make wrong decisions in our life. I am not saying it is ok and I am not saying that I could forgive someone for cheating on me but I do know a few couples who cheated and I also know that they do and did love each other. So I will not be the first to cast the stone at the person who cheats. I think that each case is an individual case with different people and reasons in each. I hope I never have to find out what I would do in this case. I wont be the one to judge them though

I believe a real loving relationship carries with it a commitment to be faithful to each other. Sure, temptations abound, but if one is strongly committed to his/her partner, he/she would not give in to temptation. No, I don't think somebody can truly say that he loves you AND cheat on you.

I stayed once...and when it happened in another relationship, I ended the relationship. I don't think that a cheater is capable of loving anyone but himself or herself, really. You can come up with a million reasons for cheating-but there still isn't one excuse. Cheating destroys trust; without which, it's impossible to have a good relationship.

maybe sametimes it's just the only way to do with my partner.because i still love her and i just made a mistake .i don't want this mistake to let the relationship broken.

One thing is for sure... the person who cheated on you DOESNT RESPECT YOU. :-)